What things do you find rude that others don’t seem to?

[TheRaccoon]

I’ll go first:

• People who season food before they’ve tried it
• People who take ages to text back (or don’t at all)
• People who are late for no reason

@Aisforharlot

When check out people just stare at you once everything's before through. Tell me how much it is!

Yes I think they think you can see their screen. Not all tills display the final price to the customer. They really should know that about their own till, even if it's their first day, as they should have received proper training.

@Iamthewombat I think you've hit the nail on the head! I don't like light hearted fun. I like a good interesting chat and avoid lots of social situations for this reason.

@Shaniac

Also the not eating until everyone gets their food is weird as fuck why would you sit and allow your food to go cold and ruin your meal so someone else can enjoy theirs hot?

Don't know. I wouldn't do it again - I was so annoyed with myself for not being assertive and not just saying "I am not going to wait for my soup to get cold so will start now". Especially as we paid for our own meals, it was a work thing, but not work-funded.

Agreed!@CutToChase It seems that some people feel that because they do not want to use their social skills they can do so without any else feeling awkward

@PoppyOppy

Relatively minor, but people who say “excuse me” instead of “excuse me please”

This. I’ve been told that ”excuse me” is correct but it sounds like a command, whereas adding ”please” makes it sound more like a request. Manners maketh man.

I've never really thought about this but it reminded me of the use of "kindly" which I feel sounds like a command.

Such as "kindly sign and return the attached form" rather than "please could you sign and return the attached form" or if you are a fuddyduddy lawyer "I should be grateful if you would sign and return..."

Phoning someone when you’re out in shops/getting in buses etc and keep stopping the conversation to be served in shops/pay the driver etc. Very rude.

When I was working, people who would shout at me across the room instead of coming to my desk to talk to me. I found it really rude. They'd never do it to someone more senior than them though.

People who stop and have conversations in the middle of the supermarket aisle so that every one else has to squeeze past them and their trolleys.

I've travelled a fair amount across various continents and I've never heard of leaving a tip for the cleaners of your hotel room.

If "I don't want to" were accepted as a reasonable reason not to attend these things, then I would certainly not go. As it is, unless I have a dying granny, communicable disease, or religious reason not to go, it's forced on me.

@MotherFeeder

I've travelled a fair amount across various continents and I've never heard of leaving a tip for the cleaners of your hotel room.

Usa?

And I hate when people call you constantly but never leave a text or voicemail.

@BanyLamaZen...Not just USA but all of the America's, most of Africa, som in East Asia and many in Europe

Kindly is the opposite of commanding you. MN makes me feel like whatever I do or say someone will be pissed off or take it as rudeness.

Re. Not starting eating I think it depends on the situation, if it's a restaurant and you don't know when the other meals will arrive, then it's daft not to start.

But if you are in a house I think it's incredibly rude to start eating before the person who has cooked and served up the meal has a chance to sit down, seems really disrespectful to me.

[quote Pukkatea]@MoltenLasagne fair enough, but also none of these people are Irish!

In that scenario, are you ever allowed to actually refuse or is that rude?[/quote]
I've found the best way is to take a biscuit, put it down and occasionally nibble at it. I don't think it's possible to refuse tea though!

Ending emails with ‘regards’ - always smacks of insincerity and disinterest to me.

Over hosting - people constantly trying to feed you, insisting you take biscuits etc when I don't bloody want one

I was offered some malt loaf (which I can't stand) once at friends, so I said, no thank you. Next thing I was given a plate with a huge slice on. I was stuck with this cake that I can't stand, didn't want and had already said no to... If manners is meant to make people feel comfortable, that was the exact opposite!

I left the cake on a side table in the end!

Socially awkward introvert with a confession here.. I can happily answer a question if asked, but then end up kicking myself for missing the moment to ask the “return” question.. I am genuinely working on it though.

Ending emails with ‘regards’ - always smacks of insincerity and disinterest to me

It's widely taken to mean ”fuck you” unless it's ”kind or kindest regards” grin]

Check out operators in shops who are busy having a conversation with another colleague while they serve you without so much as even a "hello" when you put your stuff down. Or a thank you or goodbye. Getting through the whole transaction without so much as even acknowledging your existence as a person. Urgh gets me every time.

Keeping the TV on all the time, even when you have visitors or are eating a meal

Being on the phone whilst eating with others

Saying, "Can I get a latte?" rather than "Please can I have/I'd like"

Continuing to speak on the phone whilst, for example, paying the bus driver or cashier

People who 'pop by' - hate this. Why would I be happy to see you if you haven't arranged before ???

People who think their pets are like children and you should treat them as such. Eg. Bring them when they visit your home.

People who are late. So rude.

When someone texts suggesting meeting up and then ignores my response to their text.

İt wasn't me who initiated this, why act like I'm imposing now??

Oh yes BakedTattie people who can’t make a decision are so infuriating. My sister in law always, always says “ I don’t mind”
I’ve heard people say that perhaps it’s because she doesn’t want to offend, but surely it’s not that hard? I always feel as if I’m a bossy boots when I end up always making the decisions.