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DH used my wrapping paper

141 replies

YippeeKayakOtherBuckets · 14/12/2020 20:37

And it’s tipped me over the fucking edge. I’m aware of how ridiculous that sounds.

DH buys and wraps the presents for his brothers and I do mine plus his SILs’ and MIL’s. Just the way it’s always been. I enjoy wrapping and am a bit of a ponce about it.

This year I had gorgeous, thick, expensive printed brown paper from Paperchase, contrasting tags and a selection of ribbon. I’ve done all of his gifts, the kids and most of my families but I’m still waiting for a couple of parcels.

While I was at work yesterday he wrapped his stuff. We’d had a conversation earlier in the week about there being tons of leftover wrap from previous years in the garage. I got back from work in the small hours.

Came down this morning to a pile of beautifully wrapped gifts for his brothers in MY paper. Leaving me with half a scrap.

He was SO pleased with himself for wrapping stuff before the eleventh hour (we are famously disorganised) and crowed about the prettiness of the paper. I picked up the remaining scrap and burst into tears. I now have the choice of ordering more (it took a week last time) or having to give family groups mismatched wrapping. Yes I can hear myself.

I think that this Christmas has been so weird already and we’ve missed out on so much that this was the straw that broke me. I can’t even look at him.

Please tell me about your ridiculous Christmas tantrums this year to make me feel better. I’m ok with not seeing family, I’m ok with no Father Christmas visits or illuminations or markets. I’m fucking fucked off that my wrapping paper has been used up.

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stella1know · 14/12/2020 20:40

YAnbu and You need to hide it next year he didn’t mean to upset and He doesn’t see the difference between the pretty stuff you chose with love and the more usual stuff. Try and let it fade. Hope you gets you choccies to compensate.

LadyFelsham · 14/12/2020 20:41

Leave the bastard but first de-nude his brothers' gifts.

TheYearOfSmallThings · 14/12/2020 20:42

Tell him he has to give you £45 for new wrapping paper.

Mumdiva99 · 14/12/2020 20:42

Send him out to get/find more. Maybe a John Lewis would have something nice if you don't actually have a paperchase nearby.

pinkbalconyrailing · 14/12/2020 20:42

christmas isn't christmas without an unreasonable tantrum. it's the law. Grin

I'm sure your relatives will be delighted with their presents no matter what wrapping paper it is in.

Iveputmyselfonthenaughtystep · 14/12/2020 20:43

I totally get it. Any little thing can tip me over the edge in a second at the moment.

Personally I'd suggest you get him to resolve this issue, since he caused it. A fixed and stony look and tell him you need the paper replaced.

lazyarse123 · 14/12/2020 20:43

You are being a bit unreasonable, but I think you know that. It's been a terrible year and your dh has spoilt a nice job you were looking forward to doing. Order some more and hope it comes.

Pipandmum · 14/12/2020 20:44

Life is too short to get stressed over wrapping paper.

DappledThings · 14/12/2020 20:44

I have never given any wrapping paper more than a second's thought. I have no idea if I have ever seen anything wrapped in expensive paper or noticed contrasting or matching tags or any other frills and furbelows.

So chances are your recipients won't either so it doesn't matter what paper you use. Does that help?!

HermioneWeasley · 14/12/2020 20:45

It’s wrapping paper. Wrapping paper. It’s really not worth a fall out over.

Circumlocutious · 14/12/2020 20:46

I thought you were going to say he used the beautiful wrapping paper but did a shit job of it. That would be infinitely worse.

Order more. It’ll arrive. You’ll be fine.

Iloveyoucaterpillar · 14/12/2020 20:46

Hah, I came on here to suggest the same @TheYearOfSmallThings

SuperCaliFragalistic · 14/12/2020 20:48

I know this is supposed to be lighthearted but you "burst into tears" over some wrapping paper? You sound very highly strung, is there something else going on? Why isn't he allowed to use the "good" stuff anyway?

Krampusasbabysitter · 14/12/2020 20:48

Unwrap his presents and try to use the paper. Yep, it calls for this degree of pettiness.

Ernieshere · 14/12/2020 20:48

Yanbu for admitting that you can be a ponce & for using the word ponce at all.

It reminded me of Withnail & I.

I love you just for that.

Get to poundland, buy their rather good plain brown wrapping paper (It is good) & spend DH leftover cash on some poncey perfume for yourself.

Flowers
stillfeelingmad · 14/12/2020 20:51

I live near a paper chase and will be near there tomorrow, feel free to DM maybe we can sort some sort of PayPal of money in exchange for posting of paper Grin

ThorFull · 14/12/2020 20:51

I totally get this. Years of strops and tantrums, I just say it like it is now.

I can’t be in the same room as my DH and while he’s wrapping. He’s truly awful at it. I can’t even bear to listen to him sellotaping. I do all the kids and family presents. (His all abroad so only my family)

The noise he made when he found my stash of chocolate for baking and kids presents was very concerning. I’ve told him to just not touch anything this year.

He’s planning and cooking Christmas dinner, but I want a full description of how he intends to prepare each component. I’ve helpfully annotated his list and bought all the sauces and stuffings I know he won’t think of.

I would cook it myself but by the 25th, I’m so over it all and just want to spend the day drinking. Not cooking a roast dinner.

VainAbigail · 14/12/2020 20:51

YABU but it is quite amusing!

🎁

CoolCatTaco · 14/12/2020 20:52

You sound a right ponce but actually that would piss me right off!

dudsville · 14/12/2020 20:52

I love this. It's so normal. You've done well to recognise the silly side of it as well as why it was meaningful to you. Happy christmas op. Here's to a brighter 2021.

PinkFlamingo888 · 14/12/2020 20:52

If you’re doing his SILs’ and he’s doing his brothers’ won’t you need to use the same paper in order for the family groups to match?

CoolCatTaco · 14/12/2020 20:53

Although I must admit, I'm quite partial to a bit of Christmas poncery.

GlowingOrb · 14/12/2020 20:55

My paper and ribbon is carefully selected with handmade tags. There is always a theme. I’m happy for DH to use my paper, it, and only if he provides me with an estimate of how much he needs and how many packages there are. He knows not to touch my stash without permission. He is always welcome to last years leftovers or to buy his own paper.

Your DH needs to be tied up in cheap ribbon and made to watch knock-off versions of Christmas movies.

MRC20 · 14/12/2020 20:57

I get it, you're not being unreasonable. It's been one thing after another this bloody year. You're allowed to be f**d off xx

HollyandIvyandallthingsYule · 14/12/2020 20:58

Flowers I understand why it matters. I also applaud you for admitting that you’re BU.

Have a look on Etsy for some beautiful replacement paper? Or, you could take this opportunity to go a totally different way and use wrapping fabrics in the Japanese style...

One suggestion for something you could use

And maybe something like this to accessorise?