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to feel so very unnerved by Britney’s Instagram?

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Lesserspottedmama · 05/12/2020 18:19

Just that. I rarely use Instagram but found myself scrolling Britney Spears account today. It’s incredibly unnerving. She is clearly very very unwell. I found some of her videos disturbing and hard to watch.

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Emeraldshamrock · 05/12/2020 19:27

Her DM agrees the relationship with her DF is toxic. Her sons have a restraining order against their Grandfather the eldest son was in a physical fight with his GF.
I didn't read rare dementia as diagnosed she has said in interview she struggles with bipolar disorder.

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SionnachRua · 05/12/2020 19:29

She's not posting it though, she's not allowed access to a phone

We don't know that for sure - we know she can't have a phone but iPads can access IG. The cynical part of me thinks she's being allowed on social media to keep the image of her as a broken, unstable woman in the public eye.

It's been a while since I was on her social media, the last time I was on was during summer when she was posting about some Rose Project thing which also seemed...well, not quite a stable thing to do. Don't know if she is still at it, I couldn't bear to keep watching.

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Emeraldshamrock · 05/12/2020 19:30

Why can't see have a phone like all sick people I'm sure some days are better than others.

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PatriciaPerch · 05/12/2020 19:30

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Emeraldshamrock · 05/12/2020 19:30

*she

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HopeAndDriftWood · 05/12/2020 19:31

Does anyone have an actual source to her not being allowed a phone or a partner? There was an interim order years ago but I can’t find anything more recent and it seems she does have access to her phone & her partner... The #FreeBritney movement doesn’t seem to believe that it’s not her posting, because they believe she’s sending secret messages through the photos.

I have some personal experience with an illness similar to hers - not myself, but someone I’m very close to - and I think it’s really easy to criticise how she could be managed better until you have to do it.

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vanillandhoney · 05/12/2020 19:31

@Emeraldshamrock

Why can't see have a phone like all sick people I'm sure some days are better than others.

Because she's under the control of her father. He has a conservatorship out and as a result she has no right to make decisions for herself.

Look up the "Free Britney" movement.
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Lesserspottedmama · 05/12/2020 19:32

@Bluntness100 - if her condition is genetic I think it’s fair to say her life and environment has certainly had an impact.

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Daisy829 · 05/12/2020 19:33

This is so sad. I loved Britney in her hey day. Such a shame she struggles.

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Rhine · 05/12/2020 19:33

I was always under the impression that she’s bipolar, but obviously there’s a lot more to it than just that. It’s very disturbing to look at her IG feed isn’t it?

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CoronaIsWatching · 05/12/2020 19:33

One of the conditions of the conservatorship is that she is not allowed to drive. Anyway what kicked off this whole Free Britney movement was that she was photographed driving to a drive thru burger place, she was promptly thrown into a mental institution for three months as a result.

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SebastianTheCrab · 05/12/2020 19:36

I find it really sad too. I saw her in Vegas and in concert a few times but after her breakdown. She's clearly extremely unwell.

I actually agree with the conservatorship though - it's clear she can't be trusted to look after her own affairs. Every guy she ever went with (after Justin sob) was a com0lete loser. Remember the paparazzo she lived with?

Check out her sister Jamie Lynn's Insta too. Some incredibly uncomfortable pics of Jamie's teen daughter looking deeply uncomfortable next to her step dad (Jamie's husband). A few people in the comments noted it and then Jamie turned the comments off. I pray her daughter is OK.

https://www.instagram.com/p/CBs4ooUg4NQ/?igshid=5pohm5qjhaph

https://www.instagram.com/p/B-3bA2ig7f_/?igshid=jj8exzhk51kx

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Passmeabottlemrjones · 05/12/2020 19:36

There was a video on her Insta a few weeks ago of her basically doing a stripper dance without the clothes removal bit, it was very sexual, much more so than her usual spinning around stuff and lots of people were commenting that it was really uncomfortable. The next time I looked at her page it had been deleted.

Her Q and A videos are also pretty disturbing. The really fast talking, the rocking from side to side, it's literally like watching a child. It makes me so sad to watch.

Her 'boyfriend' can't actually be her boyfriend can he? They can't have a sexual relationship etc if she is deemed incapable of looking after herself? What's the deal there?

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ArmsClary · 05/12/2020 19:37

What’s not understood is is he doing it in her best interests, and the courts, and the huge medical team the court put into independently assess her feel he is. And that she needs this. Hence why they have continued it.

The fact she might want to go do stuff, or be pissed her dad doesn’t let her, is actually irrelevant it’s whether she’s capable of doing that stuff and the decision to do it is in her best interests.


Excellent point. I wish more of her 'fans' understood this.

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ArmsClary · 05/12/2020 19:37

That was supposed to be in bold Hmm

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ReallySpicyCurry · 05/12/2020 19:40

Something like dementia makes sense in that she seems very frozen in time - it's as though she's gone back to being that childlike, performing, cutesy teen, circa the Hit Me Baby era. Yet that wasn't how she was pre breakdown - she went on to do more "grown up" stuff, and wasn't she in a few films? But now she's reverted back to a certain point in her life.

Which is all a convenient explanation for not allowing her to manage her own affairs but on the other hand, if she is that ill, why do they wheel her out for interviews and to do that Vegas residency?

Either she's incurably ill and incapable of making basic decisions, in which case it's cruel to have her doing the things she does, or else she's not.

