Mike Tindall wanting a son

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Congratulations on his wife’s pregnancy news, but I can’t believe he has actually said he really wants a son this time. The Pressure on poor Zara after all her loses too. Hopefully they’ve already had a sex scan and know it’s a boy.

He's only being honest. Lots of people have a preference. Doesn't mean he'd be unhappy with a daughter.

I know but he should have kept this to himself.

I think it’s very distasteful to express a preference

I dont know on this. I think its reasonable to have a preferance and nice to talk about what to look forward to.

Wishing only for a happy and healthy baby is hardly making that wish come true.

I've had difficult losses by the way so I'm not unsympathetic I just know I liked chattering away, wishing for one sex or another and what good names were etc.

To be fair, I'm sure there are a lot of parents who say the same after 2 girls. I joked with my that when dc2 was a girl he would be outnumbered 3 to 1 at home and he said in that case he was hoping for a boy. It wasn't serious, it was just chat.

Well he has a 50:50 chance I guess. It’s on him though if baby is a girl as he has provided the sperm
It’s not 1533 anymore

Maybe they both want a son.

Either way, I'm fairly sure it's none of our business what they would like.

He and Zara have had a stillborn child as well as their two living ones, plus Zara has spoken of another miscarriage.

I think they have the acute awaress of 'anything as long as its healthy' that only comes with loss.

And he was probably as serious about what sex as he was when saying it would be named after Covid

He can say what he likes. When did people get so sanctimonious about what other people are or are not allowed to say? He wants a boy. So what?

He can express that if its how he feels the same way women can express gender disappointment. I'm sure he'll still be just as happy if it turns out to be a girl.

They have daughters already don't they? Many parents with one or more babies or one sex express a hope that a subsequent baby is the other. If he and Zara hope their next baby is a boy, they hope their next baby is a boy, ffs they've had enough baby loss and sadness to be given a pass surely?

Have they 2 girls? I wonder if Harry will berate them for having more babies...

"Her" losses are his too.

Did he actually say that or is that someone putting a spin on things?

YABVU. Seriously is this even worth commenting on?

Oh FFS. Zara and Mike know better than most how it is to lose a child. They dont need anyone on the internet telling them off for expressing a want and telling them to just be happy if the baby is healthy. I'm sure they'll he ecstatic when that baby is born healthy and wont care if it is a boy or a girl. But they are allowed to say whatever they want. They've got 2 girls; of course they'd like a chance at a change, but they wont be unhappy if it is a girl.

Ex was desperate for a son but two girls came along and he adores them.

Most people want a boy and girl ..

Oh for goodness sake. There is nothing wrong with what is a jokey preference, hrs clearly stated he will love their child whatever, he’s got two daughters a and is the only male on a female household.

Honestly, every single day there is someone on here taking offence at something hugely irrelevant someone said. They seem very happily married, I’m one hundred percent sure if this caused Zara any concern he’d not say it. And he’d know.

How is it any different than numerous women on here desperate for a daughter?

There are far more threads about women disappointed they are having a son than the other way round.

While I'm sure he/they will be genuinely happy with a living child of either sex, given their history of loss, I can see the OP's point. This isn't Random Woman X confiding to their best friend they'd prefer a son or a DH joking with his DW about it. This is someone whose comments get reported in the press and therefore hang around on the internet for ever more...in the event they did have another girl, it would be a bit tough on her in the future to see in black & white that her dad would have preferred her to have been a boy, or to be teased about it at school if a classmate stumbled across it.

He is someone in the public eye.

Its one thing saying this when they aren't.

Its another when the child involved may read this or have it repeated back to them as an adult by a member of the press.

Having those feelings and expressing them in a situation which may one day be harmful to a child are two different things.

How is it pressuring her? It's not as if she can do anything about it.

@MissBaskinIfYoureNasty

"Her" losses are his too.

I think that many forget that. I recall after my daughter had had a miscarriage and obviously we were all very concerned for her well-being saying to our son-in-law How are you because this is happening to both of you. He became very emotional and thanked me, he had been so concerned for his wife he hadn't started to process his feelings and I was the first person to ask him specifically.

He didnt say "I dont want a girl. Dont give me a girl!!".
He said he would like a boy. There is a difference.

I'm the second girl. I know my parents would have liked a boy. They couldnt try again because of medical reasons so they had 2 girls but they've been very clear that they would never want a boy in place of me. If they could have tired for another, they would have but it wouldn't have been a guarantee and they would have loved whatever child they got.

They might seem like conflicting views but it is not hard to understand that they are happy with girls and wouldn't change it, but they'd also have likes the chance to have a boy too. It doesnt damage me to know this.

I didn't know she'd announced a pregnancy, that's lovely news. I don't really think that it's right to express a preference, especially in public.