Someone else’s KNICKERS down the sofa - balance of possibilities?

[SuspiciousAboutKnickers]

This incident happened a few years ago but DH recently reminded me of it .

A pair of skimpy black knickers was found by me stuffed down the side of the sofa. I’m pretty thorough on cleaning and regularly wiped down and hoovered down the sides of said (leather) sofa so they couldn’t have been there long. Sofa was quite new and bought new not secondhand.

We’d recently had our DC’s birthday party.

DH’s ‘suggestion’ was that they had dropped out of one of DC’s friend’s mothers handbags while they were sitting there waiting for party to finish. Possibly no more than 10 minutes. Would you not notice that a pair of knickers had fallen out of your handbag while sitting on a sofa though? How much moving around would you have to do to get them wedged down the side of the sofa?

AIBU to think this was very fishy?

I agree with @Hesnotlocal ** I'd also be suspicious as to why he is bringing it up now, though understand the context. I wonder if he's still getting a thrill out of the incident(s) and that he/they got away with it. Can you talk to someone you trust, outside the family?

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My theory is DH was using them whilst wanking. Explains why he thought about the incident when discussing his porn habit.

To be fair I’ve found knickers in my car when they’ve been stuck to a fluffy jumper up the arm or similar 🤷🏻‍♀️ I feel like you know when your partner is lying or at least being suspicious. Why would he bring it up again?

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It has been missing for a week

@MatildaonaWaltzer

Giant beige elastic ones, abandoned on the floor of our downstairs loo. We had found them before the poor, poor babysitter phoned to say she'd left them behind and could we bin them. (her reasoning was she'd come straight from work and menopausal and hot)

I don’t understand this, so she was hot and took her knickers off to cool down?

I have never in my life had sex and then left my knickers at the sex location because I unaccountably forgot to put them on afterwards. Is this really a normal thing?

I'd say no, but then I once went for a smear test and the lady before me had left her knickers behind so who knows?

Well you already know he’s lying to you about the porn so he doesn’t have a great track record... I’m amazed you let it go tbh.

Years I ago I was living in a flat with a couple of uni friends. We were all good mates and went away together for a few days, leaving the flat empty. Only when we came back there was a big pair of (used) bridget jones style knickers lying right in the middle of the bathroom floor... each of us assumed it was belonged to one of the others and it took us a few awkward days for someone to bring it up - only to then establish that they weren't belonged to any of us! Presumably a previous tenant came to stay, but why leave your big used granny pants on the floor?! The mind boggles!!

I think this is just one of those weird things that happen with no explanation. Socks disappear, knickers turn up. Doesn't mean anything beyond the universe trying to mess with your head.

@TimeQuest01 - she got hot so brought a change of clothes, I think? Frankly did not want to delve too deeply into the issue and how she came to fail to notice them right in the middle of the floor.

Found a used pantyliner on the kitchen floor once. It wasn't one I used, and no other women in the house.

I once found a massive bag of syringe needles behind a desk once. My only realistic arguement was that they were an ex-tenants that had been wedged behind the radiator for over a year.

Knickers though... difficult. Could be a laundry mishap. Could be an affair.

No idea OP - but I'd have wanted to resolve this before now if it happened a few years ago.

I have never found knickers in my house but I did go to a large company who provide data centres to discuss a deal with them. When I went to take a seat in their (very posh) meeting room I pulled out the chair and there were a paid of black/red skimpy knickers on the chair. I immediately laughed, told the guy I was meeting - cue lots of embarrassment (apparently) and a bit of laughter. He removed them and we moved on to the discussion.

I then returned some weeks later for another meeting, said to my colleague "hope we don't find another pair of knickers in their meeting room".... when I sat down on the chair next to me there were another pair of skimpy knickers - well a black thong this time.

I have always wondered if (a) they just had a serial shagger who used their meeting rooms or (b) the guy got kicks from planting them there deliberately to embarrass people in some weird way.

Very fishy.

Socks disappear, knickers turn up. Doesn't mean anything beyond the universe trying to mess with your head.

No skimpy knickers ever turned up in my house, no siree.

My dog brought in another mans shoe.
Abusive ex went mental.
He’d honestly just picked it up from outside (my guess is the neighbours house)

I would probably say this is just your DH being a twat and reminding himself how clever he was

Interestingly your DH didn’t query you about the matter. If he had no knowledge then would it not be logical to question you about it? Perhaps you’ve had a secret lover of either Male or female persuasion. I assume not but how would he know that.

Why would her husband be suspicious? The OP was the one who found them - if she had a secret lover she'd hardly be likely to announce that their knickers had got stuck down the back of the sofa, instead of discreetly binning them or hiding them among her own clothes.

I'd be suspicious personally try and have look through partners phone and socials

I once showered at a friend's house, after staying the night, and borrowed their housemate's dressing gown (with permission) to go to and from the bathroom. It was only when I got home and a few hours later that I realised in horror I'd stuck my old pair of pants in the pocket of said dressing gown to go back to my room.
A horror filled phonecall quickly occurred to see if my friend was at home and could sneak into their housemate's room and retrieve said knickers. She never fails to remind me of it now.

I don't really have any advice for down the back of the sofa knickers, apart from to say people do really weird things. My vote could definitely be for another child's parent realising they've got knickers stuck to their cardigan and quickly shoving them down the side with the plan to retrieve in a second when no one is looking. Then child does something/says something and the thought it gone. Perhaps take sympathy in the thought that some poor lady is out there probably still reeling in mortification that she's accidentally left her knickers down your sofa.

Is he the sort of guy who would nick them off a washing line to add a bit of excitement to a solo session? He might have stuffed them down the side of the sofa if you came home early and nearly caught him at it.
Maybe i should start writing for the Daily Fail

In my younger days I definitely could’ve had random knickers in my bag which then fell out at a friends house etc if I was pissed.
There really could be a normal explanation. Especially if he brought this up as why on earth would he otherwise

I found knickers in my house once, we had lived here for about six months and a babygro fell behind a radiator. Fishing it out I also discovered a pair of pants. They had clearly been there for an age, totally covered in dust, from the previous ownerI assume.

I know someone who found her husband’s mistress’ pants in their car. Said mistress had done it deliberately 🤫

Great believer of Occam's razor here.

I have also read I was the OW AMA threads and you'd be surprised how many people have sex at someone's home and "forget" their underwear in the dash to leave. One person said she did it deliberately to try to force him to leave his wife.