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Julz1622 · 2020-11-21T11:29:06+00:00

I have booked a socially distanced visit from Santa and Anna and Elsa on Christmas Eve for my daughter (8) and the baby (10 months) I live in a block of flats, and I was telling one of the mum's of one of daughter's friends about it. She said oh let me know what time they are coming and I'll send 'name' across. She has also told a few of the other mums on the block. Now I know some people will think I am being selfish, but I've paid £50 for them to come visit my daughter, I don't want all the kids congregating and ruining it for my daughters.

ElizaDeee · 21/11/2020 18:21

But the op doesnt need to share. She booked and paid for an experience for HER children. If other people want that experience for their children then they will need to book and pay for a slot the same way she did.

Ohtherewearethen · 21/11/2020 18:22

But you've stated many times that you think OP is a Scrooge and is tight as a duck's arse for not wanting the neighbour's child to come round. Which is it?!

flaviaritt · 21/11/2020 18:24

ElizaDeee

I am aware that she doesn’t need to share. That’s what it means for something to be yours. That is what makes sharing kind, because you don’t have to. But when people aren’t kind (and I’ve made it clear I think this would be unkind) it doesn’t negate it to say “well, it’s their stuff. They don’t have to share.”

I know that already.

flaviaritt · 21/11/2020 18:24

But you've stated many times that you think OP is a Scrooge and is tight as a duck's arse for not wanting the neighbour's child to come round. Which is it?!

It’s both.

SleepingStandingUp · 21/11/2020 18:27

What the hell is Santa doing doing door to doors on Christmas Eve, surely he's too busy for that?

And surely Santa walking into a block of flats is going to draw all the kids and turn it into a gaggle of kids trying to touch him and Elsa before they even get to ops

ElizaDeee · 21/11/2020 18:29

But she diednt need to be kind to the rest of the neighbourhood. Shes not a charity. Shes not a funday organiser. Shes booked and paid for an experience for her own children, not everyone else's.

To expect to muscle in on that is cheeky fuckery.

ElizaDeee · 21/11/2020 18:30

*doesn't

flaviaritt · 21/11/2020 18:30

Shes not a charity

And again, I am aware of that. You don’t need to be a charity to be charitable, and not being a charity doesn’t mean it’s impossible to be uncharitable.

Pumpertrumper · 21/11/2020 18:31

Ridiculous posters saying it’s ‘tight’ or ‘Scrooge’ like. Don’t listen op these are the same CF’s who would have invited along their own kids and thought nothing of it!

It’s a paid for experience like any other. Had the OP rented a birthday bouncy castle would you insist your non invited child get a turn?
If your neighbours get a paddling pool In summer do you tell your kids they can use it without asking?

Ffs just because one child has something doesn’t mean your own child is entitled to that thing too. If you’re incapable of raising children to understand that they’re not entitled to everything... don’t have them!

Ohtherewearethen · 21/11/2020 18:33

Unless there is a huge fanfare I can't imagine many, of any, of the children will even know about it. My friend lives in a very large block of flats and has literally never seen her neighbours. She doesn't sit with her door open watching everybody that comes and goes. I don't know the comings and goings of my neighbours and they have to walk straight past my windows. Likewise, I don't know many children that sit by windows all day. Even if they did see the characters arrive they wouldn't know which flat on which floor they were visiting. If it's dark outside and the lights are on inside they wouldn't see anything anyway. It's up to the neighbouring parents to manage this, not the OP.

flaviaritt · 21/11/2020 18:35

Well, I’m not about to change my mind on this so I’d better let it go. 😂

Soubriquet · 21/11/2020 18:37

@Julz1622

What they do is come to the door the stand in the close and speak to your child about Christmas and they leave sweety bags for them. If we lived in a house they would just do the same just stand on the doorstep

£50 for that?!

I would pay that if my dc got to cuddle and properly interact with them, but for someone to stand on the doorstep and then hand out a sweetie for £50...fuck off

Nottherealslimshady · 21/11/2020 18:38

@flaviaritt what level of participation would you expect the neighbour children to get? Santa, Elsa and Anna to have a conversation with each one about if they've been good and what they want for Christmas equal to the OPs kids and to all get a pack of sweets? Or would just Santa waving and saying merry Christmas be good enough?

GlummyMcGlummerson · 21/11/2020 18:39

OMG that is so cheeky!! And no it's not scroogey of you to say no at all, you've paid a fortune it isn't a free for all.

COVID is the perfect excuse for not having people around.

My DC had Annd and Elsa round Easter last year and it was great they talk about it still today.

SleepingStandingUp · 21/11/2020 18:40

@Ohtherewearethen

Unless there is a huge fanfare I can't imagine many, of any, of the children will even know about it. My friend lives in a very large block of flats and has literally never seen her neighbours. She doesn't sit with her door open watching everybody that comes and goes. I don't know the comings and goings of my neighbours and they have to walk straight past my windows. Likewise, I don't know many children that sit by windows all day. Even if they did see the characters arrive they wouldn't know which flat on which floor they were visiting. If it's dark outside and the lights are on inside they wouldn't see anything anyway. It's up to the neighbouring parents to manage this, not the OP.

