DH used my wrapping paper

[YippeeKayakOtherBuckets]

And it’s tipped me over the fucking edge. I’m aware of how ridiculous that sounds.

DH buys and wraps the presents for his brothers and I do mine plus his SILs’ and MIL’s. Just the way it’s always been. I enjoy wrapping and am a bit of a ponce about it.

This year I had gorgeous, thick, expensive printed brown paper from Paperchase, contrasting tags and a selection of ribbon. I’ve done all of his gifts, the kids and most of my families but I’m still waiting for a couple of parcels.

While I was at work yesterday he wrapped his stuff. We’d had a conversation earlier in the week about there being tons of leftover wrap from previous years in the garage. I got back from work in the small hours.

Came down this morning to a pile of beautifully wrapped gifts for his brothers in MY paper. Leaving me with half a scrap.

He was SO pleased with himself for wrapping stuff before the eleventh hour (we are famously disorganised) and crowed about the prettiness of the paper. I picked up the remaining scrap and burst into tears. I now have the choice of ordering more (it took a week last time) or having to give family groups mismatched wrapping. Yes I can hear myself.

I think that this Christmas has been so weird already and we’ve missed out on so much that this was the straw that broke me. I can’t even look at him.

Please tell me about your ridiculous Christmas tantrums this year to make me feel better. I’m ok with not seeing family, I’m ok with no Father Christmas visits or illuminations or markets. I’m fucking fucked off that my wrapping paper has been used up.

Oh I would be furious. I am a complete diva about Christmas wrapping, with co-ordinating rolls of wrapping paper (three types), matching and also contrasting tags, various ribbons and co-Ordinating bags. Add in a couple of boxes in the same colour theme.

DH only has to wrap my presents. Given how much I love presents to look beautiful, you’d think he could make an effort. But I would be jumping if he used my wrapping paper to make an effort with.

Years ago I bought some lovely Christmas cards to send to closest friends and family, there was a lovely illustration of people skating on a frozen pond, with a plastic screen with silver sequins behind that moved as you shook it around. Very pretty they were. My DP decided to use some of them, he fucked up an address of his friends and instead of crossing through his error, he screwed up the envelope and took another to send the card in. Therefore we still have one of these cards in the Christmas box that every year I see and renews my anger at his selfish action. Idiot.

yanbu, ltb, cf

I don't buy expensive paper, but I do make sure that each of my three children has their gifts wrapped with their 'own' paper , hubby took a roll I had kept by for one son and used it for all his nieces, so now two sons will have their present piles with their own paper and one some will have two types - I'm annoyed!

Oh and my ridiculous Christmas tantrum- I have all my kids presents wrapped under the tree already - dangerous game with a toddler but shes not soft and she knows she's not allowed to mess with them. Well I left "D"H to supervise her for maybe half an hour while cooking to find shes half unwrapped one of DD11s presents, CLEARLY showing what it was. I came in and she legged it so she knew full well what she was doing. H was sat there playing on his phone like a gorm so she obviously took her chance. I asked him why he wasn't watching her and went to grab the present but too late, DDs seen it and is all Oooooooooooo is that for me.

Furious with him and he thinks it was my fault for having them under the tree so won't even apologise. They've been there for a week and little DD hasn't touched them because I actually watch her instead of playing poker on my phone absolutely no use to anyone.

YABU. Amazon have wrapped all of my presents for me. The rest have been wrapped in a roll i got for Asda for a quid that could probably wrap my house.

@BlusteryLake

Why don't you just buy enough wrapping paper for all the presents? It's really odd to only buy for yourself.

I wondered this too. I can’t imagine doing two orders for paper but would just bulk order in the sales as paper only ends up in the recycling anyway.

DH can use what he likes, I just ask he wraps mine in the same paper so we don’t have to waste more resources on tags. I do the same for him and DC so I know what belongs to who once wrapped.

Right now i'd probably cry over something like this!! Buy some parcel paper and a stamp and ponce yourself silly. Tags to match and eco friendly to boot!!

@Ernieshere, haha what's your name, McFuck?

My family has been known to use gift boxes from stores that closed twenty years ago or even oil filter boxes with sale paper and tags. My father never wrapped a present in his life. Mother bought presents for his mother.
I bought Mother’s presents for Father from fourteen, after Mother gave me instructions. Father had credit cards for all the department stores, but would have felt more at ease in a French race car shop. He always wanted to buy a soup tureen, which reminded Mum of a chamber pot.
I only buy paper with stripes or similar so it is cut straight, and use clear rulers for the rest.

