Do i tell my wife?

[Bookriddle]

So ive not long woke up and decided to have a midnight snack, for some reason i was craving coco pops and remembered we had a box in the cupboard!

So i have gone and opened the box up and its full of snacks(no coco pops) some of the stuff is from the weekly shopping that i thought disappears quite quickly and stuff she obviously buys here and there!

Aibu to not mention to my wife i have found her hiding place for snacks and just help myself whenever i fancy a snack!

Nah you're good. Raid it at will. The only reason she has that one, and has hidden it rather badly, is so you will think you have found her secret stash and will stop looking. It's a decoy.

The real secret stash, with the truly yummy snacks, is elsewhere. You'll never find it. I know where it is but I am not telling, out of solidarity. Plus I think you might be my DH.

Well she needs a better hiding place, mine is in a place dp will never look (behind the pasta flour!)

Is she hiding the stash from you or from kids? My actions would be dependent on The answer to this.

Oh is that all, I thought you were going to say you'd found her weed.

Yeah, nobody hides goodies in a cocopops box.

She clearly hides them in the Cocopops box as she thinks that’s the last place you’d ever look. Mention to her that you’ve got a fancy for cocopops for breakfast as you’ve noticed a box in the cupboard. That will give her the chance to rethink her snack concealment strategy while you’re getting dressed.

The reason she hides it is that someone or everyone else in the house probably eats it before she can get chance, is that you @Bookriddle

Don’t eat it, make your own for your midnight feasts!

@HiveHoofHole

Leave The Bounty

I have a Freddo in my bedroom drawer.

If that delectable frog shaped snack was in the kitchen it would have been eaten weeks ago (not by me).

😂😂

If this was a wife who had found her husband's (presumed sex of partner) stash the replies would have been encouraging her to help herself!

Obviously you can talk to your own wife about this: ask her why she has a stash in the first place.

(She probably feels she has to hide her share from you or the kids.)

So what did you do OP?!

Growing up, in our household the rule was that if it was in the common areas then they were fair game. So snacks in kitchen were available for everyone. Mum's hiding snack hiding spot was in her bedroom (We all knew this) and those were only for her.

So I guess, if it is in the kitchen then it's fair game. However, she did go through the trouble of hiding it and therefore they should be counted as hers. Get your own hiding spot for your own snacks

You are unreasonable on two counts: firstly, YABU to eat crap at midnight and can look forward to becoming grossly overweight if you aren't already. Secondly, YABVVU beginning your paragraphs with 'So', which is grammatically very poor show indeed.

As you were .

OP out of interest may I ask your gender?

To answer another poster's question about why you're being hounded/ being called a greedy bastard for having a snack, I think it's because people have assumed you are male, and we all know mumsnet hates men!

I think it's hilarious that you've found her stash - what you do with that information is up to you! Haha.

Get your thieving paws out of her secret stash! How would you feel if it was your stash? Let her keep her secret and make your own stash if you're feeling peckish!

I thought everyone had a secret stash? Mines at the back of a very low cupboard. There’s something really satisfying about getting up in the night and sitting on the sofa in the dark stuffing my face with chocolate, and then hiding the wrapper at the bottom of the bin.

I'm sad that anyone should have to hide food.
Either she has an eating disorder, or you regularly steal her food.
The fact that you're eating cocopops at midnight and that your immediate reaction to seeing hidden snacks was to eat them suggests that you're the problem.
Maybe consider why she's hiding the food before just nicking it.

I have a secret stash of quality chocolates, my husband and son would eat them in one sitting. I have one every other day with a coffee an thoroughly enjoy it.
Leave the secret stash alone.

@StillReasonablyIntelligent

I'm sad that anyone should have to hide food. Either she has an eating disorder, or you regularly steal her food. The fact that you're eating cocopops at midnight and that your immediate reaction to seeing hidden snacks was to eat them suggests that you're the problem. Maybe consider why she's hiding the food before just nicking it.

If you live in a busy household with several kids (especially teenagers) then it can be nothing to do with an eating disorder or people "stealing" each other's food. Food just goes because it's there in the cupboard and there are a lot of mouths!

As an aside, I store chocolate in the fridge. It is entirely coincidental that I put it in the vegetable drawer where no one other than me goes.

I'd be willing to bet that your wife more than earns her right to a few treats, just for herself. Why do you want to spoil that for her?

Honestly, you sound like a spoiled child, insisting that she share her treats with you. It's so unattractive. Keep this up and the snacks won't be the only thing she keeps from you.

I thought that only kids at boarding school ate at midnight!

Why wouldn't you just go back to sleep?

I hide my snacks because DH hoovers them before I get to eat them. He always insists he’ll replace them but never does.

Even if I’m trying to cut back on junk and buy myself lower calorie snacks, he’ll eat his and then move onto mine

@Bookriddle why don't you buy another box of Cocopops , empty it, put in your favourite snacks then put the box next to the other one. Your wife will know without you telling her, that you've found her secret stash

On the other hand, the posters on here who are appalled by your actions, will be hoping she is on MN and identifiable so that they can tell her to LTB because, as we all know, rifling through someone else's secret stash is akin to murder !!