Too many people and too few bathrooms?

[NearlyMonday]

DH and I have been invited to a birthday celebration next summer (COVID-permitting). The hosts have booked a large country house and it’s a Friday-Monday event. There will be 10 couples, so 20 guests in total, but there are only two bathrooms ………. I can’t see this working, or AIBU? I think we had a better bathroom ratio when I was at University!

Jesus, it's just 3 days, surely you can manage, its sounds like a fun weekend, most of your time will be doing other things than using a bathroom

That's madness. Find somewhere nearby and stay there instead.

Unfortunately my hair gets very greasy at the roots. And even if it didn't, the rest of me still needs a daily shower! I'm not sure I want to attend this event enough to suffer the inevitable discomfort.

What “inevitable discomfort” though?
Nobody is saying you can’t shower... just that you might have to queue - or rather, plan your shower times, you won’t actually have to stand in line.

It’s not like everyone has to be done by 07:30 to catch the train to work 🤷🏻‍♀️

Have a word with the host and ask if the en-suite rooms will be sharing the showers, by all means. Otherwise, go, have a good time, have a laugh with friends about the rota.

Gosh, I'd just be so pleased to be invited to a free country house weekend. If you are good friends with everyone, it's manageable although it does rely on everyone being cooperative

I would go though. I think it would be fun!

Surely it's okay for 3 days?

I don't see why it wouldn't be possible to use the en suite bathrooms as well once the bedroom occupants are up?

That doesn’t sound like much fun. I mean, you would manage if you really had to - but the whole point of a weekend like that is that it’s meant to be fun. And stressing about being able to use the bathroom and toilet isn’t much fun, is it...

Not ideal but it will fine for Fri-Mon. I'd go with clean washed hair on the Friday, just a quick shower Sat/Sun, leave Monday morning with and have a proper shower and hair wash when I got home. My hair would be scraped back in a pony and not bear close inspection but that wouldn't bother me.
I realise lots of people want to wash their hair everyday, but if a few are happy not to it will leave more time for the others. The men are less likely to need lots of time, sexist but true. So 8 people per bathroom, approx 4 are men (unless same sec couples) 4ish women, at least one hopefully won't be washing their hair every day.
It's doable!

@Medievalist

Surely it's okay for 3 days?

I don't see why it wouldn't be possible to use the en suite bathrooms as well once the bedroom occupants are up?

I don’t think the OP said there were any additional en suite bathrooms?

There are two. But one is in an annex.

@Notcontent

Op said:

Two of the bedrooms are ensuite. Then there are two 'communal bathrooms', one has a bath, the other has a shower.

Ah, ok.

Well, it sounds great for the people with the en suites, not so great for everyone else.

I recently moved and now have a bathroom all to myself next to my bedroom - it has immensely improved the quality of my life!

You're awake for approx 16 hours a day, how much of that time are you really going to be spending in a bathroom?

But one is in an annex.

Not sure that prevents it from being shared once the occupants are up and about?

I have one bathroom and often have had 10 people staying (eg Christmas) we didn't have a problem (did have a downstairs loo in addition)

@NearlyMonday you need to talk to your hairdresser on using the right shampoo. Washing your hair every day can cause your oil glands to over stimulate and produce more than needed hence greasy hair. Use dry shampoo inbetween washes and try and stretch it out a couple of weeks by moving it from every second day to every third day. I have a shower every day too, however just throw on a shower cap and step in for a quick wash. My sister has very fine hair which she used to wash every day, she has used lockdown to train her hair, now she has to wash it every three days . your hair will thank you for it

the additional 2 ensuites help, but only if names come out of a hat and whoever gets the ensuite is open to exiting their room promptly in the morning/having a rota to allow others to use the shower and loo attached to their room.

As long as no one gets the shits this is fine, if they do then a loo needs to be made available for them. Folks should aim for no longer than ten mins and have a quick shower.

I’ve had up to twelve folks staying here, one main bathroom, one loo, one en suite, never had a problem. And no one uses the en suite to shower in. But we all roam about in our pyjamas or lounging clothes till we shower. Plus not everyone showers daily or even at the same time Ie morning,some will do it at lunch time. Others in the evening.

I’d not let it stop me going.

Jesus they're not asking you to move in!

I would see sharing a bathroom with another 3 couples as a slight inconvenience, more than outweighed by having a fun weekend away with my friends

Invest in a can of dry shampoo for an emergency hair fix.

I think as a previous poster mentioned - I could manage if I had to, but it's far from ideal. And not exactly much fun.

We've done similar before and it was fine. Men just have to make sure they don't spend an hour shitting. Be polite and check if anyone needs the loo before you shower and shower at night if you're worried about it taking ages in the morning.

Sorry, not for me. At all. Might go if there was a hotel nearby to stay in otherwise just no. I like my privacy and sharing facilities is no fun. Each to their own of course - if you don’t mind sharing then go for it

If there was a sink in the bedroom I wouldn't mind too much. But I would not want to do the clean up. Yuck