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to feel so very unnerved by Britney’s Instagram?

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Lesserspottedmama · 05/12/2020 18:19

Just that. I rarely use Instagram but found myself scrolling Britney Spears account today. It’s incredibly unnerving. She is clearly very very unwell. I found some of her videos disturbing and hard to watch.

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Audreyseyebrows · 05/12/2020 20:17

Stop looking. It’s a car crash and you are gawping.

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Emeraldshamrock · 05/12/2020 20:18

It is shocking they get away with it.

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shamalidacdak · 05/12/2020 20:18

Sorry but I don't see what you all see. I see a bipolar person who is not managing her meds well expressing herself on Instagram. She can't just go for a walk or do regular things in public like We can. Yes the conservator issue is troubling but what do we know? Maybe it's in her best interest. If she was a regular person she would be regularly sectioned but she is not regular and can stay home with staff to look after her. Stop making wild assumptions when you don't know what's really going on

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Zofloramummy · 05/12/2020 20:18

@Emeraldshamrock amazing how she still managed to perform, have a residency and record albums afterwards as dementia is a deteriorating condition.

I would not be at all surprised to find that she actually has a different mental health illness.

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Hellothere19999 · 05/12/2020 20:19

@viagrafalls that article is really sad. Especially the comment “in another life she walked away from fame and is living on a ranch with her two boys” 😢

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Isitrainingihadntnoticed · 05/12/2020 20:20

I watched an old Britney music video for the song "lucky" the other week so so sad. But I had to mute Britney's IG. It was becoming too disturbing especially with project Rose?

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vanillandhoney · 05/12/2020 20:21

@shamalidacdak

Sorry but I don't see what you all see. I see a bipolar person who is not managing her meds well expressing herself on Instagram. She can't just go for a walk or do regular things in public like We can. Yes the conservator issue is troubling but what do we know? Maybe it's in her best interest. If she was a regular person she would be regularly sectioned but she is not regular and can stay home with staff to look after her. Stop making wild assumptions when you don't know what's really going on

If she's so unwell, how is she allowed to perform in public and make albums?
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Edel2019 · 05/12/2020 20:26

@shamalidacdak

Sorry but I don't see what you all see. I see a bipolar person who is not managing her meds well expressing herself on Instagram. She can't just go for a walk or do regular things in public like We can. Yes the conservator issue is troubling but what do we know? Maybe it's in her best interest. If she was a regular person she would be regularly sectioned but she is not regular and can stay home with staff to look after her. Stop making wild assumptions when you don't know what's really going on

Isn't it a wild assumption saying she's bipolar? You know that for a fact eh?
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EmilyinWolverhampton · 05/12/2020 20:27

How odd it wouldn’t be moved to her entirely if that is what the request was.

The stuff with the sister has nothing to do with the conservatorship in any way. Neither Britney nor her sister have ever requested or even raised the possibility of the sister becoming involved with the conservatorship, afaik. The issue of what happens to Britney's trust after she dies is a completely separate, unrelated issue.

Her sister gets an allowance to look after the trust, and bought a very nice new house recently

That's an unkind insinuation. The trust does not even become active unless Britney dies, and obviously Britney wants to ensure her children are taken care of after her death. Britney and her sister appear to be close and to love each other.

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Zofloramummy · 05/12/2020 20:27

@shamalidacdak I think what people are concerned about is the exploitation of a woman who is obviously unwell. Many people have experienced some form of restriction to their Liberty due to mental health illness, very very few are able to perform at a world class level, and record albums whilst also prevented from going out for a burger without permission.

What is concerning people isn’t a denial of any mental health illness, it’s pretty clear that she is unwell, it’s how the people with power over her are behaving and I cannot see how they have her best interests at heart, only those bank balance.

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ancientgran · 05/12/2020 20:27

Anyone see the elderly man with dementia on BBC? He composed some music live on the BBC morning news, it was recorded by the BBC orchestra and being released. Dementia is a funny thing, performing might be something she enjoys and can still do, would you deny her that.

Same with comments like this, Her 'boyfriend' can't actually be her boyfriend can he? They can't have a sexual relationship etc if she is deemed incapable of looking after herself? What's the deal there? Many mentally ill people have sexual relationships, are we going to deny them that as well?

People worry about her being controlled but seem to be in favour of her being forced to have her hair "done" not allowed to perform and not have the sort of relationships that everyone is entitled to.

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Edel2019 · 05/12/2020 20:28

[quote Lesserspottedmama]@FrancoBranco - exactly this! She has made a huge amount of money, yet it seems her quality of care is horrendous. She should have a team of lovely people looking after her, taking her out places she wants to go to, giving all the best treatment and care.. lots of holistic stuff as well as meds and therapy.[/quote]
I totally agree

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SionnachRua · 05/12/2020 20:28

@ancientgran

It seems strange that people are complaining about her life being controlled and then suggesting she should be forced to have her hair done to what they consider an acceptable standard. Even mentally ill people can make some decisions and doing their hair is one of them.

