In asking did your parents go away without you when you were little?

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I often read on here about parents having holidays or nights away without their kids and a lot about separated parents doing this which I guess is more understandable. My parents never did this when I was a child 35 years ago is it a more recent thing?

Mine never did and it rubbed off on so that I haven't either. They're much older now but I've only ever been away with my partner if they're already going to be at their Dad's house anyway.

Only twice and I remember hating it both times.... :-/
The first time I was very little and I stayed with my grandparents while they had a weekend in Paris, I remember my Granny asking me if I'd like a little brother or sister and me saying "NO!" and her looking like this: :-s (I did remain an only child so Granny's hopes of the holiday were dashed)
The second time I was 8 or 9 and I won an adventure holiday and my parents went away without me while I was on it, I felt excluded and like I was missing out (for context, they ran a shop and hardly ever got time away as it was hard to book cover, so this replaced the annual family holiday).

My parents went away quite a lot when I was a kid in the 80s, but I should note that at the time they were doing very well for themselves, so I suspect it was still more a thing for the very well off then.

Yes, I had a babysitter come and look after me.

I loved it as I got to stay up late and eat pizza

Yes they did but only once me and my siblings were older children. Just for the odd long weekend once a year or so. My grandparents came to look after us and we found it exciting because we got to eat what we wanted and stay up late DH and I have been away once without my toddler and she had a couple of days being spoiled rotten at grannies! We have no local help though so once my DC are at school it might make it a little trickier.

I dont remember this, they barely had the cash for a family holiday.

My kids are 14 and 20

Ive had one night out clubbing.

long weekend before son was born with DP

4 night midweek with DP

a couple of times training

and last time, 6 years ago, 3 nights away with DP as I was doing a hotel review and he was allowed to tag along

never anywhere that exotic (although that review hotel was wonderful and I took DD and DS to it 3 years ago

mainly myself DD and DS go and leave DP behind

In the 80s, parents went away for a proper holiday maybe twice or three times without us, when they were offered a cabin on a friend's boat and sailed around Cornwall. Then quite frequent (maybe 6-8 times a year) single nights away because they socialised with a crowd who lived about an hour from us. We stayed with grandparents, and loved it.

My parents did, they often had weekends away and were best friends with another couple, they did a city break abroad for about a week every year too. We were always looked after by grandparents and loved it, it worked great all round. I’m married with young children and will have the odd weekend away without our children (not as many as my parents did admittedly), my parents get it and are happy to babysit for us. It’s not a recent thing at all.

Never, but they couldn’t afford to anyway. Our only ‘holidays’ were staying with family, we never went abroad.

Never.

My eldest is almost 18 and we've never been away without children either. I just wouldn't want to really while they were little. Teens, yes. But I have huge age gaps - oldest 18 this week and youngest 3 months old so it's not going to happen for long while!

Dh parents used to send him and siblings off on holiday with grandparents all the time. They are constantly trying to take our children away on holidays but it's just not something we want.

Never, but I suspect that was due to a lack of money back then (late 80s/early 90s), rather than a lack of want!
We had a UK family holiday for 2 weeks in a caravan every year, and my grandma had us for the odd night if my parents went for a meal. Other than that, we really didn't go anywhere/do anything outside of supermarket shopping! I think expectations and opportunities have changed massively more recently

No. But we went away without them

My parents (mum & step dad) went away very often when I was younger. I was dumped at my step brothers or a friends house. They went away on the day my GCSE's started, my 14th, 17th and 18th birthdays. I wasn't allowed to stay at home incase I had a party. Sad thing is I had hardly any friends for said party as I was never allowed to bring friends home. I'm mid 30's.

A couple of nights away when I was young. Made to feel like a burden to my grandmother, who was definitely not maternal.

When I was 14 and my abusive brother 16, parents went abroad for 2 weeks without us. Brother had a massive house party and I had to talk my way out of being raped. Sex and puke on the bedroom carpet, stuff in my bedroom trashed, a guy shaking a can of been and deliberately throwing it all over the carpet, being looked at with suspicion by random young men in my own home. Awful.

No never
My mum had 6 of us. I can't imagine anyone wanted to look after us, plus they didn't have money to go away with us never mind without us.
Dh and I go away a lot without dd.

Nope
My parents didn’t and I haven’t gone away without my children

Ys, I think the longest they went away for was 6 weeks. Definitely not a new thing. In fact I think it was probably more common years ago. Kids are much more central to the family now.

Never, I'm 51. The only time I was looked after overnight was when my mum had an operation when I was 11 and I stayed with an auntie

Mine did. DH and I did with our children as well. And DH and I have looked after our grandchildren so that their parents can. Never more than a few days, though.

All three generations also did and do many trips away with the children as well. But it's nice to have a child-free break once in a while.

Parents had a few weekends away here and there when we were small - our aunt was next door so we.just stayed over with her. A couple of family weddings that all three went to and stayed overnight for we stayed with a family friend or with aunt and uncle on the other side.

I'm 38 now, so this would have been in the 80s and early 90s.

Yes all the time I’m mid 50s
We also went away with our grandparents without parents
Sometimes we went on holiday with parents for a fortnight and GP would join us for a week or monday to Friday to allow parents a bit of time on their own
We also spent a lot of time with GP at weekends (as an adult I now realise that some of it was to protect us when DF was severely depressed and sometimes suicidal)

I'm 39, my parents would go on weekends (2-3 nights) to centre parks with friends or trips to france/Belgium maybe once or twice a year from when I was about 6. We stayed with grandparents as young children. When my sister turned about 16 (me 13) we had a couple of weekends on or own with just a neighbouring popping by to check on us. They never 'holidayed', as in more than a couple of nights, without us.

And to add to my post on page one. I actually had a great time staying with grandparents whilst mum and dad were away! We got lots of gifts on their return too
And we did do some hols with them of courses

No never , and I haven't either to my child

Never. Funds were limited, snd so it was family holidays only.

I’ve been on two vacations (five days apiece) with just my husband and maybe eight overnight stays. Our children are 9 and 7.