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AIBU?

He's planning to sell the house behind her back

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Returnofthemaccys · 02/12/2020 23:52

Hi, I'd welcome any advice about what to do and whether this is legal.

DH's brother is married and lives in Scotland. He bought a house with a deposit that he saved up while married. Only his name is on the deeds even though they were married when he bought it about a year ago. Their marriage is in trouble and wife has moved in with her parents 8 months ago but continues to pay the mortgage as he has lost his job and she feels sorry for him. The marriage breakdown is largely due to his behaviour (which also caused him to lose the job). Wife moved back in recently but is now saying it's over and she wants a divorce.

I've found out from DH tonight that BIL is planning to sell the house behind her back. He's going to sell it to a friend who wants to flip it as an investment property so it won't be on the market, no viewings etc. Friend will then rent it to him until after the divorce so that SIL can't get half of the deposit equity. SIL pays the mortgage by putting money in his account and he pays so I think she'll never know.

My two questions are 1) Can he do this in Scotland and get away with it, both in terms of her not knowing it's being sold out from under her and in terms of her not being entitled to the money from it in the divorce if she files for divorce after the sale? and 2) Should I tell her? I don't know her very well at all but could contact her, but it's really none of my business. My loyalty is very technically with DH's brother though actually I'm disgusted by many aspects of his behaviour. But MIL is fully on board and knows and is championing this so me getting involved would massively rock the boat.

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mumduty · 03/12/2020 19:51

I would tell her op. Send a anonymous letter.

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CaptainVanesHair · 04/12/2020 09:11

@Poppyolive90

CaptainVanesHair I’d make my husband go and get it and would probably cut off the MIL to be honest

He’s still got his head in the sand that that’s what she did. And FIL has no idea, as he still talks about when they helped us with x and y (which the money was for) and how glad he was that they could help.
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SchadenfreudePersonified · 04/12/2020 09:17

In that case I'd be tempted to drop her in the mire the next time he says something like that.

"So glad we could help you out"

"Yes it was wonderful of you. By the way MIL, when are you going to transfer that 12 grand back to our joint account? We could really do with the money at the moment"

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