Should I be bothered that MIL offered DIL man's coat that would have fitted my DH?

[being40]

I've posted before about how MIL didn't tell us she planned to move in with SIL and giving her £500k in the process so I'm a bit sensitive to things.
Today SIL turns up with MIL to do a socially distanced birthday with DH - SIL who has put in some weight during lockdown (she bought a peloton but didn't use it - or rather MIL's money bought the peloton) turns up in a massive coat.
It was my dad's she says.
This coat would have fitted DH - as in her brother his son.
I check the coat - it looks quite new (he passed away 2 years ago this week) and it says North Face.
Online these coats cost £300 - am I right to be annoyed for my DH. Tell me I'm just being unreasonable and bothering about nothing.
I've got enough work/study/housework and two children to worry about!

@Leaannb

Why is this any of your business? I feel sorry for your Sil and Mil. Ots none of your business who your Mil moves in with. It isn't your business what she does with her money. The very fact that you think where your Sil got her coat from and checked the tag is absolutely absurd. Doesn't matter of it would fit your husband. There are plenty of jackets and coats that will fit him for sale. Go buy him one

Exactly...she's just a trouble maker...

Bitchy comment about the weight gain and the Peloton for a start. Completely irrelevant to the steaming jealousy about the unfair gifting of 500k.

You sound horribly childish and petty.

Do you not realise how weird and bizarre you’re coming across? Your sil put on weight, your mil gave her an old coat she had lying around. You’ve taken it upon yourself to check the sizing, the make, priced it up online, and decided that it should have been given to your oh instead? The rest of your post is irrelevant, and also none of your business

Tbh I’d be pissed off too, sounds like sil has ousted your dh out of the trough.

You have posted about youre sil and mil several times and always with the reference to money and possessions its coming across grabby op. You seem to have a deep rooted problem with youre inlaws.

No it's not about the money. I work DH works we are lucky. We have a small mortgage and I'm retraining and enjoying that too.
The plan to give SIL £500k was kept a secret from DH until it was all but a fine deal.
I just wonder what other secrets are being kept from him.
I could buy him several North Face coats. It feels like SIL went in and bagged everything before he got a chance.
Maybe I ABU!

amira there is something going on and I have found out some other secrets which have been kept from us but I don't want to put them on here

I still don’t understand with your update?
You’re really angry that your SIL is wearing a jacket that belonged to her dad instead of your DH? I’m lost?

You are being unreasonable, it is clear you have a lot of other issues with your mil, and sil

YABU it’s your husbands family not yours
Unless he minds in which case he can discuss it with his family
You come across as grabby

The responses on this thread are really, really strange.

The MIL has given her daughter HALF A MILLION POUNDS. Her son (OP's DH) has been given NOTHING.

Of course they are pissed off!!!

@being40

No it's not about the money. I work DH works we are lucky. We have a small mortgage and I'm retraining and enjoying that too. The plan to give SIL £500k was kept a secret from DH until it was all but a fine deal. I just wonder what other secrets are being kept from him. I could buy him several North Face coats. It feels like SIL went in and bagged everything before he got a chance. Maybe I ABU!

She can give money to whoever she wants- Battersea or spend it on a care home. Not your business

Bagged everything- honestly? You said his father died 2 year ago. Lots of time to ask if he wanted anything.

You didn't even know that it had been his fathers coat until you asked SIL- so hardly a prized possession that brings back fond memories

You sound grabby and obsessed with you SIL
Move on

No she doesn't come across as grabby. And it IS her business, as she is married to the MIL's son.

Half a million pounds. The coat is the tip of the iceberg.

"The plan to give SIL £500k was kept a secret from DH until it was all but a fine deal."

So?-It's their business, not yours or your husband's.

"I just wonder what other secrets are being kept from him."

They don't have to tell him about anything that doesn't concern him!

@being40

No it's not about the money. I work DH works we are lucky. We have a small mortgage and I'm retraining and enjoying that too. The plan to give SIL £500k was kept a secret from DH until it was all but a fine deal. I just wonder what other secrets are being kept from him. I could buy him several North Face coats. It feels like SIL went in and bagged everything before he got a chance. Maybe I ABU!

I'm not sure how anything was kept a secret. It being kept a secret would imply that it was any of your husband's or yours business. Its not. None of it is. Mil giving money to Sil is not your business. Not your husband's either. It was a financial agreement between the 2 of them. No one else

youve highlighted why she went move in option of sister.You are,family,act like it maybe and let jealous bitter shit go.its fruitless.count your blessings

@MrsSpenserGregson

No she doesn't come across as grabby. And it IS her business, as she is married to the MIL's son.

Half a million pounds. The coat is the tip of the iceberg.

Unless he thinks that his mum is being coerced/fleeced-how is it his business?

@MrsSpenserGregson

The responses on this thread are really, really strange.

The MIL has given her daughter HALF A MILLION POUNDS. Her son (OP's DH) has been given NOTHING.

Of course they are pissed off!!!

Why?

MIL extended her daughters home to move in as she needs care
She would have spent that in a few years in a care home.
I wouldn't commit to looking after my MIL for half a million pounds (or indeed my mother). It is a massive ask.

Why is SIL getting 500k?

Is she manipulative?

Yabu - I think your previous problems problems with them are colouring your judgment on this one I’m afraid op!

It is none of your business why your husband's mother chose to give half a million quid to her overweight daughter. Maybe she's the golden child, maybe not. If you can buy your husband an expensive coat, then go ahead and buy one. Seething about the unfairness and the secrets you know sounds so bloody ridiculous!!

YABU and grabby and quite pathetic tbh.
If a woman wants to give her daughter a coat it’s no business of yours.

Control yourself before you drive a wedge between your husband and his family.

@MrsSpenserGregson

No she doesn't come across as grabby. And it IS her business, as she is married to the MIL's son.

Half a million pounds. The coat is the tip of the iceberg.

Yes she does. The money is not either of their business. Its not their money. So they have no say where it goes. When itss their half a million pounds then it will be their business to decide where it goes. Not their money and not their business

Would you have liked to give your Mil lifelong care in exchange for £500k, OP? Would your husband? And to begrudge your sil a second hand coat that belonged to her dad is just the essence of pettiness and mean spiritedness.