What things do you find rude that others don’t seem to?

[TheRaccoon]

I’ll go first:

• People who season food before they’ve tried it
• People who take ages to text back (or don’t at all)
• People who are late for no reason

I have a really weird one that annoys me. I think it is rude to say "you're welcome" to someone when you did something, off your own bat, that you think they should be grateful for and formally say thanks. If they didn't say it or you didn't hear thanks as they said it too low then you loudly saying "you're welcome" is the same as saying you are a rude asshole, which imo is ironically quite rude..

Also the “don’t mind” brigade. It’s not making life easier express a preference! Once went travelling with a “don’t mind” friend was about to throttle her by end of the trip!

@MsTSwift

Also the “don’t mind” brigade. It’s not making life easier express a preference! Once went travelling with a “don’t mind” friend was about to throttle her by end of the trip!

“Where shall we go for dinner?”

“Oh I don’t mind”

I now say “Lets go to your favourite place/get your favourite takeaway” and hes guaranteed to say “yay chinese” or similar.

People who turn up early

I can totally understand why others don't like it but I actually quite like it when people shorten my name (not if they gave me a solid nickname and never used the long version tho). I think it's quite friendly and shows they're comfortable with you, as it's not so formal.

People who never say thank you for gifts.
Completely blanking messages and never messaging back.
Burping out loud
Selling something that you have given them for free. If you get given something and you no longer want it you should pay it forward imo.

@Thecurtainsofdestiny

When someone texts suggesting meeting up and then ignores my response to their text.

İt wasn't me who initiated this, why act like I'm imposing now??

Yes, I hate that!!

Some of the innocuous things people find rude!

There are actually people who find others seasoning their own food rude? Confusing, fine. Annoying, so be it. But rude? How mean to judge others' innocent behaviours so harshly.

Live and let live, people. Makes me wonder how many uptight people I've pissed off without intention or awareness

To combine two already mentioned-
Answering messages on the phone when having coffee or lunch with me BUT not replying to me when I message them on other occasions.

People I don't know calling me by my first name (sales people on the phone, customers reading my name off my badge etc).

With the introvert/extrovert thing, experience has taught me people don't really want to listen to me (I'm boring at worst, odd at best), and I'd rather stay quiet than be embarrassed I'm so dull. I do talk to people and do active listening, but I try to keep them talking about themselves so I don't weird them out/bore them to death. 😆

Some of these are crazy!!!
Wtf?
How is asking someone to do something 'kindly' a command????
If they didn't say kindly, I'm sure people would find that rude too!

Do people really think it's rude if someone seasons their own food??? Does it matter?

This thread is bonkers.

@FortunesFave

And friends who make a date to meet up, then add other people to the invite without telling you. I have or friend who does this all the bloody time

YES! I know a LOVELY woman who does this. If she wasn't so bloody nice, I wouldn;t meet up with her.

I think she does it because she's genuinely thoughtful...she and I will have made a date to do something nice and then she will text me the day of the thing and say "Tara's coming too"

And she's asked Tara because Tara's having a hard time...and she thinks that will cheer her up...without considering that I avoid Tara because she talks about herself incessantly!

YES! A good friend of mine does this - there were definitely a couple of times I was struggling and looking forward to talking to her, and I'd turn up for our coffee and she'd have invited some random person along (not even a mutual friend) so I'd have to make polite, neutral conversation instead.

And she once invited a whole other set of people to something that was usually just a small group of us which really pissed off another friend, so much so that the whole thing actually fell apart.

I'm pretty sure she thought she wasn't being rude in either case though!

I also quite like people shortening my name it comes across as friendly. You wouldn’t shorten a name of someone you detested.

My biggest bugbears are conversational:

• Interrupting / talking over someone;
• Guessing the end of sentences and being repeatedly wrong;
• Failing to listen when someone speaks to you (briefly, not at length) and not even noticing if they trail off part way through a sentence once they realise they are being ignored.

Nothing more clearly communicates a total lack of respect or utter self-absorption.

I work with someone who is a monster for all of this. I once had a farcical exchange with him that went something like:

Me: I think we need to get the figures...

Him: out by Monday?

Me: No. We need to get the figures...

Him: Balanced with the email we sent on Weds?

Me: No. The figures...

Him: Need to be reduced?

Me: ... No.

Him: Need to be increased?

Me:....... No.

Him: ... I'll just let you finish, shall I?

Good idea.

Salting food before tasting it says more about that persons palate than what your food tastes like. A Middle Eastern chef friend says that British people's paletes are not trained to taste carefully balanced flavours.

For me

When someone says 'I couldn't do your job', whatever kind of job it is. Well you're not so don't worry about it.

When you are eating something and someone says 'urgh I hate xyz'. Well, you're not eating it so don't worry about that, too!

@LaVitaPuoEsserePiuBella

Keeping the TV on all the time, even when you have visitors or are eating a meal

Being on the phone whilst eating with others

Saying, "Can I get a latte?" rather than "Please can I have/I'd like"

Continuing to speak on the phone whilst, for example, paying the bus driver or cashier

Oh yes, the 'can I get' 😤

Thecurtainsofdestiny

When someone texts suggesting meeting up and then ignores my response to their text.

İt wasn't me who initiated this, why act like I'm imposing now??

^^This^ with bells on! Hate it. I have a friend who always expects me to do the 'are we still on for tomorrow?' message.

Modern ones:

People who continue talking on the phone whilst at the till. No, I don’t believe even 0.00000001% of offenders are arranging a vital operation.

People eating in public - ie on public transport/in the street. It’s disgusting. And, again, a minuscule proportion will have diabetes as an excuse. Diabetics I know would never dream of eating a smeary, smelly burger on a train.

Add to above eating on zoom calls. You are making me feel sick with your audio on and your jaws chomping.

People who only talk about themselves. Why do you think you are so fascinating? It is so ill-mannered and I feel as if I’m an interviewer.

People who assume I'm a mrs I'm unsure why they do
Wether it's possible because I have a child

But you can have a child and still be a miss funnily enough

• possibly

Bloody loads of things it seems!

I find the vast majority of people rude, selfish and totally unaware or uncaring of their own surroundings or the effects their words/actions have on anyone or anything else.

There.

Cards or letter addressed to a woman using the initial of her husband. Gives me the rage.

My DH’s family do this and it drives me mental. I didn’t take his first name ffs!

People who think their pets are like children and you should treat them as such. Eg. Bring them when they visit your home

Yes. My cousin keeps angling to visit my mum but she knows they'll take the dog and she doesn't want it in her house. No doubt she's being the rude one because it's their "fur baby". No, it's not. It's an animal and kennels and doggy daycare were invented for a reason.

@TheRaccoon

Cards or letter addressed to a woman using the initial of her husband. Gives me the rage.

My DH’s family do this and it drives me mental. I didn’t take his first name ffs!

I had a discussion with DH about this recently. He couldn't see where I was coming from (obviously, being male). I have to confess I have done it through laziness but I completely see it's annoying and sexist.

This year I made a point of writing Mr S and Mrs T Smith, or just Sam and Teresa Smith.

People who are early, I find it unreasonably rude when you’ve planned for a certain time and wasn’t prepared for their arrival yet
Being late I don’t mind so much as long as it isn’t cutting into any other plans and it wasn’t on purpose