To ask do you still kiss with tongues?

[Bananawho]

I have been with my DH a while
And recently realized we dont do it anymore except in bed
I miss it and dont know why it stops in long relationships

Only during sex. I’d happily do it at other times but I expect my DH would wonder what the point was! Not since the very early days have we had a proper kiss without then stripping off! It’s hugely arousing. Actually it’s probably best we don’t do it at other times as I think I’d be left somewhat frustrated!

I wish I had the courage to just snog DHs face off and demand some Tongue action from now on but if he doesn't enjoy it anymore i shouldn't make him should I?

@VWLolabunny9119
that's such a shame
I'm sorry
I cant get my head around blokes who dont enjoy kissing like that

Any gals here lucky enough to still kiss their bf/DH with tongue dont let ever it go
My days of impromptu snogs in clubs and pubs are over

Bananawho

I could have written your post and feel exactly the same. I miss it so much.

"I'll snog anyone at this point"

Puts hand up

I miss this too OP. We only kiss at all when having sex now. I really miss a good snog just for the hell of it! Also, my DH is not a great kisser, it's all tongue all the time if I do kiss him. I don't really love it with him but I would love to throw caution to the wind and go to a club and french some boys!

No thanks, it's horrible

@bellinique

Bananawho

I could have written your post and feel exactly the same. I miss it so much.

"I'll snog anyone at this point"

Puts hand up

Better Pucker up@bellinique! Im just putting on my fave lip gloss😂 Seriously tho glad to kno I'm not alone

@nonflirtinghusband

I miss this too OP. We only kiss at all when having sex now. I really miss a good snog just for the hell of it! Also, my DH is not a great kisser, it's all tongue all the time if I do kiss him. I don't really love it with him but I would love to throw caution to the wind and go to a club and french some boys!

@nonflirtinghusband I love my DH but I do wish I could go clubbing like I used just once more. If he cant kiss properly you'll have to teach him i couldn't date a bad snogger

I am surprised at number of people who only kiss with tongues during sex
Dont you ever want to just have a nice french kiss on the sofa ?

I hope I haven't scared everyone off by offering to snog @bellinique haha 🤣🤣

We only kiss goodbye ( a peck on head/cheek ) and been shielding together since March , so no kisses.

[quote Bananawho]@SomewhereInbetween1 seriously tho
How do you maintain that kind of passion?
Is it just being married to someone who loves a quick snog sesh as much as u do?[/quote]
Honestly, I think it's probably a combination of still fancying each other, and the understanding that we enjoy kissing for what it is, not what it might or might not lead to.

@Bananawho

I am surprised at number of people who only kiss with tongues during sex Dont you ever want to just have a nice french kiss on the sofa ?

No not really 😂

A pp mentioned busy couples with kids not wanting to get frustrated in the middle of the day and I think its a good point. A proper, sensual kiss is a way of letting the other know that we are in the mood for sex, it signals that one of us is horny and gets the other in the mood as well. So to do it at a time when we aren't able to have sex would be really frustrating. I mean, if we are sat on the sofa watching TV after the kids are in bed and I was in the mood I might snog him but that would be with the intention of it leading to sex. We wouldn't just randomly have a snogging session then get back to watching a film or something, that would seem really strange.

OP have you actually tried just snogging your DH? From what you've said it sounds like you are wistfully longing for him to randomly snog you but maybe you should take the lead?

@SomewhereInbetween1
Thank you for the answer
I still fancy DH so I hope he still fancies me
Bedroom stuff is still good
I guess he just doesn't get kissing for kissings sake
I will try that article from earlier

@MynephewR
I understand your point
But I wish more DH could snog without it being a prelude to sex
I will give him a good snog today with plenty of tongue
Trouble is I dont to force it every time
I guess I should just explain how I feel

@MynephewR
Ps some couples can clearly snog and not go any further
So I guess it's about how u feel

Haha @Bananawho at this stage I might just take you up on it!

We used to snog aalll the time and then suddenly it fell off a cliff and dp just doesn't seem to want to anymore. It makes me sad to think of never having that feeling again but I don't want to force it and feel like he's doing it out of obligation.

@bellinique

Haha *@Bananawho* at this stage I might just take you up on it!

We used to snog aalll the time and then suddenly it fell off a cliff and dp just doesn't seem to want to anymore. It makes me sad to think of never having that feeling again but I don't want to force it and feel like he's doing it out of obligation.

@bellinique This is literally exactly what is happening to me I don't want to never have that feeling again Maybe we should both try the article from earlier and report back Could be fun?

[quote Bananawho]@MynephewR
Ps some couples can clearly snog and not go any further
So I guess it's about how u feel[/quote]
True. I'm not a very tactile person at all. I cuddle my kids all the time but I can quite easily feel touched out by them and need my personal space. And, other than sexually, I only really fancy a kiss or a cuddle from DH 2 or 3 times a month. Other than that I might fancy a hug from my mum about once a year, I don't ever really want to hug other adults but I do it if I feel obliged.

So obviously I don't mind not snogging DH on a daily basis 😂

I'm glad to hear you are going to give it a try, enjoy!

@MynephewR
Best way for me to explain is it that having a snog
Scratches a totally different itch than sex
They are seperate to me

[quote Bananawho]@MynephewR
Best way for me to explain is it that having a snog
Scratches a totally different itch than sex
They are seperate to me[/quote]
Whoops this was meant to be a reply to your earlier post only just saw your new one
Oh and I will enjoy it thanks

Ok update time
I spoke to DH and said that I really miss our old passionate french kisses and snogged him!
He got the gist and we had a proper tongue twisting kiss we passionately frenched for about 15 mins before coming up for air!
Afterwards he said he enjoyed it and that he hadn't noticed that we never snogged and promised to do it more often.sorry if TMI but I'm so excited my problem is fixed!
Okay @bellinique your turn now
Just snog your DHs face off and see what happens

Ah yay! Well done @Bananawho! Hopefully this will be the start of many more snogs!

Sadly I just don't think it would be appreciated if I did the same and I can't face the rejection but I am happy for you that it worked!

Yes we do - not in front of the children though