Should I be bothered that MIL offered DIL man's coat that would have fitted my DH?

[being40]

I've posted before about how MIL didn't tell us she planned to move in with SIL and giving her £500k in the process so I'm a bit sensitive to things.
Today SIL turns up with MIL to do a socially distanced birthday with DH - SIL who has put in some weight during lockdown (she bought a peloton but didn't use it - or rather MIL's money bought the peloton) turns up in a massive coat.
It was my dad's she says.
This coat would have fitted DH - as in her brother his son.
I check the coat - it looks quite new (he passed away 2 years ago this week) and it says North Face.
Online these coats cost £300 - am I right to be annoyed for my DH. Tell me I'm just being unreasonable and bothering about nothing.
I've got enough work/study/housework and two children to worry about!

Sorry the weight thing sounds bitchy - she mentioned it and said she was wearing a massive coat to hide it. I'm trying to put across that it would have fitted my well-built husband!

So what? Is your DH in desperate need of a coat? This seems like a very strange thing to get annoyed about, but maybe it's related to the other financial things you mention??

Does your husband care? I mean it’s a coat does it really warrant falling out etc.

She can give her coat to whoever she wants. I can’t see what business is it of yours?

I think you need to take a step back. She was given a coat by her dm (presumably because she needed a bigger one due to weight gain). This really shouldn’t be such a big deal to you.

So your MIL gave her daughter a coat that belonged to your MIL's late husband, and you're upset because its a man's coat so should have gone to your husband?

I think you're feeling hurt about situations from the past. I think this is a non issue, but at the same time if a lot of stuff has happened in the past, I can see why little things like this could be upsetting

Would you have cared if it was a £40 coat from Sainsbury’s?

Why is this any of your business? I feel sorry for your Sil and Mil. Ots none of your business who your Mil moves in with. It isn't your business what she does with her money. The very fact that you think where your Sil got her coat from and checked the tag is absolutely absurd. Doesn't matter of it would fit your husband. There are plenty of jackets and coats that will fit him for sale. Go buy him one

IT's none of your business. Maybe she just grabbed the coat to wear on a cold day.
Maybe your mother-in-law should forward her bank statements every month for your approval?
Did the sister-in-law get an extra slice of cake at tea time? Best keep a beady eye on that in case it escalates.

YABU

If sil has put on weight she probably needed a new coat but presumably DH already has a winter coat that fits

You sound really petty

@being40

Sorry the weight thing sounds bitchy - she mentioned it and said she was wearing a massive coat to hide it. I'm trying to put across that it would have fitted my well-built husband!

Go buy your husband a coat. Why does he need

Sorry OP but it does sound like you’re overly invested in how much you can get financially from your in laws, via your DH.

I mean, it sounds like you don’t like MIL and SIL very much, so I can understanding why everything they do pisses you off - but being this annoyed by a coat that your DH doesn’t even want is a little pointless.

OP this is none of your business, your MIL can give her dh’s coat to whoever she likes. If you think your DH needs a coat go and buy him one. Fgs! the things people feel entitled to on MN is mind boggling.

YABU

I'm not following.

SIL is keeping an expensive coat.
SIL didn't offer to give the coat to someone else.
Does your DH need a coat?
Why do you care what coat SIL wears?

Think your DH needs to talk to his own mum about unfair inheritance distribution if that bothers your DH. No good will come of you having a strong opinion about it.

You're being very petty. MIL owned the coat, not you. She doesn't have to give it to your DH just because she birthed him.

Is he that desperately in need of a coat or something? Unless you're in dire straights you come across as someone out to see what you can get and if MIL knows that, maybe she'll make a point of not giving you things...

There's obviously more to the story then ops telling. Maybe its the constant blatent favouritism of sil? We experience similar tbh, yes mil can give the coat to anyone she pleases but if its always about sil, every little thing grates so I get it

You think your DH had a right to this coat that your SIL didn’t have? Why?

You snooped at the label of SIL's coat and then Googled it to see how much it was?!

It's not even like MIL went out and bought the coat for SIL - it was probably just sitting about in the wardrobe and now SIL has put on weight she needed a coat to fit so MIL suggested she have that one?

You sound extraordinarily grabby. Does your DH care about the coat?

If my MIL had given my SIL half a million quid then I might feel put out too. Are you on your uppers, OP? Do you feel that there is a wider problem of favouritism here? I doubt this is about the coat really. Would your husband have liked/worn it?

Do you need a penis to wear this expensive coat?

Sorry but you have lost the plot

A second hand coat worth a few quid- should it have been sold and split three ways and you could have had Macdonald's with you (sorry your DHs £10)

Do you believe that all goods should only pass to the male line?

It was her dads- she now has it and is using it- how lovely.

It sounds like there is a lot that has gone on that is colouring your view here.

On this one YABU, and it comes across that you are very money orientated. Obviously I don't know the back story, but based on this post thats how it seems.

Is it a sentimental coat that only a male heir can inherit? If not, YABU.