To expect a share of the money

[mixedmama]

I probably am being unreasonable but has just been swimming around in my head.

Up until April this year DH, DS and I lived with BIL, or rather he lived with us as the flat was under DH name.

They lived there before DH and I got together. When we had DS I had hoped that he would move out as we were now a family and he is more than able to afford to be able to do so, we were less able to do so. He didnt. He is also quite rude and arrogant, which I suppose is a separate issue but it made living in the same house quite difficult. For this and a whole load of other reasons DH and I moved to a much smaller place which will not accomodate our growing family quite as well, but is fine as we are living by ourselves which i love.

The problem that I have now is that there are two rooms spare in the old flat (which is half the rent of our new place) and BIL has noow decided to rent these rooms out. He earns at least £1000 more than Dh and I combined and I will soon be on mat lleave to have baby no 2 and sort of feel that DH should be getting half of the money from the rooms being let as the tenancy is still in his name and even an extra £200 or whatever will really help us.

Am I right in thinking this or do you think I am just being greedy. You can be honest, I just wonder really.

[ManxMum]

Keep us informed!!

[mixedmama]

Thanks for all you advise ladies. Am doing masses of research and pros and cons lists and finance lists so when we sit down I am armed with everything I need.

[opinionateddad]

Everyone always seems to be peeved when someone else makes money out of something they didn't think of at the time...

The only thing I would say is that there is probably no way you are going to get money out of this arrangement... however... is he paying tax??.. is this all declared income??.. (you can see where I am going with this!!).. if the tenancy does not allow subletting and he is making black money then shop him.. I would... you wont make anything out of it but you will feel a warm sense of satisfaction

[littleducks]

im afraid three rooms is seen as enough for two childrens even if one is a cupboard, so the overcrowding plan wouldn't work.

i dont think bil is applicable to be lead tenant on a council property if he owns a property.

if you did inform council ypou have moved housing benefit wouldnt be paid to cover your rent if bil is your landlord, they dont pay blood relatives (though this is worth double checking).

So you need to convince bil thst he should move into his flat, where he can rent out rooms to his hearts content and you can have your tenanvy back. That will be fun! Good luck, hope dh realises how much this is stressing you.

[TheDuchess]

Hang on, I'm confused. So your BIL actually owns the place where you now live? And he earns more money than you?

Is he legit? Is his income from honest means? It all sounds a bit dodgy, frankly.

[mixedmama]

His income is from honest means. He just has quite a well paid job, which admitedly wasnt the case when they fist got the flat.

Anyway, on speaking to DH this weekend it seemed there were three options for us:

• Him move out and we move in.
  
• Just say we've moved and lose the flat.
  
• Put in a right to buy (that would be DH as the lead tenant).
  
  DH says that they want to put in right to buy within the next month and as we cannot afford to do it that the discount offered by the council which will be used as deposit will be given to us as cash from BIL once sale is through. The talk of buying has been going on since before we moved so if they pull their finger out and do it before baby comes in December I will consider it a satisfactory solution. If not, then this conversation will be had again with only the first two being an option from my point of view.
  
  Basically, i just dont want all this lying... I want DH to be able to join a GP near where we live, I want to change our address with the bank, but because they are joint havent done so yet, just want everything to be normal.
  
  Thanks for all your advice ladies, and thanks for not judging on the whole cheating the system thing - I think everyone recognised that this is what I want to get away from and appreciate all the great support you guys gave me on Friday.

[claraenglish]

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[mamazon]

unless your Dh owns teh property then no you have no right to teh money.

did you ask your DB to move out?

[mixedmama]

mamazon i said that if we were moving back he had to move.

DH has the right to buy.... so it would be him buying.

I am giving the benefit of the doubt for the moment but have put strict timescales on the situation being sorted one way or the other, be that him leaving and us moving or giving it up completely or buying...