Doing this to a child is wrong

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BBC report : His said his 14-year-old daughter had not left her bedroom for four days, with meals being left outside her door, until the family learned the result was void on Thursday

This is so wrong to do to a child

Putting aside the fact that many but not all teens might love this, perhaps the family thought the MH impacts on the child if she didn't isolate and a vulnerable family member fell ill might be greater than the MH impacts of isolation.

lyralalala

That guidance gives no authority to one person to force another person to do this.

IMNOTSHOUTING

I didn’t assume the 14 year old felt ill.

Even if I was vulnerable, I wouldn’t imprison my 14 year old in her own home. It’s wrong.

Seemed totally fine to me in the context.

Unless she's particularly vulnerable (which isn;t the impression given in the article), then I don't think it's unreasonable. At that age most kids would understand what was happening and would be fine with a TV/tablet and other activities to entertain them. Neither of my teenagers (one with ASD) would have much of a problem with this.

Of course it's bad that some tests aren't accurate, but in the overall climate of what we're all having to deal with at the moment, I wonder why these people are complaining. I think it would be more of an unexpected bonus to get out of isolating quicker than expected due to an error. It's not exactly solitary confinement when you can chat through the door, facetime, zoom etc.

Even if I was vulnerable, I wouldn’t imprison my 14 year old in her own home. It’s wrong.

Surely you can see that this is both daft and selfish. By law if they have a positive test they're impriosned in their home. If you think spending a few days in their bedroom is worse than losing a parent and feeling responsible for that for the rest of their life then I'm not sure I can reason with you. You would traumatise your child for life if that happened.

At that age if someone gave me an unending pile of books to read and all my meals bought to my room I would have been one happy bunny. There are some very overly dramatic posts on here.

Surely you can see that this is both daft and selfish.

No, I can’t. If I could see it I wouldn’t say it.

That guidance gives no authority to one person to force another person to do this.

No one said she was forced, the majority of 14 year olds would do it without a fuss. As a parent though it is your responsibility to make the right choice for your child and family. Most parents still set the rules with 14 year olds. It works well.

IMNOTSHOUTING

It is not okay to confine a 14 year old to their room for four consecutive days. You can think what you like about that. I think differently.

@flaviaritt

So you're telling me that rather than allow a 14 year who is probably perfectly happy to do so, to stay in their room for a few days you'd risk the health of a vulnerable parent and allow a situation in which a teenager may feel responsible for the death of their parent. The other children would grow up without a parent. You think this risk is more acceptible to you than letting a teenager hang out in their room for a bit. That's insane.

@LabradorGalore

Talk about overreaction OP.

Most families are self isolating their teens this way if they can. I’m assuming she still went to the bathroom.

Most families? I doubt it.

I mean, my 14 year old would probably love that but would miss the cats. However I never insisted mine kept away from us when they had suspended covid, as none of us are vulnerable. There was extra handwashing and if they were coughing a lot then they didn't eat at the table with us, but otherwise they were treated normally.
I don't know anyone who has done any different with their children.

IMNOTSHOUTING

I would let my 14 year old self-isolate in their room for four days, and haven’t said otherwise.

That guidance gives no authority to one person to force another person to do this.

You are just making things up.

Nowhere is is suggested that this fourteen year old was forced to stay in their room.

LethargicLumpOfLockdownLard

That’s good to hear.

Did I miss the bit where they'd put locks on her door?..

FFS 14 year olds spend most of their lives in their rooms, having meals brought to them is room service! They're plenty old enough to understand the covid situation.

In my family, we always stayed in our rooms when we had an infectious disease whether a stomach bug or flu or whatever. When we were little a parent would sit with us, but not at 14.

Of course you can still have your parents' support and affection: you can talk through the door, put loving messages on the tray, special little treats, even phone each other.

I remember when my friend had measles. I certainly wasn't allowed into her room, but I stood outside the window and made funny faces.

People have very dramatic imaginations on here.

PurpleDaisies

No, YOU are making things up. You have posted guidance under the pretence that it offers authority to force someone to isolate. It doesn’t.

@flaviaritt

lyralalala

That guidance gives no authority to one person to force another person to do this.

What are you on about? No-one on the thread, except you, has suggested the teenager was forced into her room and held there.

The guidance states that if you can you should. A 14 year old can.

Even if I was vulnerable, I wouldn’t imprison my 14 year old in her own home. It’s wrong.

So you think your teenager would be so incredibly damaged by isolating in her room, yet wouldn't be damaged if she passed on covid to a vulnerable parent?

You're at the wind up.

No, YOU are making things up. You have posted guidance under the pretence that it offers authority to force someone to isolate. It doesn’t.

Please go back and quote the post where I have done this.

This is categorically untrue.

What are you on about? No-one on the thread, except you, has suggested the teenager was forced into her room and held there.

Yes. I have suggested that IF she was told she had to stay there, that is wrong. Others have disagreed.

You really are embarrassing yourself here @flaviaritt

i would have loved this i think i did do it for a while apart frommeals

@flaviaritt

What are you on about? No-one on the thread, except you, has suggested the teenager was forced into her room and held there.

Yes. I have suggested that IF she was told she had to stay there, that is wrong. Others have disagreed.

You're actually just making yourself look stupid now.

I'm out. You're clearly bored on a Friday night and at the wind up.

Probably has a TV, phone, maybe games console, things to read, being fed. Not like they were being chained to the bed and starved. It was 4 days not 4 years. What an over reaction.