To ask what's the weirdest reason you have decided to not go on a second date with someone?

[SnowDogFarts]

Just imagine you are on a first date with someone and it's going good until...that moment they say or do something that instantly switches your brain to "nope."

I had a first date with someone after chatting to them for a few weeks. It was going well and we were walking through one of my favourite country parks (beautiful) with a takeaway coffee when he decided to dump the empty cup on the floor, when there were bins dotted around everywhere. And that was the moment right there that couldn't be undone. I guess I don't like litterbugs 🤷‍♀️

So, tell me, what was their crime? Big, small, weird, wonderful or other.

Another picked me up in a car that had a baby seat in the back. When I mentioned it he calmly said "Oh yes my cars in for a service so I'm using my wifes.

Ooh just thought of another one.

Went on a date with a lovely fella. Had a meal, all good. I went back for a coffee but made it clear that coffee was the only thing I was up for. I went into his kitchen for a glass of water and when I turned around, there he was in a red satin thong and nothing else. I made my excuses and left. Never saw him again.

He wanted to introduce me to his dog and see if she liked me. If she growled, there would be no second date. If she jumped up happily and licked, he could see me again.

I love dogs, so I'd most likely have loved her - but the whole way he posed this dealbreaker was enough to make me run!

We'd been talking online for ages, got on so well, and decided on a date. When we got there I realised it was a gay bar and he'd 'forgotten' to bring his wallet .

So so many....

I went for Thai with a guy Who it turned out just wanted to pump me for information about another bloke I briefly dated who has dated his ex wife. I made a speedy exit with my phone blowing up between the pair of them trying to have an argument through me....I barely knew either bloke and had no idea they knew each other!! I blocked them both!!

Another crap date, a Scottish bouncer who wanted to spent the evening wandering the streets of Leicester so he could show me to all the other bouncers....in December when it was Baltic....no second date though he was very keen...!

My uni landlord years later asked me out. I was quite keen he was fit! I spent 2 hours listening to him explaining that his wife left him because he's an alcoholic and moved to France I assume to get away from him. He then moaned about how much he missed his kids and how awful it all was. By this point I had nothing to lose so I said 'look, you're self employed and you could work remotely (I knew enough about his business to judge), why don't you go and live over there and be close to them? What have I'll got to lose??' He looked horrified and said 'god why would I want to do that????'

I went on a few dates with a bloke. We dtd and it was all fine. He went down to make me a coffee or something and I decided to look in his bedside drawer (yes I know but invasive) and it was full of loads of boxes of latex gloves!!! Underneath were really cheap pound shop tanning wipes. I was done it was too creepy after that. He didn't take rejection well and did actually threaten to stab me in a text a few weeks later. After that he sent dick pics followed by texts saying 'oh sorry that was for my girlfriend...' years later I got a job in the same organisation where I thought he worked. First thing I did was check if he was still there - nothing...and no trace of him on social media or the internet whatsoever...he has an ordinary first name with a really random spelling so easy to find you would think. That whole period really bothers me still.

He brought his sister on our first date.

I’d never met his sister. I’d met him once. He picked me up with his sister in the car and asked me if I minded as she needed a lift to the station. I thought that perhaps her lift had fallen through so said it was ok, expecting to drop her off at the station before our lunch date. Nope. She came to lunch. She was there the entire time. It was weird and I spent the whole date wishing I were somewhere else.

NC for this! Was asked to an opening night exhibition by a friend. Double date kind of setup. Great evening, a good few drinks, nice conversation, and went back to his place (unusual for me!) which was near.

No condoms so we do other stuff. When he finished, the amount!! Never seen anything like it. Another drink or two, more nonPIV, same again, everywhere, a total mess. If he’d finished in my mouth I would have drowned :) We never arranged a follow up date, mutual I should say.

I forgot one. Courier who spent the whole date telling me his ex looks like davina Macall and did I want to see a pic to prove it?

This whole thread makes me appreciate my dp. I was so over the crap dates by the time I met him I didn't want to go on any dates!! A friend convinced me to meet dp because 'well he's a teacher so he's got a current dbs check!!' He was worth the risk!!

After years of nagging by my best friend I agreed to try OLD. First date spent an hour telling/boasting about his application to The Apprectice. I swore I would never go on another date. Best friend made me keep the second date I had set up with a different guy - I married him

@BroadBeanSlippers

Rotund wee Scottish man who was a pathological liar. I just sat and listened (it was fascinating) and he got bolder and bolder. He told me he had killed more than 30 people, and slept with a thousand women. He was a master at just about every martial art and Gordon Ramsay had begged him to reveal his recipe for coq au vin.

Oddly, he didn't seem too bothered when I said I didn't want a second date. Maybe he realised he'd over-reached himself on ours.

