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To ask what's the weirdest reason you have decided to not go on a second date with someone?

522 replies

SnowDogFarts · 14/12/2020 19:58

Just imagine you are on a first date with someone and it's going good until...that moment they say or do something that instantly switches your brain to "nope."

I had a first date with someone after chatting to them for a few weeks. It was going well and we were walking through one of my favourite country parks (beautiful) with a takeaway coffee when he decided to dump the empty cup on the floor, when there were bins dotted around everywhere. And that was the moment right there that couldn't be undone. I guess I don't like litterbugs 🤷‍♀️

So, tell me, what was their crime? Big, small, weird, wonderful or other.

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Oldbutstillgotit · 16/12/2020 11:26

Many years ago

  1. He wore white socks with a business suit .
  2. He turned up with a bag of dirty washing and asked if he could use my machine . Actually there wasn’t really a first date....
  3. Slipped a cheque over to me. In the payee line it said “ a night to remember “.
Oldbutstillgotit · 16/12/2020 11:29

Oh and a non driver who didn’t like buses or trains . His mummy drove him everywhere.

Cattenberg · 16/12/2020 11:52

How could I have forgotten my date with a very handsome writer? He then let slip that he worked for the Daily Mail. Needless to say, there was no second date.

WitchQueenofDarkness · 16/12/2020 11:54

[quote happinessischocolate]@WitchQueenofDarkness

No don't think so, think he's a builder, his initials are PM 😁[/quote]
Didn't get that far to find out his name!

We met at a mutual friends house at a party and I was desperate to lose him but he stuck like glue. I gate crashed a couple of complete strangers deep in conversation and they took pity on me.

Married one of them 11 months later!

NiceLegsShameAboutTheFace · 16/12/2020 12:16

Gym bunnies/fitness freaks are SO boring

Yep, we are – to those who aren't into that scene. Maybe that's why I'm single then? Grin

WhatzTheCraic · 16/12/2020 12:46

Great idea for a thread; some of these are so funny!

Once went on a date with a guy who sounded like he'd inhaled a helium balloon. No exaggeration. It was our first date having met online, so as soon as he opened his mouth to greet me, it was a no from me. I feel like such a cow saying that because he was such a nice guy, but throughout the date, I just kept imagining the look on my friend's and family's faces if he ever met them for the first time!

I've had a catalogue of bad online dates with men, but another one was when a guy told me he was "really into music", so I asked him what kind of music he liked. With a dead serious face, he replied "Britney Spears. She's all I really listen to".

ImEatingVeryHealthilyOhYes · 16/12/2020 12:48

Cattenberg Grin

I genuinely had a brief involvement with someone who did occasional work for the Daily Mail (not writing but something creative). Tiny penis which he couldn’t get up anyway. Honest story from earlier this year.

Plsv87 · 16/12/2020 12:48

This thread is awesome. Never really dated as such (apart from DH) but feeling the collective ick for all of these men.

Imworthit · 16/12/2020 13:00
  • Asked me to fuck in a Starbucks toilet
  • couldn't kiss without biting me
  • lived with his ex girlfriend
  • had a foot fetish
  • Rediculous lies every other sentence
  • wanted me to fuck other guys
  • kept talking about his job
  • told me he was homeless & on drugs
  • didn't speak to me, just winked alot
  • only thing good about him was his car
  • lied about having hair
  • weirdly handsome from one angle but then totally not from another
Imworthit · 16/12/2020 13:20
  • micro penis
  • tetotal
  • stripped naked and ask me to shag him in the female toilets (actually ended up crying on my exs shoulder after that one)
  • had punched holes in all his walls

I had so many bad dating stories I gave up, refused to date and my mum had to talk me into giving my now fiancée a chance 😂

Imworthit · 16/12/2020 13:35
  • Showed up at my house repeatedly in the middle of the night on coke
  • Had a vasectomy but could get it reversed
  • Wore teenage anarchist badges
barbrahunter · 16/12/2020 13:41

lied about having hair Genuine LOL!

Sunshineface123 · 16/12/2020 13:52

Feel a bit bad for this one but he turned up wearing a fleece....

Imworthit · 16/12/2020 13:59

@barbrahunter I know right 🤣 if your bald, your bald, no biggie just don't only post pics from 1 years ago when you had hair (sadly this happened a few times)

A fleece epic! 🤣

LuckyNumberThirteen · 16/12/2020 14:01

He couldn't understand the concept of a boating holiday (Norfolk Broads) and he called me "sexy" as a greeting.

FetchezLaVache · 16/12/2020 14:32

Talked endlessly about himself and could turn any conversational gambit into a story about an investment he and his cousin had made a huge success of, e.g. what kind of music are you into? led to an anecdote about how he and his cousin owned the recording studio in Manchester where the Stone Roses had recorded their first album. Do you play pool? -> he and his cousin owned a string of snooker halls in London. Weirdly, given all these highly profitable investments, he was working as a painter and decorator. Would occasionally apologise for monopolising the conversation, ask me a question then answer it himself. I tried to amuse myself by revealing absolutely nothing about myself to see if he'd even notice - going by the dozen red roses delivered to my workplace the next day with a card saying how much he'd enjoyed our evening, he didn't.

crackofdoom · 16/12/2020 14:53

The conversation was going swimmingly with one chap when we got onto politics and he started quoting from the Daily Mail. I can't be doing with a fascist supporting newspaper so I left via the toilet window, my bum nearly getting stuck in the process.

Also...weirdly enough, another couple of bad first dates did the exact same two things. They both wore flip flops (not summer, nowhere near the beach), and they both managed to call me stupid within the first half hour. Trying to work out the connection between the two....

MissConductUS · 16/12/2020 14:57

@ImEatingVeryHealthilyOhYes

Cattenberg Grin

I genuinely had a brief involvement with someone who did occasional work for the Daily Mail (not writing but something creative). Tiny penis which he couldn’t get up anyway. Honest story from earlier this year.

I think it's a requirement to work there.
Bloodypunkrockers · 16/12/2020 17:28

I had a once only date with a man who proceeded to tell me about his ex wife and said that he was "done with good looking women". Clearly I looked like the back end of a bus then

Tessabelle1 · 16/12/2020 17:30

He turned up to our first date with those awful joggers with the poppers down the side and manky trainers, no thank you, next!

HarrietOh · 16/12/2020 17:34

Took his dog for a walk along a pretty, scenic and very busy footpath. Picked up his dog poo in a bag, went to nearest bin and saw it was full and overflowing, so proceeded to just fling the bag on the ground next to the bin.

Hotair1234 · 16/12/2020 17:38

He said he liked healthy and safety at work

HarrietOh · 16/12/2020 17:38

Oh and another one! This was a second date, I think he was nervous and had maybe had a drink before hand. He scoffed his food down him which was gross enough and then when the bill came I said let’s go half. He said no, picked up the hill and folded it in half, then put it into the breast pocket of his shirt and patted it....
A short while passed and he forgot he’d put it there as requested to pay by card and the waitress asked where the bill had gone. I had to remind him it was in his pocket.
It was the way he’d grandiosely put it in his pocket and tapped it that just gave me the ice!!

HarrietOh · 16/12/2020 17:39

Ick not ice