What things do you find rude that others don’t seem to?

[TheRaccoon]

I’ll go first:

• People who season food before they’ve tried it
• People who take ages to text back (or don’t at all)
• People who are late for no reason

People who travel to the USA and go out to restaurants but don't tip as they 'don't believe in it' or 'couldn't afford it'.

Tight arses.

@IrmaFayLear

Modern ones:

People who continue talking on the phone whilst at the till. No, I don’t believe even 0.00000001% of offenders are arranging a vital operation.

People eating in public - ie on public transport/in the street. It’s disgusting. And, again, a minuscule proportion will have diabetes as an excuse. Diabetics I know would never dream of eating a smeary, smelly burger on a train.

Add to above eating on zoom calls. You are making me feel sick with your audio on and your jaws chomping.

People who only talk about themselves. Why do you think you are so fascinating? It is so ill-mannered and I feel as if I’m an interviewer.

It's so rude - the mobile one

People who bring every topic of conversation back to themselves. I don't mean the kind of experience-sharing we all do to some extent (well, maybe not the serious introverts), but those who instinctively steer every tiny anecdote, on whatever subject, back to their own hobby horses, whether that's their job, their kids or their relationship with their partner, and then they can hold forth ad nauseam as the unchallengeable expert on the subject.

I hate people who are early rather than late. I think it's much worse to arrive somewhere when you know that person won't be ready. Even worse is people who call round without checking first if it is OK.

@hollyandkit

People who say what instead of pardon. I know what is "proper" but it sounds so rude to me, like you're being barked at. My boss does it all the time, makes me want to scream

I think most people think this. So then actually it become the etiquette and what is actually rude. Regardless of what I 'proper'. I totally agree with you too what feels mega rude to me!

People who expect people to text back quickly. I text back in my own time. Stop demanding that I drop my priorities just because you've sent a text.

People from companies who don't know me, calling me by my first name when they've not been invited to. Overfamiliar and inappropriate.

I also hate it when they they ask how I am? Again I don't know you. I don't care how you are, and you are unlikely to give two hoots how I am so let's just deal with things on a professional basis shall we? Your attempt at rapport building is not building any rapport here. It's just annoying.

I'm a migrant so my name is not English. I hate it when locals can't be bothered to learn to pronounce it or spell it. It's so rude, it makes me feel like my name is too inferior that they can't be arsed to learn it.

People pointing out the thing they consider rude when the person doing it obviously doesn't (or doesn't realise it could be considered so). Usually embarrassing everyone within earshot.

Far ruder that the rude thing they were complaining about.

People getting pissy over who gets to use their name is so stuck up. As if somone has the audacity to use your name, the thing people call you! Such an old fashioned point if view. It's your fucking name, for calling you by!

I think it is rude not to wave a thank you after I've done someone a favour when I'm driving. Like, if I've let someone go first, or let them cut in front of me, a little wave or thumbs up to acknowledge the favour is only polite.

People who insist on waiting until all the food is out even though they've repeatedly been told not to wait, so that their food doesn't go cold.

In my family this has now been happening for almost 60 years...

People who fart and burp at my dinner table without caring - vulgar my awful SIL and MIL are the main offenders here.

@MotherFeeder

I've travelled a fair amount across various continents and I've never heard of leaving a tip for the cleaners of your hotel room.

i would have thought it was pretty standard the world over. to consider the often over-looked poorly paid people who keep thing running. i used to leave £5 or so under pillow, but then wondered if it might get gathered up unseen into the laundry load. so put it under lamp on bedside table, or tucked in corner/edge of mirror in bathroom.

Opening emails with name only. Whatever happened with the good old “Hi” or “Dear”...
It gives me the rage.

Also, variety of customer service places insisting on calling customers by first names. “Is it ok to call you Merry”? Who’s gonna say no to that? I’m not overly bothered but me 70+ year old mother doesn’t like to be called by her first name by complete strangers.

@Plussizejumpsuit

People getting pissy over who gets to use their name is so stuck up. As if somone has the audacity to use your name, the thing people call you! Such an old fashioned point if view. It's your fucking name, for calling you by!

but there are degrees of acquaintance, and a difference with social settings, where i choose to chat informally with people, and a business transaction. in the latter i do not choose to be informal, so do not presume to address me by my first name.

Yes @BabyLlamaZen even the USA and I've never tipped the hotel room cleaners. Waiters & taxi drivers (if they haven't taken the long route) I completely get but everyone else no

I hate lateness

But OP-taking ages to text back?? I am not beholden to my phone and If I busy then i'm not texting anyone. Ia ma entitled to NOT answer

People who shorten my name. I don’t like the short version, no one calls me by the short version. Please don’t call me that.

People who don’t say thank you if you hold the door open, let them out in traffic etc.

Phones on tables - anywhere in a social setting. Coffee shop, dining table, restaurant.

Children who don’t ask to leave the table, especially in someone else’s home.

Visitors who let their children run upstairs. In shoes.

People asking where i’m from.

Sorry @alexdgr8 this is the first ive heard of tipping hotel cleaners. I will most certainly ask all the extensive travellers I know (pre COVID of course) what the standard etiquette is

Mother It really is the norm...

@MotherFeeder

Sorry *@alexdgr8* this is the first ive heard of tipping hotel cleaners. I will most certainly ask all the extensive travellers I know (pre COVID of course) what the standard etiquette is

My parents always left a tip for the housekeeping staff in hotels when we went on holiday so I just grew up to always do that.

It’s never crossed my mind that not everybody does the same .

Alex I agree! I HATE it when a company calls me or I call them and they ask if they can call me by my first name or just start doing it.

They're obviously told to...but it's bad form.

Whoever, said, "Misery loves company" probably envisioned this very thread.