In asking did your parents go away without you when you were little?

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I often read on here about parents having holidays or nights away without their kids and a lot about separated parents doing this which I guess is more understandable. My parents never did this when I was a child 35 years ago is it a more recent thing?

My dad did, my mum didn't. They weren't together, dad had his own family.

We will though, I think its important, we also do holidays separately though currently, living in each other's pockets is no good and we run out of exciting things to talk about if we dont do anything apart.

My dad went on business reward trips to London and took my mum, they were two or three weekends a year as a thank you from suppliers for doing business with them. I was always excited for the presents that they brought back with them. Sometimes they would take me and my nan, and we would sightsee while my parents went to the events. I didn't think it was an unusual thing to do because I never knew any different, so from when DS was a baby, DH and I had city breaks without him. We had family holidays too, though.

Not very often but then my dad used to go away by himself a lot........ their marriage would have worked out better if he was interested in going away with her. My DH and I often went away for nights/weekends when our kids were young, I think it's important to keep the marriage working and happy and alive, do you not agree OP?

No, occasionally they went over to Ireland where my dad was from for funerals, when we were left with maternal grandparents. Not for holidays or a night away though.

No never. I grew up in the 60s and 70s.

No they never did.

We had one night away in London without our daughter when she was 3 and I felt so guilty I can't imagine rushing to do it again in the future.

@Tedpanther

All the time. I’m 37

Trips and holidays without us

I am the same age and exactly the same. So many trips. My dad travelled for work and my mum got to go along. They would do a week at a time sometimes, other times weekends. My grandparents looked after us. We loved staying with them. We get no help from grandparents, so, if anything, we are far less likely to go away without dcs. I would also say that things have changed in big fancy hotels. It used to be that very wealthy families would come away on holiday and leave kids at home with the nanny. Now they tend to bring kids and nanny along.

No, never. Not even one without the other. DH and I will do weekends away but rarely with each other. Have left them with grandparents twice to attend weddings. I mainly don't do it because I don't want to impose on my parents rather than because I don't want to leave my DC.

No, never. We rarely saw our relatives so I suppose my parents couldn't entrust us to anyone, even if they could have afforded to go away.

I remember my parents going to Paris when I was probably about 6.
Other than that I don't remember them going away without us until I was about 15.
(I'm mid 30s now)

My parents did when I was little. They’d get a few days off, I’d get a mini holiday staying with my cousins which I loved, everyone was a winner! I would definitely go away without my children if I had any, though it would be nice to do a small family holiday as well if affordable.

Mine did! I spent nearly every weekend with one or the other set of grandparents. Loved it! I'm early 40s.

I was born late 60s. My parents never went away without my DSis and I until we were 15/17. I went and stayed for a few days with my grandparents when I was about 7 but that was it. Mind you our family holidays were usually a week on the south coast in May in a caravan, so they really couldn't have afforded anything else. I don't remember friends being left at home either.

Pretty sure my parents left me (6 months) and my sister (18 months) with our grandparents while they went on a long weekend away - think it was a swanky business trip to France courtesy of my dads company. Anyway, yes - they went away without us. I don't feel like it did us any harm... if anything it strengthened our bonds with grandparents. These days I feel like you'd be judged for doing the same. I'm expecting a baby in April, not sure how I'll feel personally!

I'm 32 by the way

@ethelredonagoodday

Mine did! I spent nearly every weekend with one or the other set of grandparents. Loved it! I'm early 40s.

Yeah, mine used to love staying with their cousins, I think that's important too for them to know and spend time with the extended family. I never really properly got to know my own cousins so I'm really glad my own children will know theirs

When my DF met DSM they went on lots of holidays without us but would take us on a local UK holiday once a year. Then DSM had DC of her own and we were never taken on holiday with them again. They never went on holiday without my half siblings though until they became adults.

I am in my 40s. My Dad did for work sometimes. My Mum went abroad for a week with her friend when we were 2, 6 and 8, she had had a really tough few years and really needed it but we couldn't have afforded for us all to go. I don't remember feeling jealous or wishing I could have gone at all, just interested in her experiences when she got back.
They also went to see friends every so often together and we would stay at grandparents for the night which we saw as a treat.

A couple of times for significant anniversaries, I didn't really think much of it at the time as DB and I went away on holiday with grandparents at the same time, so I was more focussed on that, looking back, good for them, we had a lovely time in Cornwall and later Scotland with grandparents

@doctorhamster sounds familiar; my parents used their parents for childcare regularly and weekends away. Yet won’t return the favour. Oh well, less older adult caring will be done by my siblings and l

Only once that I remember. For a family funeral. Grew up in the 80s.

No holidays, maybe the occasional night away but I can't remember. They separated/divorced when I was 14 (she had plenty of holidays without her kids after that...)

I'm 36 now

No mine didn’t.

Yes. My parents went to Spain for two weeks every year.
We used to stay at one nans with her and my uncle for many years and then I went to my other nans while my brother and sister stayed at my nans.

I meant to add to my post this was from mid 70's until mid 80's.