DH used my wrapping paper

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And it’s tipped me over the fucking edge. I’m aware of how ridiculous that sounds.

DH buys and wraps the presents for his brothers and I do mine plus his SILs’ and MIL’s. Just the way it’s always been. I enjoy wrapping and am a bit of a ponce about it.

This year I had gorgeous, thick, expensive printed brown paper from Paperchase, contrasting tags and a selection of ribbon. I’ve done all of his gifts, the kids and most of my families but I’m still waiting for a couple of parcels.

While I was at work yesterday he wrapped his stuff. We’d had a conversation earlier in the week about there being tons of leftover wrap from previous years in the garage. I got back from work in the small hours.

Came down this morning to a pile of beautifully wrapped gifts for his brothers in MY paper. Leaving me with half a scrap.

He was SO pleased with himself for wrapping stuff before the eleventh hour (we are famously disorganised) and crowed about the prettiness of the paper. I picked up the remaining scrap and burst into tears. I now have the choice of ordering more (it took a week last time) or having to give family groups mismatched wrapping. Yes I can hear myself.

I think that this Christmas has been so weird already and we’ve missed out on so much that this was the straw that broke me. I can’t even look at him.

Please tell me about your ridiculous Christmas tantrums this year to make me feel better. I’m ok with not seeing family, I’m ok with no Father Christmas visits or illuminations or markets. I’m fucking fucked off that my wrapping paper has been used up.

Yanbu if a little dramatic about wrapping paper

But I'd be the same especially if it was the final straw and you'd had a long day at work

Which paper did you go for??? Paper chase do do lovely paper and bits.

@PinkFlamingo888

If you’re doing his SILs’ and he’s doing his brothers’ won’t you need to use the same paper in order for the family groups to match?

That’s what he said! Look, there’s a logic to it that I’m not prepared to go into. But it basically doesn’t matter if SIL&BIL 1&2 have mismatched gifts. It does matter (to me) if, say, my parents do, or his parents, or my middle sister. There’s a hierarchy.

My DH learned very early on in our relationship that I am precious about my wrapping paper.

He only does his when given permission by me and told exactly which he can and cannot use.

He has excelled himself this year though and as we have both made an effort to support smaller businesses due to this crappy year has had his all specially printed from Etsy.

I unexpectedly caught him craftily wrapping one of mine and was about to launch into a tirade about using MY paper when I noticed that it was actually nicer than mine. The swine!

Still it is very nice to know that after 28 years he can still surprise me and makes such an effort.

It was penguins on brown paper.

I completely get you. Part of Christmas for me is the pleasure of wrapping everything carefully in matching paper with matching tags and ribbons!

I totally get some people aren't into that and don't care about wrapping paper - and that's fine. But I do and I'd also be properly upset about it, even knowing that it's a terribly first world problem. So YANBU!

Thank you all, you have really lifted me this evening. I’m glad to be among fellow ponces and even the sensible few who told me not to be a twat.

Merry Christmas 🍷

I'd chop his twatting bollocks off.

I make DH go and get special wrapping paper for the presents he's bought for me. I do 99% of the Christmas stuff because I love it, but he can bloody well buy his own wrapping paper and not use mine

Nobody but you would be upset about this whole situation. I for one find wrapping so unnecessary anyway. I am not a kid and i dont care about the whole "unveiling" moment. I just want my present (if I'm getting one 😂)

And stop talking about a damn hierarchy! !!! Your parents are not more important than his brothers/sisters

Plus... your CRIED over Christmas paper... really? I want to cry not being able to spend my Christmas with any of my family as we have been separated for over 1.5 years now. (First by distance then covid )but here i am trying to keep it together. And you cry. Over brown paper with penguins on it...

I'd stuff the cardboard tube up his arse.

My DH terrible wrapper. We wrap our own families and have our own paper. He likes matching tags etc and has bought horrible paper from supermarket BUT it was on 3 for 2 so we have 3 rolls of paper and 3 pack of tags despite not needing that much. He only used one roll and has cheerily told me I can use the rest next year .

Haha you have given us such a laugh with your unreasonable tantrum. I totally get it and hope you can hook up with the kind PP for a bit of black market paper supply!

