Doing this to a child is wrong

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BBC report : His said his 14-year-old daughter had not left her bedroom for four days, with meals being left outside her door, until the family learned the result was void on Thursday

This is so wrong to do to a child

@flaviaritt

But in that situation, it would be quite reasonable to insist that if the adult family member won't do the sensible thing, their consequence might be the rest of the family moving out for the duration, if practical.

It wouldn’t. You have no right to either throw your partner out of their house, or force them to stay in their room. That’s abuse.

Nope. I'm saying that if I had an adult living in my house who wouldn't isolate like a sensible person, the REST of us might go elsewhere.

& then I might have a good hard think afterwards about whether I wanted us to continue living together, because they'd be a selfish inconsiderate git!

No husbands locked in the attic in this scenario - read more carefully.

MIL and the nursery rug 👍

Nope. I'm saying that if I had an adult living in my house who wouldn't isolate like a sensible person, the REST of us might go elsewhere.

Right. So you accept that you have no right to make them isolate in their rooms. So you agree with me. Great.

@BungleandGeorge is that the one with the twee quotes on it?

@BungleandGeorge

MIL and the nursery rug 👍

Aw! Thank you!

And one poster thought the OP didnt like the rug cause it was made out of sythentheric fibres. Er, yes but also THE QUOTES

Do you think you have the same right to imprison your husband/wife/partner, or is it just kids you confine to their rooms?

If Dh had caught Covid then yes I'd have expected him to stay in the bedroom, with our en-suite, and not risk passing it on to me. I would expect him to follow the government guidelines to isolate from those in the household Wherever possible.

As his loving wife I'd have ensured he had everything he needed including food and drink.

If need be I'd have taken myself off and slept in the spare room and used the other bathroom to give him the space to himself.

Had he chosen not to of course I'd be unable to force him, just like you most likely couldn't actually force a teenager, so would have taken myself off to use the spare room and other bathroom away from him.

As it happens it hasn't been necessary. I caught Covid, not Dh. And I actually know my Dh too so I know he'd have isolated and kept away simply as he's a decent bloke who doesn't really want to see his wife ill if he can help it.

But IF it had I'd have expected him to do the right thing and isolate away from me and Dd, especially as I'm clinically vulnerable.

In our house we expect one another to follow the government guidelines to keep ourselves, the household and our family/friends safe and well. Self isolation guidelines come under this.

😂😂
Imagine being imprisoned in the room with that rug😂😂😂

Right. So you accept that you have no right to make them isolate in their rooms. So you agree with me. Great

I didn't see the post that this referred to but, if my husband refused to isolate in his room in order to protect his wife and children from a virus that could potentially kill them then I would absolutely, without question, kick him out. Forever. Who wants to be married to someone that selfish?

@SchrodingersImmigrant

😂😂 Imagine being imprisoned in the room with that rug😂😂😂

I felt bad for the OP.

@flaviaritt

Nope. I'm saying that if I had an adult living in my house who wouldn't isolate like a sensible person, the REST of us might go elsewhere.

Right. So you accept that you have no right to make them isolate in their rooms. So you agree with me. Great.

Well, no, I'm afraid I don't.

I'm saying that an adult who wouldn't be prepared to abide by self isolation rules for the good of the entire household, would be asked to reflect on whether they got to continue as a member of said household after the crisis was over.

If a partner, I think we'd be done. If an adult child, then I think we'd have gone past the point of their living at home.

No one gets locked in a room. But equally, I don't get locked into a house share with a selfish idiot.

Had he chosen not to of course I'd be unable to force him, just like you most likely couldn't actually force a teenager, so would have taken myself off to use the spare room and other bathroom away from him.

Of course you can coerce a teenager to do what you say. You might not be prepared to physically force them, but saying they have to do X (or else?) is using your moral force as their parent to compel them to do something. And I hope we can agree that that is wrong in this case.

I'm saying that an adult who wouldn't be prepared to abide by self isolation rules for the good of the entire household, would be asked to reflect on whether they got to continue as a member of said household after the crisis was over.

That’s fine. You can divorce him if you want. That doesn’t change the fact that you can’t make him go to his room and stay there for two weeks. It would be abusive to do so.

@flaviaritt

And if my DD was worried about having coronavirus, she would need hugs, and to talk about her worries, not to be left alone to brood on it like a plague victim. Awful.

Unless you've missed out that the article is about your family how is that relevant?

At age 14 I would have loved this and with today"s tech I would have been even better but that's totally irrelevant also.

if my husband refused to isolate in his room in order to protect his wife and children from a virus that could potentially kill them then I would absolutely, without question, kick him out.

You and your DH could obviously work out who left the family home. I didn’t say otherwise. But you have no right whatsoever to compel him to stay in his room for a fortnight. Or at all.

I have tested positive for Covid - my son (14) is negative so we’ve had to split the house whilst we both separately isolate. He has three rooms upstairs and although I am the one positive I am the one who is responsible for food and cleaning so I am now providing room service in full PPE. He’s loving it! Two weeks off school, all his electronics, food and drink on demand and no chores. Do you think that’s abuse too?!

Unless you've missed out that the article is about your family how is that relevant?

This comment is one of the daftest on here and it’s a crowded field.

It's neither wrong nor inhumane so stop being such a drama queen.

So long as they have light, heat, entertainment and are being fed and watered It's an absolute dream for the majority of teenagers so quit wringing your hands.

ATTENTION EVERYONE

Evening Sorry for shouting. But do you think we could do an experiment, please?

Just... every time flaviaritt posts something, tell her she's right. I want to see what happens (plus if I can get everyone on board with this, it'll be really funny).

youcantchoosethem

It doesn’t sound like it, no. It sounds like he is perfectly happy.

I never knew Jesus can be funny!

Just... every time flaviaritt posts something, tell her she's right. I want to see what happens (plus if I can get everyone on board with this, it'll be really funny).

Sounds... hilarious.

I think your definition of abuse is a little skewed flaviaritt. Which is quite sad.

@JesusInTheCabbageVan

ATTENTION EVERYONE - - - - - - - Evening Sorry for shouting. But do you think we could do an experiment, please? - - - - - Just... every time flaviaritt posts something, tell her she's right. I want to see what happens (plus if I can get everyone on board with this, it'll be really funny).

I'll even go first.

flaviaritt, you're right. Everything you've said about me on this thread is right.

It's neither wrong nor inhumane so stop being such a drama queen.

We disagree.