Is this behaviour bizarre? (IL related)

[justaquicknamechange1]

Have nc'd as have told a few friends about this in RL and obviously don't want to be outed.

DD has her first session at nursery next week - she's doing an hour long settle session. She's only ever been left with DH, for a maximum of 2hrs, so I am dreading it a little bit (more so for me, I'm sure she'll be fine).

ILs have asked if they can come and "see her off" aka watch me drop her into nursery. I said no because a. There's absolutely no need for them to come. They can't come into the nursery, they'll literally be watching me and her walk in through the door; b. DD doesn't see them very often so it will just add to the confusion; c. I might get upset, DD might get upset and they'll just be there with their judgy pants on and most importantly d. I don't want them there.

MIL's now posting on social media about feeling pushed out, uninvolved etc.

Before I tell DH to give her head a wobble, what's the general consensus on this?

[quote justaquicknamechange1]@Holdmysandwichplease that's horrid! Poor you

Today MIL has shared a meme saying:
Once you feel you are ignored by someone, never disturb them again.

Answers on a postcard as to what I should comment (feeling a bit petty). My DSis has suggested "r u ok hun "[/quote]
"Is that a promise?"

Your DD is only 10 months! Given how unreasonable she’s been twice now, I’d get used to following a script. If she makes another batshit suggestion; 1. Choose an option that’s best for you DD/ offer her a reasonable alternative, as you have done 2. Ignore any passive aggressive behaviour, if she wants to complain she needs to muster the balls to complain to you directly and 3. Do not give her any headspace!

I would seriously block her on Facebook. You don't need to see her BS.

Your MIL sounds nuts very very odd behaviour, especially the passive aggressive facebook posts! Glad your DH is supporting you

@IsFinnRogersDead

Joking aside, as I said before, we generally have little to do with her and although her behaviour has been questionable, she certainly isn't as bad as some of the MN MILs can be. Just a bit annoying at times.

I certainly am not going to lose sleep over her.

Stop sending her update pictures! She sounds deranged! 😳😐😳

[quote justaquicknamechange1]@Holdmysandwichplease that's horrid! Poor you

Today MIL has shared a meme saying:
Once you feel you are ignored by someone, never disturb them again.

Answers on a postcard as to what I should comment (feeling a bit petty). My DSis has suggested "r u ok hun "[/quote]
Nooooo!
Don't reply, that will play into her hand.

They sound like proud and caring grandparents and you should allow them to share in this step of your child’s life

Oh god this reminded me of my daughter's settling in sessions at nursery, she was to stay at
nursery for a few hours, MIL insisted on coming to drop off, then couldn't take the fact that DD was crying when the teacher came and took her.
MIL and I got back in the car and I tried to reassure my hysterically crying MIL that DD would be okay and she yelled "you've left her in a prison".
Fucking hell the drama!! She then decided not to speak to me and DH for several days.

@hulahooper2

They sound like proud and caring grandparents and you should allow them to share in this step of your child’s life

Are we reading the same posts???

Remember when your dd gets a dose of d&v to send them pics
...
10 months old and so ott already!!

I can’t believe she thinks it’s ok to trash you on Facebook. I’d be getting DH to nip
That in the bud ASAP.