What things do you find rude that others don’t seem to?

[TheRaccoon]

I’ll go first:

• People who season food before they’ve tried it
• People who take ages to text back (or don’t at all)
• People who are late for no reason

Too many wants there; Freudian slip, eh?

Likewise people who insist that thanking the waiter/waitress is unnecessary, for similar class-based reasons.

I have never, ever met anyone who thinks this, and I know plenty of posh people. Thanking wait staff is basic good manners, whatever one’s background.

people who wear hats indoors- in homes rather than public places.

People who not only don't come to the table as soon as I call them, so the food I have spent time making gets cold, often because they are gaming, or who see my announcement as the cue to start jobs in the Kitchen, like unloading the dishwasher. I think it's sooo rude and disrespectful. It had to be explained to my BF.

When I’m having a conversation with someone and their child interrupts and instead of telling them to wait and not interrupt, they immediately cut you off to speak to the child. Teach your child some manners.

[quote PandemicPalava]@CutToChase so many of you feel like this!

Just to present the introvert perspective, well mine at least, I don't always speak because I am crap in groups and can't work out when to interject, how to join in. The social awkwardness means I miss the gap in conversation and start to panic inside. I start to feel like I can't enjoy the conversation properly as I am concentrating so hard to listen while panicking and also trying to figure out how to join in. This usually ends in me frozen and wishing I wasn't there. I also feel more comfortable with people who don't talk so much so the gaps are bigger for me to attempt to speak in. Introverts a lot of the time don't know how to do small talk but I bet, get into a meaty honest conversation and you won't shut us up [/quote]
Exactly the same here!

I dont know how to tag people sorry.
To the lady who wants to be invited to couples dinners if only people would be kind enough to ask it would be better for everyone.
You - yes please still include me.
Me- thanks but no as it makes me feel awkward but please continue to invite me to the girls nights/ baby showers etc.

That's awful if they think its because you would be interested in the Male of the couple. How hurtful.

Eating in the supermarket, while shopping. Have some self-control. It's vile whether it's adults or children (distract them with some actual conversation like a proper parent instead.)

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100% People bringing uninvited people to a "do", or even asking you if they can bring someone who isn't on the invitation and isn't known to you, or a friend of the host (except some very exceptional circumstance).

Not so much a problem in the winter, but car drivers, (nearly always male), who think it's their god-given right to impose their deafening music, with the widows down, on everyone in the vicinity. Such absolute bloody arrogance, and usually crap music. I just don't know what you can do about it though.

when you're scanning things at the self service checkout and the attendant is absolutely breathing down your neck to make sure you're not stealing. had a very overzealous older lady today who actually TOOK MY RECEIPT OUT OF MY HAND to make sure i'd paid for my carrier bag (i had.) i mean it's not like i'm some teenager in a hoodie, im 32 weeks pregnant ffs

I don't know why but I get really annoyed if my OH falls asleep before me 😂... I honestly have no idea why that is
Ohh and it's both my sons birthdays Christmas Day/ 23rd December and I have friends who give them a birthday/Christmas gift!.. I mean I'm grateful that they get a gift at all but I can't help but feel slightly sad that they miss out on their birthdays because of Christmas

The assumption held by some middle and upper class people that their way of doing everything is the only correct way. Even though they’re in the minority.

There are countless arbitrary rules, from the “correct” way to wrap presents to the “correct” way to eat fruit or the “correct” planting layout for your garden flowers. There are objects that you’re not allowed to own (e.g. drinks coasters) and many words you’re not allowed to say, (e.g. toilet or settee). It must be exhausting.

People who, in the middle of a conversation with me, get out their phone and start skimming facebook and posting answers to questions from strangers.

People are getting confused about what it means to be an introvert. You’re not socially awkward because you’re an introvert and you’re not loud and chatty because you’re an extrovert. The distinction is around how you recharge - introverts need time alone to refresh, extroverts recharge through being around others.

I am extremely smooth in social situations and cover conversational gaps easily. I’m also almost off the scale for introversion. Being able to converse well and show interest in others is a function of empathy and communication skills.

Being loud and chatty (typically about oneself) is not a virtue either.

Cards or letter addressed to a woman using the initial of her husband. Gives me the rage.

Yes to lateness. It seems I am in a minority though as almost everyone I know is always late. I am never late (unless there is some sort of emergency). I'm really good with time planning though so maybe it's that and it's clearly an unsual trait! Being late makes me agitated - dh is never too bothered so I'm always telling him to hurry up.

Complete strangers starting emails with ‘hey’. I’ve noticed it a lot in the past year and it gets right on my tits.

People who arrive early. Do they have any idea how much distress this causes in the latecomer community?

People who think their kids are welcome at a party for adults.

@mena51

When somebody explains something and then asks: 'Do you understand what I mean?' I find it so rude.

i don't understand this one, no pun untended ! why would that be rude ?

People who don’t say please. My boss is like this. Just barks out orders in an email. He can fuck off, the utter knob. No-one may be reading this post and no-one may care, but it just feels so liberating to type it. I can’t stand him, the twat!!

@Whererainfalls

When you go to visit someone and they don't offer you a drink within the first five or ten minutes of you being there.

I'm Irish, it's the done thing.

@Whererainfalls yes! Drink and some food, from biscuits to a bowl of stew if it's on haha!

Not replying to party invitations.
(Not such a problem this year lol)
Bloody rude though!
How long does it take to send a text, or pop a note in the post, or say "hello, yes, we'd love to come" in the school playground?

People who do not know me who use my first name without asking permission. I am in my 70s and would never have dreamed of doing this with an older person when I was younger.

People who ask impertinent personal questions (for example about my income) when I dont at all know them - my standard reply. "I dont mind you asking impertinent personal questions so long as you dont mind my not answering"

Pretty much a conversation stopper.

People who ask for my phone number when I have no possible reason for them to ring me - eg neighbours.

When people open gifts before the date! And message to say ohhh thanks for xxx.. I always feel like saying wrap it back up that's for your birthday in 2 days.

Gives me the rage, just wait 😂

Oh, and being late.
I don't mean just once, I mean when you do it All. The. Time.
So rude.
You realise everyone else has to get ready too, and also there's a person at the other end waiting at so and so place getting increasingly pissed off with you?!
Or even worse, when your constant being late makes the other person being late for whatever it is they are going to

People who steam up to junctions when you’re driving along the road and you don’t know whether they are planning to actually stop or not so they make you put your foot on the break.

Just smacks of impatience it drives me mad!