AIBU - I've cancelled Christmas

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This morning I cancelled our Christmas plans. I won't go into the outing family dynamics of who was invited but I can say that I was railroaded into doing Christmas lunch once again because of other peoples laziness and reluctance to put their hand in their deep pockets.

I've just had enough. I have a bag of shit going on in my life right now and we are neighbouring a hotspot that will soon spread into where I live. No one cares about bringing Covid into my house so now I am putting my foot down and have said NO. The shit will hit the fan and I will be persona non grata but I am overwhelmed at the moment and no one gives a shit about my MH or my nuclear family's Christmas and I have had enough.

Apparently, they are very upset. I am very upset about always carrying the load for everyone else and that I was put in a position of having 5 extra people come over to my house when I only invited 2 of them.

WIBU

Sorry, posted too soon.

And add to that...

.....and someone else is doing all the cleaning, shopping for presents and food, cooking and cleaning up for 3 days afterwards.

Well done! Protect your health and sanity and have a nice relaxed Christmas!

It's really good to read about someone who is standing up to CFs. If I were in your position, I couldn't find it in me to give two hoots about how upset they are - they don't care about how upset you might be at the prospect of working like a slave for them and risking covid into the bargain.

Good for you! I have been in a similar position in the past and sort of am now as we are expected to meet up as a big family group on Boxing Day in an area that should be Tier 3 due to the high infection rate and I just don’t think it’s safe. The relatives in question are on my husband’s side and I know I will look like an unsociable grinch if I cancel. You have done the right thing for yourself and your immediate family - hold firm!

Good for you.

YANBU. I've been railroaded into that type of Christmas extravaganza before and it was a nightmare. Never again.

Good for you! Have a wonderful Christmas!

Stand fast. Hold firm. Can you mute any incoming from the disinvited or their flying monkeys?

Well done for standing up for yourself!

Growing up, my mum always refused to give in to situations like this and it set a great example for me.

Good for you. Enjoy your quiet Christmas with the people you want

@gingergran

This year is a weird one for celebrating holidays. Other religions haven’t been able to celebrate with their families as they would usually. There has been no Pesach, Jewish New Year, Ramadan, Eid or Diwali festivities so why should Christmas be any different.

Do what suits and your family and maybe you will find it is the start of a new tradition rather than getting together with people you wouldn’t otherwise see

There was no Easter either - the most important and holy festival for Christians.

OP I hope you feel liberated! Its a great feeling not to feel obliged anymore!

Well done !

Good for you,long overdue by the sound it it!

You've done the right thing.
You deserve a happy Christmas too.

Tough shit and good for you. About time you stopped putting up with this crap. They will just have to get on with it.

Good for you!

Hope you have a well deserved peaceful relaxing Christmas!

well done, hold firm, they don't matter more than you and your MH

Good for you! I hope you have a lovely peaceful festive season

Isn’t this a little late to be cancelling?

Good for you, enjoy your relaxed Christmas Day OP.

I have a pretty small family and was the only one with kids. So traditionally , Xmas was always here. But everyone pitched in .
This year , while we tried to figure out how to do it, we decided that everyone stays home.And all are looking forward to it. Suddenly realised how difficult it was to combine everyone's needs. Really , even in the past , it would have been nice to have dinner , then everyone go home ! Some people smoked so had to keep going outside , some people drank and got loud which made older people uncomfortable, kids wanted to watch their shows or play with toys.
Crazy that we thought we all had to stay all day just because it was the done thing.

Because of Covid , we are forced to have different Xmas and it may be the way forward. And anyone who doesn't like it , needs to stop relying on other peope to provide their entertainment.

@Trousersareoverrated

Isn’t this a little late to be cancelling?

No...

@Trousersareoverrated

Isn’t this a little late to be cancelling?

In what way? Still plenty of food in the shops, whats to rearrange? Not leaving the house? Such an effort.

Or do you mean people will be left to try argue out who's picking up the mantle of 'Christmas Doormat'? That may well take a bit longer to figure out...

You're better than me, OP. My Grandfather announced that he wasn't coming unless my youngest nephew was coming and expected me to cajole my sister. Our company wasn't good enough!

I've not told him that my sister has decided she's coming now.