Mother was a terrible wrapper and absentminded tagger. One year, brotherErica received a Sindy doll, whilst I had racing gloves.

I think that this Christmas has been so weird already and we’ve missed out on so much that this was the straw that broke me.

I think you are a Camel that has name-changed.

Have to have naice paper with matching tags and ribbon and each person has their own. Learned from when DH helped with the wrapping used all of the same for the stockings and DD ended up with a couple of my gifts - she was aghast to find an Elton John CD in her stocking. Didn’t mind the Chanel though! He buys awful paper from the Co-op round the corner and says the M&S paper is a waste of money!

@binkyblinky

I don't buy expensive paper, but I do make sure that each of my three children has their gifts wrapped with their 'own' paper , hubby took a roll I had kept by for one son and used it for all his nieces, so now two sons will have their present piles with their own paper and one some will have two types - I'm annoyed!

I have the opposite problem - dh wraps the presents in the same (new) paper for the children.

It should be a total mish-mash of last year's recycled paper plus some new for the bigger presents - thus allowing the cycle to continue.

He sees beautifully co-ordinating parcels, I see a pile of dullness, but wrapping is his domain so I have no choice to grin and bear it.

Totally understand. I’d be pissed off too. It’s not just that it’s nice wrapping paper. It’s the fact that you were looking forward to using the luxury things you bought and giving beautifully wrapped gifts to your family. Makes the ritual all the more enjoyable.
On the other hand, it’s positive that your other half has done his wrapping early and that he shops for some of his family (my DH leaves everything to me), so it’s not like he did anything deliberately cruel. Take some time to be angry about it, though. You’re entitled to a Christmas meltdown!
It’s done now, so you need a solution that would make you happier. Could your OH go to Paperchase to buy replacement paper and tags for you? If you order it online, does it arrive in time? If so, that might be worth doing. Borrow your OH’s credit card for it. And next year, hide the good stuff!!!

I clicked YABU because obviously you know you are.

But I absolutely get it. It's 2020. You love wrapping presents. And FFS, you are the person who put in the effort to buy the lovely paper, and you do more than your fair share of the wrapping.

I reckon you just cite 2020 to him, tell him you're suffering, and explain he needs to step in and do something to pick up your Christmas mood.

I’d be annoyed too. It annoys me that DH doesn’t pay any attention to what he is using - I’ve had Christmas presents wrapped in birthday paper and vice versa. Shows a lack of care in my opinion and I’d be unwilling to let him use good quality, expensive paper if he doesn’t appreciate it.

Make him buy you some more lovely paper and tags.
And then tell him if he ever does that again he'll be getting the cheap paper shoved where the sun doesn't shine

That's really cheeky. I would have been furious.

You'd wrapped most of your presents? Sorry if this has already been said, but did he just think 'Cool, Kayak's done hers, I'll use this?'

If it makes you feel any better, some people prefer a low-key approach instead of obviously expensive 'luxury' wrapping and matchy bows etc. I MUCH prefer to see reused paper and a sweet homemade tag, I really do.

I sense that you're cross af, but you also know that YAB a bit U, and you'll be alright again soon

He should have bought his own bloody paper from Poundland. How very dare he!

I can’t even look at him.

Get a grip😂 if my partner said this to me because I used some wrapping paper I would honestly just laugh at him and tell him to get a life.

@fruitbrewhaha that is awful. He wasted an envelope! Madness

@lotusbell Thanks, That really made me laugh! I needed that.

"I called him a ponce. And now I'm calling you one. Ponce!"

Oh how I miss those days, watching Withnail, getting tanked up with my mates.

I totally get this. I think things are getting on top of everyone so the smallest thing can tip us over the edge.

I'm with you @YippeeKayakOtherBuckets!
When my DC were small and Santa came, I wrapped each one's presents in a different paper so I knew whose like they went in on Christmas eve (while drunk and tired )
The ONLY time DH ever "helped" he wrapped randomly and I had no idea what was in most of them and not enough of each paper to do them all again. I had to tear a hole in every one and write a tiny name on it, then spent Christmas morning praying none of the children would notice.
I was heartbroken at the time, even now, 13 years on, it rankles!