@BroadBeanSlippers I wonder if this is my colleague 🤔🤣

I've just about had a prolapse laughing at some of these.

Years ago, I turned up for a date with a guy and he had blue hair, which I hadn't remembered from our first (drunken meeting). He told me he worked in a nursery. At the end of the date, he tried to zip up my coat for me 🙄. I am not a pre-schooler! No second date.

He showed up for our first date. He had only two teeth (not next to each other). He kept grabbing my hand and trying to hold it, whilst I kept trying to keep my hand away from him. He told me how he was friends with the entire 'criminal network' in the area. I couldn't get the date over with fast enough. Once outside the restaurant I told him I had to get home, but he grabbed me and stuck his tongue down my throat - not kissing - just his tongue as deep as he could get it.

I pushed him away and ran, yes ran, to my car and sped off. He contacted me for a second date. I ghosted him.

@Funkyfriends

A friend set me up with a friend of hers, went on a date, all was going well so we talked about meeting up for a second date. He then told me that we couldn’t go to a restaurant as he can only eat puréed foods. Apparently he didn’t get on with solid food when he was younger so he has always had his meals puréed. 😲😲. Needless to say we didn’t go on a second date.

Who needs enemies with friends like that 🤣🤣.

Fucking hell- I've got a very fussy baby who's a nightmare with bitty foods. Reading this has just made me shudder.

@mrbreezeet1

The topic of this thread asks people to relate the weirdest reason they refused a second date. Hence, the smartphone reason is quite weird.

In my case it was a reason I should have recognised on the first time, but ended up a few more times until i figured out what was happening.

Guy in same industry, no kids, no complications, own house, etc All the same as me! So much in common, kind, considerate in bed. After DTD I was unsure if he was finished if you see what I mean.

Next time I get the same feeling. Look for evidence :) None. Same the next time. I ask and told me he likes sex but doesn’t orgasm.

That was it for me. I couldn’t be with a person that never orgasmed. I told he “it’s me not you”

When I was dating in my early 20s I never saw anyone again if they turned up late to a first or second date even by a minute I stuck to it strictly and though it was very young adult inflexible I suspect it wasn't the worst way to weed out arrogant and disrespectful types...

I've posted this here before but I was on the second date with a guy I had up to then found very attractive indeed, and he picked the salami off his pizza - went right off him, walked away at the end of the meal.

@Nellsbells173

I was 17 and set up with a friend of my friends boyfriend. After seeing each other a few times with our mutual friends, I ended up getting the bus to his house for the day where his whole family were waiting and extremely excited to meet me! The highlight was having photos taken of me and the boy sat together in the garden, then his dad hooking the camera up to the tv so we could all look through them together. I never went back!

This is is the funniest ever

@WeCanBeHeroesJust, on MN I've seen posts about men being rejected for too small/tall, too fat/skinny, works too little/too much, penis too small/big, but now we have too much/little semen :)

Really I've never been with a guy that didn't cum (I think!). However, I do remember a post from a few years ago from a poster that never had an orgasm. So while it might be very unusual, it certainly is possible

Spelling mistakes in his text messages (I'm going to visit my ant tomorrow) and dry, cracked bleeding hands. So gross.

Watching how people treat waiters or barstaff is always a good measure of character and I have not taken things any further when I have seen dates talk down to or are just rude to people working in those professions.

Decided to stop dating a women who could not ride a bike. She suggested hiring some bikes down the park for a second date which I thought was a great idea and it soon became apparent she could not ride. I don't mean being a bit wobbly, literally she could not travel 5m without nearly falling off. I don't know why but watching her veering off the path, crashing into bushes and scattering other park users while screaming was just a massive turn off.

@HayJkl

Spelling mistakes in his text messages (I'm going to visit my ant tomorrow) and dry, cracked bleeding hands. So gross.

I miss read that at first and thought you'd stopped dating someone because of 1 typo! Seemed a bit harsh

I'm not sure if it counts as we were dating for a few weeks, but I called it off because they didn't say "please" or "thank you" to staff in shops! Found myself backing out thanking them profusely when they hadn't even served me!

@DillonPanthersTexas

Watching how people treat waiters or barstaff is always a good measure of character and I have not taken things any further when I have seen dates talk down to or are just rude to people working in those professions.

Decided to stop dating a women who could not ride a bike. She suggested hiring some bikes down the park for a second date which I thought was a great idea and it soon became apparent she could not ride. I don't mean being a bit wobbly, literally she could not travel 5m without nearly falling off. I don't know why but watching her veering off the path, crashing into bushes and scattering other park users while screaming was just a massive turn off.

This is so funny, why on earth did she suggest a bike ride?!?