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To think overtly sexy dressing looks very old fashioned?

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BecomeStronger · 05/12/2020 20:47

E.g Claudia's style looks far more modern than Tess'. I love the way young women will wear flats or even trainers and be comfortable rather than dressing for men.

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MrsHuntGeneNotJeremyObviously · 06/12/2020 17:28

Vogue has some fuck ugly clothes. If that's what is defining fashion, I'm quite happy to give it a miss. And kitten heels remind me of Minnie Mouse and make everyone look like they have big feet!
And I loved white stiletos in the 80's

linerforlife · 06/12/2020 17:30

Yes I think it does look weird. After lockdown 1 we went to a show room and a woman had high heels and a tight skirt on... it was strange but she looked like she was from a different era!!!

firesong · 06/12/2020 17:59

I don't know, I think it depends on the person and their style.

I love kind of different clothes, such as fishnet tights with a pinafore type dress and long sleeved top underneath. Sometimes heels, sometimes flat boots. Unusual jewellery. It's certainly not fashionable looking, but I'm not into being on trend.

I dress mainly for me, and I also like to look sexy for my partner and am unashamed about that! I think he likes to look good for me as well, as he will wear certain clothes more frequently if I have mentioned liking how he looks in them.

Whyistheteacold · 06/12/2020 18:31

Why are the only options wearing trainers or dressing for men?! Confused my DP doesnt suddenly find me unattractive if I'm dressed casually. Equally, many women wear dresses/skirts or whatever other items it is that you are deeming "overtly sexual" because it suits them, or they feel nice in it, or a hundred other reasons that aren't anything to do with men Hmm I think that your attitude towards women's clothing is much more old fashioned than a stylish pencil skirt ffs. Stop worrying about what other women are wearing and work on your own confidence.

Janegrey333 · 06/12/2020 19:38

@Iamthewombat

Style bible don’t make me laugh. Vogue is a glossy advertorial primary purpose to sell and promote

Agreed, and anybody who cares to look at this month’s U.K. Vogue will see that they have moved on from the alleged ‘the higher the heel, the lower the class’ dictum.

Beyoncé is on the cover wearing a lime green Ivy Park for Adidas catsuit that - brace yourself - shows her cleavage and - brace again! - HIGH HEELED SANDALS!!!!

She wears a load of glam and sexy clothes in the feature and looks great. Perhaps some of the posters here should tweet her to tell her that she is trying too hard and courting the male gaze? Or that she looks ‘grotesque’?

Or are you content to allow multi award winning Beyoncé wear what she likes?

Or are you content to allow multi award winning Beyoncé wear what she likes?

What difference does that make? 😆 I do not rate her. I don’t care what she wears but I am certainly not going to stand in a line with the rest of the sheeple to “admire” her amazing (dubious) taste!

Janegrey333 · 06/12/2020 19:41

I was being ironic about Vogue - but clearly that went to waste. Incidentally, I don’t adhere to the witterings of any magazine or “style bible” or Instagram account.

Janegrey333 · 06/12/2020 19:46

What are “horahs”? Do you mean Hoorays?

VestaTilley · 06/12/2020 19:54

I agree. I’ve found Covid very liberating as I’ve ditched all make up. My politics have changed down the years and I’m far more aware of society’s expectations on women to look good, turn ourselves in to ornaments, and not to age.

Fuck that. I only wear flats now unless I’m going to a wedding. I’m WFH now but in the office I wear a smart top, suit jacket type thing and trousers. I barely wear makeup.

I don’t think any woman of any age should be judged for what she wears in a society that so heavily makes women feel bad if we don’t fit a certain ideal. But if women are dressing less “sexily” that to me is no bad thing.

Icenii · 06/12/2020 20:02

But they are being judged, by other women this time. Damned if you do, damned if you don't. People need to stop projecting their current or past insecurities onto others.

berrygirlie · 06/12/2020 20:24

To every woman who's against women wearing sexy clothing because it makes you desperate / classless / blah blah, you better look AT LEAST as good if not better than these women if you were to wear sexy clothing. Else you're just slagging off more attractive women out out of insecurity or jealousy. I hope none of you saying these things try and claim you're a feminist.

naughtyelfs · 06/12/2020 20:33

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naughtyelfs · 06/12/2020 20:34

Those last 2 outfits are awful & your first pic is of a Kardashian, I'm confused as to what your point is.

berrygirlie · 06/12/2020 20:37

My point is they are women who are deserving of respect - they are not "desperate" or "trans" or any of the made up shite that other women use to beat them with. They look good.

