Do you find this offensive?

[Besswess88]

Someone posted this in a group I am in, and I find it really offensive AIBU?!

No, just old fashioned seaside postcard humour. I wouldn't be offended and I have big boobs. If there are lots of older people in the group it might just remind them of their past holidays. My grandmother, who also have very large boobs used to find these postcards hilarious, although she wouldn't have let random strangers touch her own I'm sure. My parents often sent these cards to my grandparents when I was small.

Where have you been living your life? Not in the real world obviously. It's like those old seaside postcards with a bit of slap and tickle and blunt references to women's (and sometimes men's) bodies. It's harmless and 'old hat', not something that would be acceptable to be said today but we've become too far the other way.
Look on Newzit or scroll through YouTube and Insta among other social media (even run of the mill news stories) and there are numerous references to and photos of bums, boobs full nudity, programmes such as Naked Attraction. Blurb about side boob and fans melting at Honey Ross exposing everything, Amanda Holden's 'pins' etc. Everywhere you look it's all about visuals real or false.
Tiny waists, huge boobs n bums, plastic surgery.
Your disgust at an old style seaside postcard joke is, frankly, laughable.

Get over yourself! It's not funny, it's a bit smutty and def not offensive!

It’s old fashioned and poor taste but no I would not be offended. I would just think the sender is daft!

See we've moved on from the card to women saying what's wrong with men in real life staring at your tits.

If you don't like it just get surgery.

If a man oversteps the mark just kick him in the nuts (really???!!)

And etc etc

Sooooo the bus driver was aok saying what he did to my friend and men shouting stuff from vans is aok and if you don't like it you're a snowflake/ weak etc even if you're young (school uniform was always a magnet).

I grew up in the 70s and 80s when the done thing was to laugh it off/ not make fuss etc when men shouted grabbed flashed etc and I didn't like it. I did 'laugh it off' as did all my friends as that was the done thing and of course we never told anyone (why? It's just a bit of a laugh).

Seems we're heading back that way, to see so many women with this additude (just get surgery if you have big boobs and men comment etc) is a bit depressing for me. I'm just one person though so really have to accept it I suppose.

If women and girls are told it's just s bit of fun etc then the men will never stop but I suppose if you don't mind you don't mind. I find the lack of empathy for those who do mind odd but again, my views are obviously not mainstream now.

It's poor taste but hardly "offensive."

You having body issues is the problem here not the outdated humour, I suggest you put your effort into remedying that.

@Gobbycop

No,

Being offended is a choice.

To be fair a it's choice by some people to find something offensive in almost everything.

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People seem to be missing the disrespect to the mans wife. I know I said it before but it’s not just about the ‘sexy’ woman. Quite often in this oeuvre the ‘sexy’ young girl is in on it/portrayed as up for it (problematic in itself as perpetuates the ‘asking for it’ fantasy/defence). It’s the oblivious wife stood right there being made a fool of in public, while her husband salivates openly in front of younger prettier women. But that’s okay, she deserves it because she’s a ‘battle axe’ (ie old, frumpy and fat) and he’s a bit of a fool but haha who could blame him wink wink.

It’s all about context. If my other half sent me this I’d find it funny. It’s sexist and inappropriate but between us it would be silly flirting. We are both well aware and anti outdated ideas of objectification about women and how appalling it would be to spoken to in an unsolicited way like this. So In a public group it probably isn’t appropriate as it illustrates modes of thinking that are no longer really seen as funny or acceptable. It’s mildly offensive but there is a lot worse out there.

Yes outdated sexist humour... not sure how it can been viewed as anything else. Sexism isn’t ok.

Let's not kid ourselves both sexes objectify the other... 99% of it is silly humour just like that postcard...

One day society will wake up and everything will be banned if we continue on the line of everything being taken as offensive, including our freedom!

The accusations of being prudish and too old really fall flat on a forum where you don't know anything about who is typing.

Which, funnily enough, goes both ways.

/idly wonders how many bokes with 'mumsy' usernames are flocking to this thread to tell off the silly women/

Look no further than this forum to find people being offended by absolutely anything and everything, so you are just following the fashion.

Oh yes, the perpetually offended - don't you just love them!

Yes, of course it’s offensive. Deeply so. And I do have a really good sense of humour. The fact that others say it’s not is one of the reasons why we’re still living in the misogynistic society that we do. Equality a pipe dream. So sorry you’ve been subject to comments about your breasts throughout your adult life OP. Really sorry.

@Besswess88

Because it’s so smutty and it absolutely objectifies women.

Maybe it hits a raw nerve with me particularly because I have large boobs and have had to put up with shit like this (comments) my entire adult (and teenage) life.

This may be why op. Certain things rile me up but this just ehh.

I mean obviously it's gross, it just doesn't pee me off as much as other sexist things. Hopefully these will slowly become a thing of the past.

It's fine though, OP has been told if she doesn't like all that shit, as she puts it. She can have surgery.

This thread is wonderful

They were a thing of the past or so I thought lelo.

Ah well. Things are cyclical.

At least these days girls who don't like the 'saucy' comments and grabbing etc can bind, until they are old enough to have surgery.

That will also mean the girls and women who don't minimise their busts are sending a clear signal to men that they are fair game and bang up for it.

Win all round!

Erm I don’t have “body issues” at all!

I just don’t like men commenting on and staring at my breasts 👍🏻

Christ on a frigging bike, some of these responses make me want to weep!

The cartoon is undoubtedly offensive, unacceptable and thoroughly out of place in TWENTY FUCKING TWENTY. Yes, it was acceptable at some point, but it is not anymore, just like so many other things are now wholly unacceptable. It's called progress. There is simply no place at all in modern society for this kind of humour. None whatsoever.

I agree with the OP and others who talk about the underlying attitudes to finding this kind of nonsense OK underpinning the much more serious stuff.

I urge those of you who think "oh, it's OK, it doesn't bother me, it's of its time, I don't get easily offended and can handle it, blah blah blah" to genuinely reflect on the despicably mysoginist attitudes that lie behind this sort of humour. Because misogyny is what it is, pure and simple.

Besswess88
Never had that problem. Never had any. TWO BACKS

I prefer jokes about blokes with big balls 🤣

@Roussillon849

Exactly this 👍🏻

What does two backs mean?