What things do you find rude that others don’t seem to?

[TheRaccoon]

I’ll go first:

• People who season food before they’ve tried it
• People who take ages to text back (or don’t at all)
• People who are late for no reason

Not com

Not coming to the table promptly when you've cooked and served a meal for them. Like deciding that's the time to go to the loo, start texting, generally arsing around, delaying, generallly being absent for a long while after I've told them food is ready. Really pisses me off

Love the notice about introverts and how they don’t put enough effort in convos.
I am one and sometimes extroverts just won’t stay quiet for a minute, they think it’s wrong? So that’s why I don’t even bother to start or ‘interrupt’ any conversation...
But glad to hear they would love some input , I’ll definitely try that next time I am with a group xx

@Yearsyonder

I have not served a meal in living memory which has failed to prompt a loo trip for DH.

Even if it is only a very short time since the last one.

Irritating beyond belief especially because it will always delay things even when I say ‘lunch in 5’ when actually it will be 10...,,,,,

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Again, it's a neurotypical world.

Introverts and extroverts make up people and they are being themselves. Yet, at a social situation, it is the introvert that has to change and that what is expected in society. That is the neurotypical world. Spending your whole life trying to fit in.

If you are naturally a extrovert, then why do you see it as 'carrying' the conversation when you are just being yourself?

You don't know if that person has ASD and just saying hello to you or turning up is a massive achievement.

Why cant introverts go to weddings, because they aren't conforming enough to fit in so should stay home? Some of these comments are awful.

There is only inclusivity in this world when someone with autism is fitting in. As soon as they show any autism that's not 'socially correct' then suddenly inclusivity is just a word.

There is rudeness and there is also some need for acceptance.
Members of the public are so damn judgemental

People who don’t say thank you on road crossings. No one else gets bothered by this but it honestly infuriates me so much I go blue! 😂

Piffle.

If you know someone has a condition then of course you make allowances and understand that conversation is a monumental effort or even an impossibility. Having a dd with selective mutism, I know all about this.

HOWEVER what is rude is when people - including some posters on here - display a belligerent “why should I?” stance about conversation and say that they are above small talk. Yeah, like the other person just luurrrves it.

For a person who is just shy or quiet, replying to a question and then returning the same question is good manners , not a surrendering of principles.

But how do you know the difference??

You ask people Iif they have a condition to make allowances?
Course you don't.

And who decided good manners that you must speak when spoken to?
A neurotypical world.
If someone doesn't want small talk, don't force them. Maybe you are the rude one.

Think I've got a solution for social gatherings. Three tables/areas.

First one for the really extroverted extroverts- the ones who love talking and don't think it's a hardship to keep talking, you can always stick a few of the really introverted introverts here as they'll just listen and the extroverts will have an audience. Second table for the mild introverts and those who sit somewhere in between (but don't resent the introverts) - they can talk a bit, but also sit in comfortable silence. Third table for the ones who feel that introverts are rude and that everyone should take equal part in conversations, then they can divide the labour out between themselves, maybe they could have stopwatches.

Yep. How hard is this, “Have you come far?” “No, just from Crapville. Have you come far?”

There! Not that hard.

We are not talking about people who have a medical condition. We are talking about can’t be arsed people.

There could be a fourth table for those who say they are introverts but actually like talking about their own interests but nobody else’s. There are a few on this thread and actually you could have a banner above that table saying “Rude People”.

People who don't understand how conversations work, who just ask you a bunch of random questions.

Eat it whilst it’s hot I would say! And if it’s a salad and you’re starving I’d say go for it! No need to wait I think the proper way would be it’s up to the person who cooked it. My in laws wait and I’m fine with that.

I'm an extrovert at work but an introvert socially. Absolutely detest socialising in large groups, even with people I know. Weddings are my idea of hell, one of the positive side effects of covid is having 3 postponed this year. That said I do make the effort and don't expect others to do all the leg work talking wise, that is rude. Takes me about 3 days to recover from a wedding though!

MsTSwift

“Well exactly June. If you are stuck next to a random and you make polite conversation and they blank you it’s rude! Yes of course I would move on if i could but sometimes you are stuck! My fil is terrible for this just sits there. Exhausting. Yet if I am quiet as cba I get “are you ok?” 🙄. My role is to keep the conversation going it seems“

Not only this but it takes me (and I imagine even pretty confident people) a bit of courage to strike up a conversation. If the person I was trying to talk to just blanked me in return, or made it obvious that having a polite chat with me is so awful, it would severely embarrass me and massively dent my confidence.
But it appears that only the introverted feelings and comfort count.

People who don’t say thank you on road crossings. No one else gets bothered by this but it honestly infuriates me so much I go blue!

Do you mean zebra crossings? Cos cars aren't doing me a favour when they stop, they're supposed to stop which is why I don't say thank you. It feels unnatural not to thank them but I remind myself I have the right of way!

I was chatting to a new colleague one day and she mentioned her name wasn't ”anna” but was really ”maria”. I said, ”oh why’s that” and she told me I was out of order being so nosey!

awful noisy people who find it necessary to shout it to there mobile phone the whole way around the shop then still continue the conversation while at the till packing totally ignoring the poor cashier !pig ignorant arseholes

@Sojo88

People who don’t say thank you on road crossings. No one else gets bothered by this but it honestly infuriates me so much I go blue!

Do you mean zebra crossings? Cos cars aren't doing me a favour when they stop, they're supposed to stop which is why I don't say thank you. It feels unnatural not to thank them but I remind myself I have the right of way!

I thank people on zebras but not pelicans. There is an element of discretion with a zebra, but not a pelican, red light means stop. With a zebra did I put my foot on the crossing in time for them to stop safely?

@CatAndHisKit

Yoni on the subject of walking on pavements, just how stupid or arrogant is it to walk slowly as a couple/group on narrow pavement and block it to anyone behind you! And the worst version of this - when these idiots actually face people approaching them and STILL don't move sideways, but expect people to stop/disappear and make way, or push then out into the road!

Yes this! Especially at the moment with covid! Couples - you can really unglue your hips! It doesn't hurt.

And the idiots who walk along looking at their phone.

@MrsBa

Spelling my first name wrongly on a return email when they've already seen how it's spelt (it's also in my email address)

Sometimes people just misread things. I'd only get offended if you point it out and they keep doing it.

There is a little girl who had meningitis as a small child and is a gymnast now. She is called Harmonie, but I misread it as Hermione.

People who begin loading their shopping onto the conveyor belt at the supermarket check out before I’ve finished putting mine on. Obviously not happening at present due to Covid queuing restrictions, but i find it really rude.

Also agree with people who never stop talking about money. Cringeworthy and lacking in class.

Pointing. Really rude in my book

Taking to me when I am on the ‘phone. I had a colleague who always did this. Same colleague used to ‘snatch’ rather than take when taking documents etc

@pigletpie2177

People starting an email with just my name when: A) they don't know me; B) they are being generally knobbish in the email; and C) I work in what is generally considered to be quite a formal job.

It gives me the rage. I don't mind if we've spoken before and they are being pleasant but I'd never go straight in with a first name on a professional email.

Also - totally agree with seasoning food before eating it. Especially if I made it!

@pigletpie2177

I’m the opposite of you, I hate it when anyone addresses me as Miss, Ms or Mrs (usually the wrong one too). I’ve worked in a variety of industries too. Would love to know what your formal industry is if you can without giving much away?

I find it top level snobbery in this day and age to address an email with a title first and then surname. Fine for customer services such as Sky sending me a welcome email or whatever but otherwise it’s the 21st century.

Dear FirstName is perfectly perfect for the first email.