Would you take your 3 week old to an Amy Winehouse gig?

[Toooldforallthis]

Please let rip on me here, I need to know if it's just me that has a problem with this.

It's two fold. This morning I received DP's birthday present to me. It's standing tickets to see La Winehouse at Manchester.

1. I'm due to give birth any day now, if I gave birth today (early!!) our baby would be just over 7 weeks old and if I go two weeks overdue, she'll be 26 days old on the day of the gig.

2. I live in Sheffield

Any one care to comment so far?

I'm am livid that I've received such a thoughless, useless present. Normally I would pretend to like what I've been given if it's not quite what I'd like but how the hell could I use this? (I'm not a shrinking violet, I'm a baby comes too kind of a gal but wtf!!!)

My second issue is that lack of thought that's gone into this. Yes, I like Amy's music v. much and I love going to gigs but for the past four years I've been subject to the plethora of gifts you can buy in 5 minutes over the internet. That's OK I hear you say but these are the sort of gifts that you could buy for anybody, i.e. ZERO thought has gone into them. Last year flowers and chocolates for example.
I am so far at the back of his thoughts that I've even had mothers day's where I've known he's bought his mum a card but I've received ... yes, you guessed, nothing! (At this point dd's were 2 so could hardly be expected to sort it out themselves).

Maybe this bit should be in relationships in the , my boyfriend clearly doesn't give a flying f*ck about my feelings, am I about to be dumped and why the hell am I about to have another child with this man? Anyone care to comment on this?

Again, I'm throughly p'd off. He has all year to come up with a decent present for me. Hell! This year I actually told him what I wanted. I ripped it out of a magazine complete with picture and said this is what our dd's should get me to make it a bit of a joke and put it in his hand to avoid being in this situation....

Let me know what you think.
Clearly I need to get this out of my system as I'm ranting for England aren't I?
Am I being a Surrey princess or do I have a point?

She'll probably be sparko and off her norks to sing so you'll find that you get refunded anyway
I bet he thought it would be a great idea. Perhaps he'll get you one of those experiences instead parachute jumping three days after giving birth anyone?

And this event is in a different city, at least an hour's drive or public transport away. If it were a gig in the same city I could sort of see it.

I did thank him, I'm not quite that ungrateful but about 5 minutes later I had to point out that he'd have to sell them as there was no way I could use them.

A horrid thing to have to do but (and this is the point) what was I supposed to do? Go without baby? Go and take baby? Short of pretending I'd gone I think I had to say that they needed to go and he really should have worked this out for himself given that he's a parent too!

Being a parent and being clued up enough to realise that it would be extremely hard for you to go are two different things!

But a party is different Lorayn. Presumably your new baby could be with if you wanted at a party. Anyway I did say that I know it is different for everybody .

Anyway glad you are feeling better Tooold. I consider ranting on here to be much cheaper than therapy.....or divorce

One red herring that may have added to dp's case but is still no excuse is that I will be taking our baby to see Darcey Bussell with me on 20th December.

However that is seated and I suspect Ms Bussell can sing at the top of her lungs without me worrying about my babe's ears.

Sklyer, it was a party in my local pub, with lots of smokers, so no, not really.
LOL tooold, I think he just wasnt being practical tbh, hope you get something you like.

Oh well, each to their own.

Took my wee ones to a new years eve party when they were 6 weeks old! I didn't consider them to be in any physical danger though. They were in their car seats, I 'd have to have her in a sling to go to a standing gig and she'd be at the mercy of anyone in front of me. I think that's too big a risk for me.

I am calm now though, I was gonna send dp this link at one point today. Now I realise that's the most cr*p idea produced in christendom. Thanks for letting me rant and rave (and for essentially agreeing with me), peace and harmony will once again regin in the Tooold household!

Thanks

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yes i would and then i would drop in for a quick snifter with pete doherty

Oh agree with babies going places. My dd2 was just two weeks old when I flew with her back to the UK to go to a wedding.
I get lots out of my system before DH comes home so we can be a happy household . And yes sending your DP this thread would have been a mistake lol.

Darcey Bussel sings???? Didn't know she was so multi talented. [don't tell me Katherine Jenkins does ballet]

My ds spent a whole day in the pub when he was just 17 days old.

It was for his grandfather's funeral tho'.

Whatever adventures people have had with a newborn, attending a gig is different. This is not about TooOld being unadventurous or stay-at-homey.

The poor childs fontanelle would be vibrating like the skin of kettle drum with the noise, and as for the huge crush getting anywhere within a crowded venue...hideous thought.

He was deeply impractical...but I'm sure that this is merely a sign of man-brain rather than impending divorce (by him, anyway!) or desertion. tbh, I'm surprised that 'crap presents bought by DPs and DHs doesn't have a whole topic board to itself, it features so often in threads!

And hey - HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!!

Aha, quite right Blu, HAPPY BIRTHDAY too old!