Page 13 | To have judged? Awh feckit. Yes I judged, I VERY judged.

Farkinell · 2020-12-03T21:52:04+00:00

Was in slow moving traffic today. Big fuck off black BMW (suv/mpv/hpv??? who the eff knows) was coming towards me on other side of road. Saw what I thought was a TV monitor in front passenger seat angled forwards. Strange, I thought. Surely a passenger would be holding it and it would be facing backwards?? But LO! It *was* angled towards the passenger. [confused] A teeny baby in the carry part of travel system, backwards facing. A tablet set up, plating a cartoon for a young baby to watch in the car. Just Goodness Gracious. Let's get them Oblong Addicted early, yeah?

Mistigri · 05/12/2020 08:46

Why? I drive a four by four because l live rurally and the roads are shit. Would you like me to avoid going into the city in my car, or you do feel I need a spare car to use for city trips?

I'm afraid I still judge you and your gas-guzzling, road hogging, dangerous vehicle. I have also lived (very) rurally and most people who aren't farmers don't need 4x4s if they make sensible choices eg about winter tyres.

Bluntness100 · 05/12/2020 08:56

I think I’ll live with your judgement, 🤦🏻‍♀️

MrsToothyBitch · 05/12/2020 09:02

DP has just reminded me that his big, black BMW is the only car for smaller size car seats out of both our vehicles. I literally would be the person being judged in the OP if we had a car hating child!

Sockwomble · 05/12/2020 09:06

"I judge people that use iPads / phones in restaurants and can’t have normal conversations with their kids, so no I would have judged too!"

I judge people who can't see their own privilege in being able to have a normal conversation with their child in a restaurant or anywhere else.

User56770987 · 05/12/2020 09:09

Why does it matter to you?

MrsBobDylan · 05/12/2020 09:19

@SinkGirl I wouldn't judge you, not one bit! I would admire you for getting out with twins who are both autistic and being able to juggle the necessary tech with trying to eat something.

My ds is 10 now and even eats his dinner at home with his screen. His younger brother is very put out that he isn't allowed to do the same but understands his brother needs it in order to eat. And he's six. People can judge away as I don't give a shit what anyone thinks anymore. It's very liberating!

Ironingontheceiling · 05/12/2020 09:35

Everyone’s individual circumstances are different. What do,you,get from judging?you get to look down on me and feel superior?

Well done you.

You have no idea what that person you saw 5 seconds of their life when they were beside you in a queue of traffic is going through.

My kids are grown now and I’ve lived through some absolutely shitty times when my parenting was less than optimal. Based on a snapshot.

The week when they had too many McDonald’s.

The day I shouted unfairly.

The days dd got a dvd in the car.

The day told my then almost adult son to stop being a dickhead and if he didn’t he could fuck off.

What you don’t see is the rest of it. The fact that I was abandoned by my now ex two weeks after dd was born because he went to work abroad. The fact that that day, I had been told I had cancer. The fact that I HAD to get my other kids to school and the only normal school (bear in mind, 20 + years ago) that would take the one with SN was the other side of town and I wanted that child to go to a normal school. The winding up that son had done and the demands he was making every day that were pulling me in every direction when I had no money and couldn’t give him what he wanted.

Tellmetruth4 · 05/12/2020 10:25

Why are the judgers are under the impression that anyone else gives a shit if some purse lipped women with nothing going on in their own lives are judging them?

AlwaysBehindTheCurve · 05/12/2020 10:59

@Tellmetruth4

Why are the judgers are under the impression that anyone else gives a shit if some purse lipped women with nothing going on in their own lives are judging them?

That’s what I always think. I honestly couldn’t care less what some random who has absolutely no idea about my life and circumstances thinks about me.

Pegase · 05/12/2020 19:16

I clearly do have self control. The self control to not resort to screen use as the easy option. I very seriously doubt that most people here justifying screen use to stop crying (when there are no additional needs) decide to only use it as a last resort in desperate times but never let their baby watch it otherwise. I very much doubt it. Self control is not defined as rationing over abstinence.

AlwaysBehindTheCurve · 05/12/2020 19:17

@Pegase

I clearly do have self control. The self control to not resort to screen use as the easy option. I very seriously doubt that most people here justifying screen use to stop crying (when there are no additional needs) decide to only use it as a last resort in desperate times but never let their baby watch it otherwise. I very much doubt it. Self control is not defined as rationing over abstinence.

You can doubt whatever you want, no one cares.

Didthatreallyhappen · 05/12/2020 19:18

Perhaps the baby was screaming and distracting the driver?

Pegase · 05/12/2020 19:25

I'm sure they don't care but we are all expressing our opinion aren't we even though we have differing ones. I mean literally all discussions on MN where we heartily disagree but do get to hear others opinions could be shut down by 'nobody cares.' And what a boring world that would be

mbosnz · 05/12/2020 19:29

I'd hope that the airbag had been disabled.

jessstan1 · 06/12/2020 01:11

@Didthatreallyhappen

Perhaps the baby was screaming and distracting the driver?

Yes, that.

If it was a long journey and kept the baby amused I see nothing wrong with it. We don't need to automatically assume that the baby is forever in front of a screen just because they were for a while in a car.

I can't imagine voyeuring on something like that and then becoming judgemental about it to the extent I feel the need to vent on a forum. People do what they have to do at the time.

HollyCarrot · 06/12/2020 02:17

@User56770987

Why does it matter to you?

This says it all Really

Wheresmykimchi · 13/12/2020 20:48

@Ironingontheceiling

Everyone’s individual circumstances are different. What do,you,get from judging?you get to look down on me and feel superior?

Well done you.

You have no idea what that person you saw 5 seconds of their life when they were beside you in a queue of traffic is going through.

My kids are grown now and I’ve lived through some absolutely shitty times when my parenting was less than optimal. Based on a snapshot.

The week when they had too many McDonald’s.

The day I shouted unfairly.

The days dd got a dvd in the car.

The day told my then almost adult son to stop being a dickhead and if he didn’t he could fuck off.

What you don’t see is the rest of it. The fact that I was abandoned by my now ex two weeks after dd was born because he went to work abroad. The fact that that day, I had been told I had cancer. The fact that I HAD to get my other kids to school and the only normal school (bear in mind, 20 + years ago) that would take the one with SN was the other side of town and I wanted that child to go to a normal school. The winding up that son had done and the demands he was making every day that were pulling me in every direction when I had no money and couldn’t give him what he wanted.