Jenner is also not a Kardashian, but I'm confused as to your point there as well.

sofiaaaaaa · 06/12/2020 20:44

I’m in my 20s and if I/someone my age dressed “overtly sexy”, no one would call us “old fashioned”. What a weird take. We do still wear heels btw, but obviously haven’t had the chance much this year.

I was going to post photos but I’m sure someone on here would find a way to tear it apart!

naughtyelfs · 06/12/2020 20:45

I don't think their outfits look good no. Halsey is pretty but that dress doesn't look nice on her imo. Not sure who number 2 is but it's a horrible dress.

Jenner is also not a Kardashian, but I'm confused as to your point there as well.

She's still a Kardashian as in brand Kardashian. I think Kendal has a lovely figure but think it's a shame she messed with her face & for me she has zero sex appeal.

naughtyelfs · 06/12/2020 20:47

My point is they are women who are deserving of respect

What should I be respecting the Kardashians or the Jenners for?

berrygirlie · 06/12/2020 20:48

Great, you can find their outfits unattractive if you'd like to. You can find them unattractive if you'd like to. But what's not acceptable is demeaning women based on what they choose to wear or making judgements about their morals based on the quantity of boob or leg on display. Women have enough issues already.
I also don't know how one could consider any of these women "old fashioned" if I'm honest.

naughtyelfs · 06/12/2020 20:58

But you said

To every woman who's against women wearing sexy clothing because it makes you desperate / classless / blah blah, you better look AT LEAST as good if not better than these women if you were to wear sexy clothing.

I don't find those outfits sexy at all & the 2nd one is pretty old fashioned imo.

Is it ok if you don't make judgements about their morals but just dislike their outfits?

berrygirlie · 06/12/2020 21:05

Is it ok if you don't make judgements about their morals but just dislike their outfits?

Yes, of course. You can say "I don't like Kendall Jenner's outfit because it's not to my tastes as I personally prefer not to wear provocative clothing". But saying "I don't like Kendall Jenner's outfits because she looks like a desperate, old fashioned transman" is not acceptable.

I said "you better look AT LEAST as good if not better than these women if you were to wear sexy clothing." because to be slagging these women off for moral failings or other negative attributes solely based on what they wear appears (to me) to be some sign of jealousy or insecurity as else you'd just say it's not to your tastes. It's perfectly fine to not want to wear sexy clothing yourself, as it is perfectly fine to want to wear sexy clothing. The beration of women is the issue, not the personal preference.

naughtyelfs · 06/12/2020 21:05

These are what I consider sexy outfits that are also contemporary. Not everyone has the same definition of sexy or beauty & if you think someone looks bad it doesn't automatically make you insecure or jealous.

To think overtly sexy dressing looks very old fashioned?
To think overtly sexy dressing looks very old fashioned?
To think overtly sexy dressing looks very old fashioned?
naughtyelfs · 06/12/2020 21:06

It's perfectly fine to not want to wear sexy clothing yourself, as it is perfectly fine to want to wear sexy clothing.

But what is your definition of sexy clothing? I don't think those dresses you linked are sexy.

berrygirlie · 06/12/2020 21:07

someone looks bad it doesn't automatically make you insecure or jealous.

I've not said that. I've said if you slag off women with a different fashion preference to you, it does come off as jealous or insecure. Else you could easily say "I don't really like this style of fashion" and leave it at that.

naughtyelfs · 06/12/2020 21:08

But you keep saying they are dressed sexy, I don't think those outfits look sexy

berrygirlie · 06/12/2020 21:09

But what is your definition of sexy clothing? I don't think those dresses you linked are sexy.

I think taken in the context of PPs, "sexy" means provocative or risque in some way. Of course "sexy" to the individual is a personal choice, but I think that's how the word "sexy" is used in this context.

GreenlandTheMovie · 06/12/2020 21:16

I think try-too-hard dressing is old fashioned. Materials, cut, finish have all changed since that very obviously trying-to-be-sexy look was all you would see in magazines, and that seems favoured by Americans still.