Would you take your 3 week old to an Amy Winehouse gig?

[Toooldforallthis]

Please let rip on me here, I need to know if it's just me that has a problem with this.

It's two fold. This morning I received DP's birthday present to me. It's standing tickets to see La Winehouse at Manchester.

1. I'm due to give birth any day now, if I gave birth today (early!!) our baby would be just over 7 weeks old and if I go two weeks overdue, she'll be 26 days old on the day of the gig.

2. I live in Sheffield

Any one care to comment so far?

I'm am livid that I've received such a thoughless, useless present. Normally I would pretend to like what I've been given if it's not quite what I'd like but how the hell could I use this? (I'm not a shrinking violet, I'm a baby comes too kind of a gal but wtf!!!)

My second issue is that lack of thought that's gone into this. Yes, I like Amy's music v. much and I love going to gigs but for the past four years I've been subject to the plethora of gifts you can buy in 5 minutes over the internet. That's OK I hear you say but these are the sort of gifts that you could buy for anybody, i.e. ZERO thought has gone into them. Last year flowers and chocolates for example.
I am so far at the back of his thoughts that I've even had mothers day's where I've known he's bought his mum a card but I've received ... yes, you guessed, nothing! (At this point dd's were 2 so could hardly be expected to sort it out themselves).

Maybe this bit should be in relationships in the , my boyfriend clearly doesn't give a flying f*ck about my feelings, am I about to be dumped and why the hell am I about to have another child with this man? Anyone care to comment on this?

Again, I'm throughly p'd off. He has all year to come up with a decent present for me. Hell! This year I actually told him what I wanted. I ripped it out of a magazine complete with picture and said this is what our dd's should get me to make it a bit of a joke and put it in his hand to avoid being in this situation....

Let me know what you think.
Clearly I need to get this out of my system as I'm ranting for England aren't I?
Am I being a Surrey princess or do I have a point?

A few cracking suggestions there.

Nbg - Why oh why have I not heeded Marilyn's advice before. Of course!

Notjustmum/Anabel - I think this is the way forward, I can't bear anymore 'supposed to be lovely but turned into angry' days. I'm too old for suprises anyway.

OH my goodness. What a fool! You will have to start doing what I do and just buy your own Christmas and birthday presents .
Actually I have done this for two years now and DH has just told me he is fed up with me doing it. Prob is the present from DH is the most expensive one I will get and the only justification for spending money on myself, so this year I have bought a winter coat I love.

Weeping in corner, hopes dashed at a night out with the Diva herself [sniff]

I've taken it a step further, I tell my DS's 1 and 2 to spend the money they would have spent on me, on themselves and the money \i would have spent on them, |I spend on myself!

Last year I gor a nice fireplace!!

Don't know what they got, so it was a surprise for me. They may tell me, one day.....

I have a plan. Go buy him an Amy Winehouse wig and some eyeliner, get him to get you the cd and mime along and do a concert for you!

He may try harder next time!

On our wedding anniversary this year, a florists van turned up and the driver got out with a lovely bouquet...........

and went next door!!

I through an absolute tantrum (not like me) and within an hour, larger bouquet arrived.

He had planned them apparently, I found the phone book, open at the 'florists' page on the kitchen table.

Oh well......

This afternoon, wig shopping for me!!

LOL Annabel!!

sell tickets and spend the proceeds!!
U Tube it!!

sorry, but im the surrey princess.

tbh, wouldnt take a baby to la winehouse gig.

there might be "something in the air", if you see what i mean.

I'd go, express some milk for the baby, leave baby at home with daddy and have a great night.

DP has bouhgt me tickets to see babyshambles in november, I am currently 4 months pregnant, but the fact that he thought about someone I liked and something I'd like to do was important.

Maybe he hasnt thought about exactly how you're meant to go, especially breastfeeding, but I think he was trying to get you something he thought you'd enjoy.

So IMO, no YANBU, but cut him some slack, it was alot more thoughtful than a book.

I completely disagree. A book would have been much more thoughtful. I loved having a good book to read while breastfeeding my babies

I totally understand your frustration with this gift. It's like he's forgotten that you are about to have a baby, forgotten what breastfeeding means and intends (and expects you) to carry on with life as before after your baby is born.

How annoying, if it were me, I would have to ask him to explain how he thought I could go.. (Would only end it a big row with my dh, but I wouldn't be able to stop myself).
Then I would ebay the tickets and buy something you really want.
Oh and, you should get him to write you an IOU for an hour/ 2 without children on the day of the concert, so you can have a rest.

You can get a book from the library though, he probably thought it would be nice for the OP to get a few hours to herself to be able to do something as a person rather than a mother.
I wouldnt be angry at his mistake to think that there would be a way for her to go.

perhaps for his lack of thought you should leave baby with him and take a friend

ps dp said bloody hell no!

my dp said we being very cruel to your dp! he said at least he tried!

we were going to go bon jovi gig last year but it was two weeks after my due date so we cancelled good job really as dd was late and was 4 days old when the gig was on

My point exactly meand my. He tried
Ok, so it wasnt the best idea, but he tried

But if I am reading this correctly he has a history of being a bit rubbish. Anyway wild horses couldn't have dragged me away from my newborn that soon. I know it is different for everybody but he has dtwins and so should know better IMO.

OK, I really appreciate everyone's comments and you've really helped me get past the angry mood I was in. (Now I just wish it hadn't happened (again!) but worry not, dp (very loving, pants at presents since becoming a parent) will see his next birthday.)

Lorayn - He did try! I'm doing my best to remember that.

One thing that needs pointing out, there is no way I'd risk leaving a 3 week old breastfed baby for as long as my evening would take. The breastfed bit is the problem, you couldn't guarantee they'd take a bottle just because it was convienient for me.

I couldn't take her either, my tickets are in the stalls, what if someone bumped into her, what about her ears, wouldn't I rather sit down and hold a baby all night than stand?

He really should have thought about these things, he's been a parent for almost four years now.

Granted though, he tried!

When my DS was born I was at my 25th birthday party 3 weeks later, I may not feel I am able to this time, but each baby and every person is different. Personally, I would have thanked him, and said that it might be a bit impractical, that I'd see how I felt and ebay them a couple of weeks after baby was born if I didnt feel upto going.

Maybe the fact that no thought has gone into the other gifts is what made him buy this one??

Beat me to it Skyler!

IMO, though, if your partner rips a page out of a magazine, gives it to you and says "this is what I want to for my birthday" and you then (a) don't buy that for her, and (b) buy her something else that she can't use, you are not trying.

Except in the "My DP is very trying" sense of the word...

Sorry x-posted Tooold, but I'm pleased you have calmed down slightly, I totally understand the bottle thing btw having breastfed DS.

yanbu. What a dickheaded present!!

plus it'll probably be cancelled anyway cos she'll be in a cell or a hospital bed somewhere......Amy, that is!