Doing this to a child is wrong

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BBC report : His said his 14-year-old daughter had not left her bedroom for four days, with meals being left outside her door, until the family learned the result was void on Thursday

This is so wrong to do to a child

It doesn't say she wasn't allowed to leave, though.

No, it doesn’t say she wasn’t allowed to leave. IF she wasn’t allowed to leave, it is imprisonment.

going with a massive leap here, but also,

The PR company director, from Maidstone, Kent,

doesn't sound like someone who would be stuck in an intercity tower block. So I will assume that there could have been access to a garden... but most 14 years old I know wouldn't bother

I thought it was the DM who like to dramatise!

@flaviaritt

WorraLiberty

Assuming she wasn’t allowed to leave, of course it is imprisonment.

Ahhh and there's the golden word - "Assuming".

There are a lot of assumptions on this thread and yet the story is upthread in the link for all to read.

How is that different from imprisonment?

I’m sure the door wasn’t locked.

They could have an extremely vulnerable family member in the house for all we know. I'm pretty sure any 14 yr old would happily do it if they had a parent undergoing chemotherapy, for example.

We don't know the full story so it's not something I could get at all worked up about.

@flaviaritt

And if my DD was worried about having coronavirus, she would need hugs, and to talk about her worries, not to be left alone to brood on it like a plague victim. Awful.

Maybe the 14 year old in this article was brought up by adults who don't describe this as being "left alone to brood on it like a plague victim". Maybe they have parents who have taught them about social responsibility and that sometimes we have to take steps that inconvenience us but protect others. Maybe they have things in their room like a phone or tablet or laptop which they could use to distract themselves and communicate with others. Maybe their worries were that they would infect others with the virus and the way they best felt able to manage that was self isolation.

Mn always seems to think that anyone under the age of 40 doesn't have empathy, or compressive skills.

Of course its wrong
We really have lost all reason over this

Comprehensive*

@flaviaritt

It is not imprisonment. I am sure the 14 yo understood why she had to remain in her room and was being fed and allowed to use the bathroom.

How is that different from imprisonment?

Because I am assuming that she wasn't locked in and that she had people who cared for her bringing her food and ensuring she was okay.

and no mention of the 9 year old being kept in HER room, funnily enough

@flaviaritt

No, it doesn’t say she wasn’t allowed to leave. IF she wasn’t allowed to leave, it is imprisonment.

And if boiled eggs are runny we can dip our toast in

But again, in the absence of the dad stating "I locked my daughter in her room against her will", what's the point in the silly assumptions?

Stupid one line post. Give more detail.

This is standard policy to ask potentially infectious people to stay in one room or one floor and use a specific loo rather then spread germs to others who are in other parts of the house. 14 is old enough to cooperate and understand the need for this action. A younger child may need an adult to isolate with them

Obviously locks on doors would not be acceptable

@tortoiseshell1985

Of course its wrong We really have lost all reason over this

You really don’t know what the personal circumstances were in that family.

They were following the guidance as issued by public health and it’s difficult to see why they’re being criticised for that. This wasn’t a two year old.

A 14 year old with vulnerable siblings would totally understand why it’s important to keep siblings safe

My 14yr old would be in heaven to be confined to her room & have meals delivered to her.

It sounds fine to me. There's no way they could be forcing a 14 year old to stay in her room, I just don't believe that would be possible.

Had there been a deadly disease that affected the clinically extremely vulnerable going round when I was a teenager, I'd have probably actively tried to catch it so my mother wouldn't go anywhere near me. My brother would have most likely taken on the job of catering by dropping a bag of chips (loads of salt and vinegar - both banned in the house - pancake roll and a can of Quattro outside my door every evening (as there's no way she would have walked all the way upstairs just to feed me) along with comics, magazines and books.

Me, a TV, no requirement to sit downstairs in silence all day, no chance of her breaking social distancing rules to wallop me for something - the rest of time, she socially distanced from me in any case, as she thought hugging or kissing children was ridiculous and weird, my cat, visits from the dog when she decided I needed to be woken up - bliss.

I agree OP, my dd was tested last week and I didn’t isolate her (though she does have sn’s so it would be tricky), the week before I was waiting for a test result too but could not isolate myself or no one would look after the dc’s. I guess most teenagers wouldn’t mind being in their room all day but I wouldn’t force either of mine too.

@flaviaritt

Then obviously you'd do different with your child

Yes, because I think what happened here is wrong. Which is kind of the point of “AIBU”.

Yes, which is why other people have opinions too. It's not just flaviaritt's AIBU

My DD had to do this the other week: 2 weeks isolation in her room. It wasn't too traumatic for her. I don't see the problem

The deep, deep pain of a teenager forced to stay in their room with full access to social media and no family time.

And if boiled eggs are runny we can dip our toast in confused

Of course we can. I am not saying the egg is runny. I am saying we don’t know, but, IF the situation is X, it is very wrong. Not hard to understand.