They do know tho Cos ops told them

slashlover · 21/11/2020 18:41

I now know where I recognise flaviaritt from, she posted constantly in several threads about kids wearing masks being abusive, like it felt like every second post was hers.

I'm out.

Crystal87 · 21/11/2020 18:42

Why should her kids have to share? The OP has paid for her own kids to have a special experience. If the other kids want to take part in this, their own parents should pay. Nothing to do with being a scrooge as that annoying poster is banging on about.

Plmoknijb123 · 21/11/2020 18:42

If your neighbours are interested just send them the details and they can book it themselves. I think it’s cheeky to say ‘hey let me know and I’ll send my kids round’. If they wanted their kids to enjoy the experience they should have asked whether you would be okay with it and offered to pay.

Also if you’ve booked the day/time I would change it and the don’t tell anyone. So you won’t have other children waiting and it all becoming a gossipy drama.

flaviaritt · 21/11/2020 18:42

Nottherealslimshady

Great question, but without being able to picture the set up it’s hard to say. But I wouldn’t do this myself unless my DC’s little mates and neighbours could at least come out and stand by the characters/Father Christmas. I wouldn’t be comfortable.

GlummyMcGlummerson · 21/11/2020 18:43

I can't believe people are saying the OP is a tight arse - she's paying £50 for a Santa experience and other people want to muscle in on it for free. Yet she's the tight one?! How do you figure that one out?!

Original poster

Julz1622 · 21/11/2020 18:45

While I am fine with everyone having an opinion one thing I strongly disagree with is the comments saying I was bragging about it and I've got money to chuck around. The friends mum was the one who mentioned it to me, she told me my brother had booked a Spiderman and Santa visit for Xmas Eve for the kids, they have Anna and else ones too, I said yes, I booked it for 'name'. This is when she said 'oh brae, what time? I'll send 'name over'. Also I have been on furlough for the past few months but I wanted to treat my daughter to an extra special treat as she has had a particularly tough year (not just Covid)...if the other mum is so skint then maybe she should stop smoking weed and she could afford to pay for them to come to see her daughter aswell. Not a judgement, but don't tell me I'm being unreasonable rubbing it in her face. If it was normal times I would have probably asked her before booking it if they all wanted to chip in for all the kids but it won't be possible this year for them all to be close together. If it were me, I would probably just make sure my daughter didn't see them if I thought it was going to cause her to get emotional. They don't come in a sleigh with music blaring, it's not going to be obvious to anyone unless you know they are coming. I think some of the comments on here are hilarious.

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Quaagars · 21/11/2020 18:45

£50 for that?!
I would pay that if my dc got to cuddle and properly interact with them, but for someone to stand on the doorstep and then hand out a sweetie for £50...fuck off

Was just thinking, I need some cash, I'm wrong sex, so instead I've half a mind to find myself a Mrs Claus costume from somewhere and call myself Mary Christmas whilst hoicking sweets round in a little basket for people

Storyoftonight · 21/11/2020 18:46

@flaviaritt

So nobody's kids are allowed anything nice in case it upsets other kids? Santa can't have a grotto in a mall because some kids wont be allowed to see him and might cry?

That’s daft. I wouldn’t parade my child round near a grotto, knowing they wanted to see Father Christmas, and then say no. This year there are no grottos so you can’t even get away with, “Yes, Father Christmas is going to Sally’s house today but we’re going to the grotto, aren’t we?”

So what would you say to the upset kid on this occasion? “Father Christmas charges on a per head basis?”

Such and suchs mummy paid for that. We can't have things we didn't pay for might be a start@flaviaritt. As other PPs have said , you seem to be or the belief that children across the board should just have whatever they like whenever they like and to hell with the consequences.

Sharing is a concept we force upon children and something that in the real world doesn't always happen.

GlummyMcGlummerson · 21/11/2020 18:47

@Julz1622

Sorry but what the neighbours tell their children is really not my responsibility. She knows where to book it so if it's gonna scar her child for life then she can fork out and book it for her.

This.

Only on MN are the feeling of stranger's children someone else's responsibility

Storyoftonight · 21/11/2020 18:47

@Julz1622

While I am fine with everyone having an opinion one thing I strongly disagree with is the comments saying I was bragging about it and I've got money to chuck around. The friends mum was the one who mentioned it to me, she told me my brother had booked a Spiderman and Santa visit for Xmas Eve for the kids, they have Anna and else ones too, I said yes, I booked it for 'name'. This is when she said 'oh brae, what time? I'll send 'name over'. Also I have been on furlough for the past few months but I wanted to treat my daughter to an extra special treat as she has had a particularly tough year (not just Covid)...if the other mum is so skint then maybe she should stop smoking weed and she could afford to pay for them to come to see her daughter aswell. Not a judgement, but don't tell me I'm being unreasonable rubbing it in her face. If it was normal times I would have probably asked her before booking it if they all wanted to chip in for all the kids but it won't be possible this year for them all to be close together. If it were me, I would probably just make sure my daughter didn't see them if I thought it was going to cause her to get emotional. They don't come in a sleigh with music blaring, it's not going to be obvious to anyone unless you know they are coming. I think some of the comments on here are hilarious.

OP, you were doing OK until that comment and I'm afraid you've lost me a bit there.