To ask what's the weirdest reason you have decided to not go on a second date with someone?

[SnowDogFarts]

Just imagine you are on a first date with someone and it's going good until...that moment they say or do something that instantly switches your brain to "nope."

I had a first date with someone after chatting to them for a few weeks. It was going well and we were walking through one of my favourite country parks (beautiful) with a takeaway coffee when he decided to dump the empty cup on the floor, when there were bins dotted around everywhere. And that was the moment right there that couldn't be undone. I guess I don't like litterbugs 🤷‍♀️

So, tell me, what was their crime? Big, small, weird, wonderful or other.

When he kissed me at the end of the night, it felt like I was falling into a swimming pool filter.

Any mention of the word ‘ cuddles’or the c word, as I call it. I cuddled my children as babies. That’s it. Any neediness- ‘ I just need a nice lady to complete my life ( anyone will do), any expressed shock that I go out on my own ( theatre, music etc, pre-covid), like I shouldn’t leave the house alone... telling me I’m too busy. I’m not. I just don’t stare aimlessly into the middle distance to pass the time/ stay in 4 walls complaining about my lot. Anyone with a dull life who doesn’t make things happen and thinks I’m lively and will bring them out of themselves. Men who ask me who I support (?) Men who assume they can accompany me on whatever it is I’m doing, that because I’m on a date, they have an open invitation. Men who ask me what qualities I admire in a man. ( clearly waiting for me to either describe them or to claim the attributes I might list- like a shopping list)

I agreed on a date with the most gorgeous looking guy. We arranged to meet at a tube station. When he turned up, I nearly died of embarrassment. He wore denim jeans, matching denim jacket opened to reveal a white vest, and to top it all off, a pair of high healed cowboy boots 😂. I couldn't bring myself to walk next to him and sat opposite him on the tube. He was lovely, but I just couldn't look past the outfit.

@TweeterandtheMonkeyman

I feel bad about this really but this guy handed me his phone number on a napkin while I was working in a bar - he seemed quite cute so I texted him and arranged a date. Turned up to nice casual dinner date , he still seemed cute, chatting away - well we’d never actually exchanged our first names When he told me his I was just like flat out - well I just couldn’t envision ever having a boyfriend/ partner long term with this name If I’d REALLY fancied him I would have had to get past it though Maybe would have come up with a nickname !!

Marmaduke

On an afternoon date, he had to leave by 4pm as he had an appointment with his probation officer.

Another, pulled out his coin purse.

Second date- was in the middle of a mediocre sex session when he asked me to wait there as he 'needed to go and have a dump'. I was mortified.

I had a blind date with a guy who had a long scar on his neck from ear to ear and he told me his ex had tried to slice his throat.....Definitely time for a quick exit.......

His nostrils kept flaring.

Drove me mad.

Went on second date intending to dump him, bee married now for 9years

Chewed with his mouth open and started talking mid-swallow.

He called over the waitress of quite a nice restaurant and said “where’s the bog ? “ 🙄

@fafffdri12

He was a lot shorter than I expected and then started telling me roy chubby brown jokes and looking out of the corner of his eye laughing to check if I was laughing

Another guy told me he wrote erotic story's.
Then he sent me a story he had wrote with me starring in it. Then he wanted to meet me at a hotel and play it out.
Safe to say it never went as far as a first date.
Looking back I think I was almost murdered....

Man alive! That one takes the biscuit!

You poor thing...

I obviously don't know you, but I'm imagining a woman desperately trying not to look utterly horrified by this 'wonderful' idea. 😂

I hadn't seen him for a few years but previously knew him quite well and he asked me to meet up during lockdown at his gym, which was in town. He kept trying to lure me into the back office and then blurted out that "next time", he would make sure his sister was out of his flat for the day and we could have sex then.

There was no next time. I blocked him.

At the end of an otherwise good date he said “if you want to see me again, call me. If not, well you can fuck off then.”

I fucked off.

I have a few....

Went on a date with a guy who would only talk when I asked him something, I then asked why he wasn't asking me anything and he said "well you ask me questions and then I answer them, that's how it goes". I went to the toilet because it was painfully awkward, I left a drink on the table with a tiny bit in it and when I got back he said, I put something in your drink. Shocked I asked him why? And he said I'm only joking, but you shouldn't leave your drink unattended. It was the dregs of the drink which k wasn't planning on drinking anyway but...

Another we went to a club after having a few drinks, he bought us drinks and asked me to hold his drink, I assumed it was so he could take off his coat, he then handed me his coat and went and danced on some podium type stage.

Another took me to a car boot sale and then decided we should go to the cinema. He went to the ticket counter and asked for one ticket and a bag of sweets. This was after bragging that he had just won £40 on a scratch card an hour before I met up with him. I then had to buy my own ticket. I'm ok with this but usually someone buys the tickets and the other guys the snacks etc, but in a first date it just put me off especially as he slapped my ass while we were waiting in the queue.

Another constantly talked about his ex and then I caught him taking a photo to put on Snapchat to "make her jealous"

Last one I went on I just wasn't feeling any connection, he also spoke over me a couple times but I was going to give it second date just because everyone said I should. I didn't text him for a day and a half (hadn't even been online) because I was busy with work and my DD and he text about 20 times one after another and then text again in a huff saying he wanted a real woman and he wasn't interested in games etc. I told him I was busy and it had only been a day and a half, but this was a bit much and so I think it's best we leave it. He then tried to apologise but I was off him completely by this point

@LazyLucille

I didn't like his finger nails. Something about men with the whites of their nails showing that puts me off.

Urgh I agree. It makes me feel ill.

@SnowDogFarts - that's hilarious !

Internet date with a guy who was a solicitor for a local council and we met up for a walk.

After about 20 minutes we walked down a pier and sat on a bench, but he sat so close to me that I almost fell off the end - had to ask him to move up. He did, but then tried to kiss me.

I suggested we walk on and he wanted to go on a small train. I reluctantly went on the train and immediately he put his hand on my knee.

The highlight of the date was when he asked me to guess how many cats he had.

"Two?"
"No".
"Five?"
"Nope, try again."
"Eleven?"
"No, keep going."

I never found out how many cats he had (my life must surely be poorer for not knowing), but did find out that the cats weren't allowed out of the house and his kitchen was full of litter trays.

He was keen to meet again, but I sent an email to say that there was no chemistry for me. I got a nasty reply including "You women, you're all the same, you don't want a nice guy." Such a shame. ;-)

I went on a date with a bloke who took me out for dinner. I had steak and chips.
I had one last chunk of steak left on the plate. He said “look at the bloke at the bar” I turned round had a look.
When I looked back on my plate my steak was gone, I was so angry.
I said my pleasantries and never saw him again!!

Was on a first date with someone at a cinema years ago (not my favourite place for a first date as can't chat and get to know them, but his choice). He seemed nice though and a bit of chemistry. He put his hand on my knee during the film leaned in and said 'Are you feeling horny?'. Killed any chemistry dead. Such a cringe moment.

He spent an hour telling me about the salsa class he taught, and how the people who attended were not serious enough about dance - most of them were just there for fun!

He took a sip of the drink he had bought me on his way back to the table, yuck!

Shamelessly placemarking for later

Nice young Norwegian lad, I met at uni, but turned up with his bodyguard in tow, that he insisted was because his Dad was very rich.
I got a bit freaked out and convinced myself that Daddy must be a drug lord.
Made my excuses and fled.
I have since looked him up and his family own a shopping company