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CoronaIsWatching · 05/12/2020 19:40

@ArmsClary

*What’s not understood is is he doing it in her best interests, and the courts, and the huge medical team the court put into independently assess her feel he is. And that she needs this. Hence why they have continued it.

The fact she might want to go do stuff, or be pissed her dad doesn’t let her, is actually irrelevant it’s whether she’s capable of doing that stuff and the decision to do it is in her best interests.*

Excellent point. I wish more of her 'fans' understood this.

There is no huge medical team, she had one doctor that was paid for by her father.
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leopardspotsdotdotdot · 05/12/2020 19:40

You don’t need a phone to post to Instagram though @CoronaIsWatching. Even if the phone thing is true

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CloudMoon · 05/12/2020 19:44

To PP. She does not "require" a cocktail of medication. She's been coerced and forced into her situation of medication and lifelong conservatorship. Her money is used to fund the lives of all those around her - it's not even her own to use. She's not had supportive and loving people around her for well over a decade, if not more (or ever). To say she is clearly unwell is true - but that's not down to something intrinsic physically. Getting away from her father and other toxic family members, the people controlling her life/ money/ movements and being able to live freely which will be the start of her healing. But she is not free and therefore not in a position to start healing in any sense of the word. It is sad. She has said herself she wants freedom in life. And to stop working. But for her family, she is and always be the little workhorse without a right to autonomy. Would have sent anyone mad. Her spark was lost long ago.

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Staffy1 · 05/12/2020 19:44

[quote Thecherryontheverytop]@SleepingStandingUp

I dont know him, I dont know her, I dont know the dynamics of their relationship.

To me it looks like an awkwardly posed photo wheres hes framing her face with his hands..but it just looks awkward to me, his hand aren't even touching her though so I think it's a big leap to say its a photo of him with his hands around her neck like he's strangling her.[/quote]
Agreed. He's trying to get her to pose by the look of it. Strangling is quite a leap.

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SebastianTheCrab · 05/12/2020 19:46

@ReallySpicyCurry

Something like dementia makes sense in that she seems very frozen in time - it's as though she's gone back to being that childlike, performing, cutesy teen, circa the Hit Me Baby era. Yet that wasn't how she was pre breakdown - she went on to do more "grown up" stuff, and wasn't she in a few films? But now she's reverted back to a certain point in her life.

Which is all a convenient explanation for not allowing her to manage her own affairs but on the other hand, if she is that ill, why do they wheel her out for interviews and to do that Vegas residency?

Either she's incurably ill and incapable of making basic decisions, in which case it's cruel to have her doing the things she does, or else she's not.


Her last Vegas residency was cancelled 2 years ago and she hasn't done an interview in years.

The residency, when she did it, was probably helpful in terms of giving her something to do that was relatively stable - unlike touring, with all the movement, time zone changes etc. With a residency you're doing the same thing day in day out.
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Zofloramummy · 05/12/2020 19:46

The one thing that’s always made me uncomfortable is the residencies in Las Vegas, the tours and albums after she was deemed to lack capacity. @Bluntness100 is absolutely correct the conservatorship was granted on the basis of dementia. But I question the morality of a parent who still tries (and succeeds) in making millions of dollars from his unstable and unwell daughter.

She lost custody due to her father physically assaulting her oldest child. Is he really the best person to be her guardian? I also think her boyfriend is an employee of her father

On the whole I feel incredibly sad for her, I hope she is receiving the best care.

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Passmeabottlemrjones · 05/12/2020 19:47

@CloudMoon

To PP. She does not "require" a cocktail of medication. She's been coerced and forced into her situation of medication and lifelong conservatorship. Her money is used to fund the lives of all those around her - it's not even her own to use. She's not had supportive and loving people around her for well over a decade, if not more (or ever). To say she is clearly unwell is true - but that's not down to something intrinsic physically. Getting away from her father and other toxic family members, the people controlling her life/ money/ movements and being able to live freely which will be the start of her healing. But she is not free and therefore not in a position to start healing in any sense of the word. It is sad. She has said herself she wants freedom in life. And to stop working. But for her family, she is and always be the little workhorse without a right to autonomy. Would have sent anyone mad. Her spark was lost long ago.

Do you know her personally or something? Confused
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leopardspotsdotdotdot · 05/12/2020 19:47

She to me appears like she may have bipolar, and so may be up and down in terms of mood, mania and episodes. It’s manageable but will cycle.

I would imagine that her early fame, press intrusion must cause added pressure on any mental health issues too.

I believe that is her boyfriend, and I think I’ve seen evidence she has a phone, I’m not sure any court could limit either of those things unless she deemed completely unfit to make her own decisions and those choices put her at risk of abuse. I obviously don’t know what’s going on, just my personal speculation.

She’s seems happy and kind, despite appearing unwell. Which is a positive at least.

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vanillandhoney · 05/12/2020 19:48

@Zofloramummy

The one thing that’s always made me uncomfortable is the residencies in Las Vegas, the tours and albums after she was deemed to lack capacity. *@Bluntness100* is absolutely correct the conservatorship was granted on the basis of dementia. But I question the morality of a parent who still tries (and succeeds) in making millions of dollars from his unstable and unwell daughter.

She lost custody due to her father physically assaulting her oldest child. Is he really the best person to be her guardian? I also think her boyfriend is an employee of her father

On the whole I feel incredibly sad for her, I hope she is receiving the best care.

Exactly. Are we really supposed to believe she's too unwell to own a mobile phone but well enough to tour and make albums? Hmm
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