@YippeeKayakOtherBuckets

It was penguins on brown paper.

I have the exact same paper! Great minds. Planning on not finishing wrapping til later this week. I have one awkward present to go which needs receiver to be out of the house and a bit of help. Anyway if you can't get any more then I'd be happy to send my scraps your way xx

Dh went one worse once. He used Father Christmas's wrapping paper. He had to unwrap it and use other paper. He was rather confused about why Father Christmas had his own paper. Father Christmas had to find better hiding places for his paper in future years away from dh!

DHs family rip off their wrapping paper like a pack of ravening wolves, screw it up and Chuck it in the bin.

My family take ages unwrapping the gifts, admiring said wrapping abd then my Mum carefully folds it up and recycles it next year to wrap gifts.

Ergo my family get lovely wrapping and DHs family get the reduced shite I picked up at 10p a roll.

OP I feel your pain, YANBU

I’m with you OP! I love a beautiful wrapping paper and I love wrapping. My DP on the other hand ... quite frankly he doesn’t give a shit. He only has to wrap my presents. I’ll happily do the rest! One year he wrapped mine in birthday paper (my birthday is in the bloody summer) and I was so pissed off. It’s not like the two bags of wrapping paper are hard to find! They are stored next to each other for crying out loud

I feel your rage, it has to be matching, there is a hierarchy, it’s the law. 🎁🤶🏼🎄

I wish DH used all of the sodding wrapping paper and actually wrapped any presents apart from mine. One of my most loathed tasks ever and have been known in the past to actually bribe (read as ask nicely) a friend with supper and copious amounts of wine to wrap all of mine because I hate doing it so much!

How big are your parcels? How big are his parcels? Personally I would be unwrapping his and ironing the paper to get rid of creases, then re-using it to wrap mine. I am that petty. But my presents are always beautifully wrapped... and that matters to me.

Are you my mother? I was always getting told off for using her 'best' paper. Unfortunately I have to admit I have inherited the gift wrapping obsession a bit!

I get it, OP. You've gone out of your way to make something nice, it's a simple pleasure but he's just shat all over it. Especially if he often does such things, I can totally see how it tipped you over the edge.

For what it's worth, here is my similar story. I am very particular about the towels I take on holiday and have bought numerous luxury Turkish towels to have the pleasure of using something nice by the pool or at the beach. DP has used/abused every single one of them by using them for the gym (😡) and then bunging them into the wrong coloured wash. So now they're all tatty and grey. He asked me what I wanted for Xmas and couldn't understand why I wanted some new towels of my own preferably in a shade of pink that he wouldn't be caught dead with at the gym. It's the thoughtlessness and lack of understanding that I'm doing something nice for myself that's upsetting.

I found a piece of red China on the floor earlier - then realised l had not seen one of my fave Christmas ornaments. Asked DH if he knew where it was he said yeah l broke it. So l said right, when were you going to tell me? He then had the nerve to tell me it was in a stupid place (the mantelpiece!?!) and it only fell off because he was dusting the mirror as it obviously hadn't been done in ages! I said don't fucking twist it and we both live here do if you were that offended by the dusty mirror, why leave it so long to dust it? Proper pissed me off. He would rather stick his head in the fire than apologise which annoys me more than the ornament being broken

I would 100% unwrap his brothers gifts and use your wrapping paper. If its not reusable I would still unwrap them and bin it out of spite. Yanbu at all

YABU but I get you!

If you can't get any more in time, you could use plain brown paper and make origami Christmas trees or stars - there are lots of tutorials on YouTube. It won't be the same but it will "match".

Aw, sweetheart. I hear you. I would be gutted, too.

I had to go and have a good cry in the car on Sunday for various reasons but partly because DP was half an hour late home so I only got to the Xmas market as it was all closing up. I don't even like Xmas markets.

PMT might also have been involved.

I haven't cried, but my partner helps me wrap and I have about 10 rolls of different paper and checks with me umpteen times which paper he should use for which present (same as OP I wouldn't give mismatched paper!). My partner even shouts out to me and asks which paper he can use to wrap my presents in 🙈

I don't think you're being unreasonable, I just don't think all men understand our logic!x

Why don't you just buy enough wrapping paper for all the presents? It's really odd to only buy for yourself.