So you think she chose to walk around with clumpy, matted extensions? That's an odd call to make on the situation.

If she truly is very unwell then people should be taking physical care of her, just as you'd do for an advanced dementia sufferer or a young child. If she isn't then all well and good but it's unlikely that most people would choose to look that way.
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MorganKitten · 05/12/2020 20:29
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notacooldad · 05/12/2020 20:29

There's a few episodes on 'Even the rich' podcast about her life. It us absolutely heartbreaking.

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Zofloramummy · 05/12/2020 20:30

Also it is really rare for a life long order to be placed on such a young woman, most are reviewed regularly, the nature of Britney’s conservatorship is concerning as all independent medical and legal representation is denied her.

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TatianaBis · 05/12/2020 20:30

@shamalidacdak

Sorry but I don't see what you all see. I see a bipolar person who is not managing her meds well expressing herself on Instagram. She can't just go for a walk or do regular things in public like We can. Yes the conservator issue is troubling but what do we know? Maybe it's in her best interest. If she was a regular person she would be regularly sectioned but she is not regular and can stay home with staff to look after her. Stop making wild assumptions when you don't know what's really going on

How would it be in any mentally ill person’s best interest to be under the control of a person with whom they have “no viable working relationship", have not spoken in a "long while", and are “afraid of”. A person they have to employ a lawyer to try to get rid of (and fail).

If anything would be likely to exacerbate mental illness it would be that.
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MaryMashedThem · 05/12/2020 20:31

I don't actually see anything that different on her Insta than on most other young female celebs. Endless selfies, attempts at sexy dancing / yoga poses, and the odd "inspirational" quote.
But I know nothing about her personal life; I don't even know what a conservatorship is. So maybe if you're looking at it with prior knowledge of her having some MH issues then you interpret her posts in a way that reaffirms that 🤷🏼‍♀️

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ancientgran · 05/12/2020 20:31

If she truly is very unwell then people should be taking physical care of her, just as you'd do for an advanced dementia sufferer or a young child. If she isn't then all well and good but it's unlikely that most people would choose to look that way. People with mental illness do make decisions about not wanting to care for themselves in what we might consider a "normal" way. What do you suggest? How much force do you think should be used on her to get her hair to the standard you require?

What you do is encourage, help and take opportunities when they arise.

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Zofloramummy · 05/12/2020 20:34

@ancientgran you aren’t wrong in that many people with mental illness enjoy sexual relationships. The issue here is that Britney has been legally deemed to lack capacity. That means she is unable to make rational decisions or consent. By its very definition that would make her unable to consent to sex in legal terms.

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MorganKitten · 05/12/2020 20:34

@EmilyinWolverhampton

How odd it wouldn’t be moved to her entirely if that is what the request was.

The stuff with the sister has nothing to do with the conservatorship in any way. Neither Britney nor her sister have ever requested or even raised the possibility of the sister becoming involved with the conservatorship, afaik. The issue of what happens to Britney's trust after she dies is a completely separate, unrelated issue.

Her sister gets an allowance to look after the trust, and bought a very nice new house recently

That's an unkind insinuation. The trust does not even become active unless Britney dies, and obviously Britney wants to ensure her children are taken care of after her death. Britney and her sister appear to be close and to love each other.

You know Jamie Lynn has had part control of the estate since 2018. She has power to move money around to and from the boys trust Britney set up in 2004.

Jamie Spears takes an annual salary of roughly $130,000 (£104,000) for his role of taking care of his daughter's finances and overseeing her mental health.... Jamie Lynn also gets a wage.
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Emeraldshamrock · 05/12/2020 20:34

I watched a clip on the case there on YouTube. Her update when wearing the white top to say she was really happy now was horrible very disturbing. Sad

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wonderstuff · 05/12/2020 20:35

Controlling the lives of mad women is as old as the hills. How desperately sad that she's in this situation.

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TatianaBis · 05/12/2020 20:35

maybe if you're looking at it with prior knowledge of her having some MH issues then you interpret her posts in a way that reaffirms that

I know nothing about her. Tbh I had no idea she was mentally ill. The footage I saw was clearly of someone unwell.

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Esse321 · 05/12/2020 20:35

There was a recent Perez Hilton video that showed a clip of her son, its quite sad - but it seems she hasn't performed or recorded for 3 years, I think she has hinted about bi-polar in interviews before and having a family member with a similar illness I know how tricky the medication thing can be.

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