To think we should tell the truth?

[LieOrNoLie]

Our cat has gone missing (it's been over a week now).

Even worse is the children are due here at weekend and they absolutely adore him and will be gutted. There will be lots of tears I know.

My husband doesn't want to tell them and instead thinks we should lie and say we've rehomed him somewhere like a farm with fields etc...

I think we should tell them the truth.

Firstly because they'll question why we've given their cat away and we'll be the terrible ones. And secondly, because I think they are old enough to know that sometimes these things happen and it's rubbish and sad but we shouldn't hide it from them either. They are 9&11.

And thirdly of course, he still might come back!!

YABU - lie to save them the upset of thinking he's ran away/something bad might have happened.

YANBU - tell them the truth, they are old enough to know. Which is that he is missing and we are trying to find him but that might not be possible.

[nosswith]

Thank you OP for telling us that sense has prevailed.

[PrawnofthePatriarchy]

Glad to hear good sense has prevailed. DSD was so traumatised by her mum's lies that now she's a mum herself she has six cats and a medium sized dog in a tiny house, which she shares with DH and two DC.

I think she's fairly bonkers (and well on way to becoming a crazy cat lady) but I know where she's coming from. Her DC will never be heartbroken by lies about a pet.

[olivesnutsandcheese]

My DM told me stories about two of our pets. The second time I was 18 at least. My sister filled me in at a later date and I was so sad and really annoyed with DM.
Don't tell your DC lies. Be honest with them and tell them gently. (After school, post snack, sit on the sofa)
I really hope your Dcat comes back