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Do i tell my wife?

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Bookriddle · 14/12/2020 00:17

So ive not long woke up and decided to have a midnight snack, for some reason i was craving coco pops and remembered we had a box in the cupboard!

So i have gone and opened the box up and its full of snacks(no coco pops) some of the stuff is from the weekly shopping that i thought disappears quite quickly and stuff she obviously buys here and there!

Aibu to not mention to my wife i have found her hiding place for snacks and just help myself whenever i fancy a snack!

OP posts:
rockinaftermidnite · 14/12/2020 03:20

I think it's okay to raid her not-so-secret stash as long as you replace whatever you take in the morning (or soonest). Leave her a little note with a heart on it! Or not...

missnevermind · 14/12/2020 03:26

The only reason to hide food is to stop somebody else eating it.
Now we know why she feels the need to hide hers.

Crustmasiscoming · 14/12/2020 03:44

The only time I've ever woken for a midnight snack is when I've been heavily pregnant.

So... you're a midnight snacker, and your wife has a secret stash of snacks that you didn't know about? Sounds like you are a snack snaffling monster and your wife is taking precautions to make sure there is something left for her.

HaggieMaggie · 14/12/2020 05:57

I have a stash, what’s so weird about that? The more I buy the more everyone eats. If I buy something special they all want it. If I see something that I fancy, they all want to try it. Nothing is safe in our house.

On that basis, anything that I want (that I shop for) just for me, gets hidden. There’s plenty of treats left To go round.

Being a wife and mother doesn’t mean you have to share everything.

HaggieMaggie · 14/12/2020 06:02

Oh and the secret to a safe stash is to move it around. From the top of the cupboards to the chest freezer in the garage to the cupboard under the stairs to the seat of the dining chair that no one ever sits on....

I’ve never used a cereal box though, thank you for that one!,,

christmasathomeagain · 14/12/2020 06:11

Hmm, seems a foolish place to keep snacks. An all bran box would make more sense. If this is real then tell her you know so she can hide better and if you need to, create your own secret stash. Don't secretly start eating hers.

BefuddledPerson · 14/12/2020 06:20

Leave it alone. Get your own if you want one.

NotSorry · 14/12/2020 06:23

@HaggieMaggie

I have a stash, what’s so weird about that? The more I buy the more everyone eats. If I buy something special they all want it. If I see something that I fancy, they all want to try it. Nothing is safe in our house.

On that basis, anything that I want (that I shop for) just for me, gets hidden. There’s plenty of treats left To go round.

Being a wife and mother doesn’t mean you have to share everything.

Sounds like my house! My secret stash is the cupboard under the stairs behind the box of dusters. No-one ever goes there Grin
Palatka · 14/12/2020 06:31

@Coffeeandcookies

My DH has a (not so) secret stash. Every once in a while I'll take a little something. Not very often and not very much so he can't actually be sure I'm doing it and he can't ask me without outing his secret 😁
Grin Grin
user1493413286 · 14/12/2020 06:33

Don’t eat her stash; she’s put it there to stop you/DC if you have them eating it all before she has a chance. Also she’ll notice if you do.

CrotchBurn · 14/12/2020 06:35

@amisupposedtoeat
What do you as a grown adult eat for a snack? Quails eggs? Petits fours and paté? A sliver of stilton?

OP you're not unreasonable for wanting a midnight bowl of coco pops. In fact you've got me craving some now.

I do think it's a weird place for her to hide her stash though as it's kind of obvious.

Is she doing this because YOU might be the greedy bastard? My DP will chomp through quite a lot of our snacks on occasion and sometimes it fucks me off a bit. Are you always doing that? So she feels she needs to skim a little off the top? Be honest.

Skipsurvey · 14/12/2020 06:37

it does seem a foolish place to keep it

MessAllOver · 14/12/2020 06:37

@Bookriddle. There's only two reasons why she would have a secret stash Grin. Either she's a greedy bugger and eats more than her fair share or you're a greedy bugger and eat more than your fair share.

Which is it, then?

flaviaritt · 14/12/2020 06:41

Adults hiding food from each other is just odd.

Peanutbutterblood · 14/12/2020 06:42

Make your own stash and keep the fuck away from hers!

My dh asks me not to buy chocolate as he has no will power and will devour it all, no joke he once had 6 creme eggs in one day. So he asks me not to buy it but obviously the kids and I want some every now and again so I do but sure enough he'll eat it. I personally get annoyed cos i dont think I should need to manage him in this.

Anyway I've found something for the kids he doesn't like and have a stash of my own. He knows I have it just not where and he is so bloody offended by it yet fully admits he'd help himself if he knew where it was.

Clockstop · 14/12/2020 06:43

@DougRossIsTheBoss

Why would she have to do this?

I think wife needing to keep a secret snack stash plus midnight coco pop snacking equals you are
a greedy bastard.

This with bells on. You obviously ruin every single treat she buys herself and so has been forced into covert operations. Leave them alone!
FangsForTheMemory · 14/12/2020 06:43

She obviously needs to hide stuff from you to stop you stealing it, so leave it alone.

MessAllOver · 14/12/2020 06:47

Anyway I've found something for the kids he doesn't like and have a stash of my own. He knows I have it just not where and he is so bloody offended by it yet fully admits he'd help himself if he knew where it was.

This is so funny Grin. He is being so illogical, but I can sort of understand how he feels. "I'm upset that you think you can't trust me (even though you're right, you can't trust me)".

Clarice99 · 14/12/2020 06:48

@WorraLiberty

Why would anyone need to hide food?

Does she have an eating disorder or do other people eat more than their fair share, leaving her with nothing?

This. Absolutely.
Eng123 · 14/12/2020 06:58

I think it's odd to hide food. We are lucky enough not to need to worry about food bills. Everything (I thought) was put into the cupboards and available to all. I don't really like chocolate, very rarely I have a hankering for a piece but it's less than once a month. I commented that we always seem to have a bar that I find inedible in the fridge and my DP commented that it was their favourite, fare enough. Latter I saw 5 or 6 family bars in DPs work bag, I made a joke thinking it was something for colleagues. DP basically told me it was none of my business and I shouldn't be looking. I was bit taken aback, neither of us are skinny but I'm a bit worried that if DP hides it out of shame what else is being hidden. I laughed it off bit it worries me a bit.

DunravenBadger · 14/12/2020 07:01

I hide snacks because otherwise DH would eat them all really quickly. Are you sure she's not hiding them from you because otherwise she would never get any?

BikeRunSki · 14/12/2020 07:07

@Cheeseycheeseycheesecheese

I call fake, no way would a stash stay hidden in a cocopops box... totally missing the point
That’s what I was thinking.if we had coco pops in, it would be the most visited box in the cupboard.
CandyLeBonBon · 14/12/2020 07:09

I wish I had a secret stash. Nowhere is safe in my house with three marauding teens!

SonjaMorgan · 14/12/2020 07:15

Are you Johnny Sack?

Bluesheep8 · 14/12/2020 07:35

Adults hiding food from each other is just odd.

Very. You both sound about 5.