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To ask do you still kiss with tongues?

142 replies

Bananawho · 28/11/2020 20:30

I have been with my DH a while
And recently realized we dont do it anymore except in bed
I miss it and dont know why it stops in long relationships

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Bananawho · 29/11/2020 12:04

@bellinique
Thank youSmile
Did you read the article I posted earlier?
Try surprising him with french kisses like that and see if it works
Might b your only hope for a proper kiss
I wont give up on you👍
Everyone should be able to snog their DH

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Bananawho · 29/11/2020 12:15

@ThornAmongstRoses good for you👍
I'm glad some mums are still getting some nice kisses
I would not want my kids to see that either tho haha!

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LuckyAmy1986 · 29/11/2020 12:23

Yes, quite often.

CarolinaPink · 29/11/2020 12:23

Wow! It's such a relief to finally discover that I'm not the only person who has never liked doing this :)

Chewwithyourfuckingmouthclosed · 29/11/2020 12:27

@sanityisamyth

It really was!! He lost quite a few teeth because of it. Hygiene wasn't high on his list of priorities. He'd shower about as frequently as well! There are many reasons he's an ex ...
I had one of those! He got really angry with me when I wouldn't suck his rotten stinking cock too! Good luck to the poor twat he cheated on me with Grin
Chewwithyourfuckingmouthclosed · 29/11/2020 12:29

To answer the original question, I've always preferred a passionate kiss over a snog. We only really snog when we are getting intimate

M0rT · 29/11/2020 12:33

I was only thinking yesterday how we don't anymore and I miss it.
I think it's just slid out of routine so I am going to make a concerted effort to bring it back, thanks for the inspiration.

CharlotteCollinsneeLucas · 29/11/2020 12:47

Ah, that's a great update, OP! I had a fourteen year relationship without any sort of kissing in. Never thought I'd be with anyone who'd kiss me, but DH and I kiss with tongues most days and it always leaves me weak at the knees whether it leads to sex or not!

Ludoole · 29/11/2020 12:55

God i miss kisses like we used to have Sad.
The only time he attempts to kiss me like that is occasionally during sex, which is pretty awful when he's a morning person and we both have morning breath. Its definitely not sensual in that case!!

Bananawho · 29/11/2020 13:41

@M0rT

I was only thinking yesterday how we don't anymore and I miss it. I think it's just slid out of routine so I am going to make a concerted effort to bring it back, thanks for the inspiration.
@M0rT Glad to be an inspiration lol Let us know how it goes!
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Bananawho · 29/11/2020 14:05

@CharlotteCollinsneeLucas

Ah, that's a great update, OP! I had a fourteen year relationship without any sort of kissing in. Never thought I'd be with anyone who'd kiss me, but DH and I kiss with tongues most days and it always leaves me weak at the knees whether it leads to sex or not!
@CharlotteCollinsneeLucas You're welcomeSmile I could not go 14 years without a kiss but Your DH sounds ideal if he makes your knees weak! I do love a good kiss with tongues done right it's the best thing in the world!
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foxyroxyyy · 29/11/2020 14:07

Unfortunately not.... only when we are fucking properly. I like tongues and I miss it. But I do like that whenever the tongues slip out I know shits about to go down Grin

Bananawho · 29/11/2020 14:19

@foxyroxyyy
Lmao!
I'm not sure what to say to that haha!
Likewise
DH and I used to try to tongue each other when we climaxed!

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Isis1981uk · 29/11/2020 14:26

Yep, not as much as when we were first dating but we have a brief but passionate kiss at least twice a day, and when we have sex. I learned from my past marriage how letting things like this slide can build up so gradually until it's all gone. I won't let that happen this time.

Bananawho · 29/11/2020 14:38

@Isis1981uk
Good for you
That's exactly what I was afraid of happening

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Bananawho · 29/11/2020 14:46

I found another article about this
ravishly.com/my-husband-and-i-dont-french-kiss-anymore
I thinks its worth a read
.seems you just to have to go for it if you miss it

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DustyMaiden · 29/11/2020 14:48

Yes, in private together 42 years

Bananawho · 29/11/2020 14:59

Is anyone reading the articles
I posted or am I wasting my time with them?

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Bananawho · 29/11/2020 15:10

@DustyMaiden
Good going girl!
Glad you're keeping the passion alive

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Bananawho · 29/11/2020 15:20

@bellinique
Any luck with your DH?

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TweeterandtheMonkeyman · 29/11/2020 15:28

Full on tongues - only as part of foreplay/ during sex.

But we have a full on sloppy kiss on the lips and a cuddle most days . (We were in couples therapy last year so I’m not all smug married about it 😂)

Bananawho · 29/11/2020 15:33

@TweeterandtheMonkeyman
Guess it worked lol
I love a cuddle as well but not as much as full on tongues haha

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Bananawho · 29/11/2020 16:02

I'm so glad me and DH are going to be swapping tongues again
Makes me feel like teenager
Thanks for inspiring me to just go for it everyone

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Bananawho · 29/11/2020 17:06

Okay last update just to make you all jealous
I just had another lovely smooch with DH on the sofa.
And he started it! We just gently frenched for about 5 mins while holding hands and then got on with our chores.
I think he's getting back into the swing of things!

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TomorrowsPrincess · 29/11/2020 17:33

@Bananawho
Yes girrrllll!!
You go get them snogs! 💋

Seriously, anyone who isn't kissed passionately with a bit of tongue is missing out.
I love just looking at my DP and wanting to snog his face off (together 7years, 5 kids although only 3 at home)
....... think I might just go snog his face right now! 😉

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