AIBU to want my husband to wear something other than tracksuit bottoms

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We are both working from home and since the spring he has lived in tracksuit bottoms and sweatshirts every single day for work.

He looks a mess. He's rarely on video calls so it's doesn't matter professionally but it does matter to me as I do have to look at him.

AIBU?

This made me chuckle as my DH was doing exactly this for the first few months of the lockdown working from home. I couldn't get him out of them!
It was only when he saw a photo of himself that he decided that it wasn't a good look. The phase has now passed thankfully!

he can wear whatever he likes hes not their for her to gawp at his body his choice! why is wearing tracksuit bottoms looking like a slob?

He CAN, but why would he want to? Presumably he doesn't spend his day looking at his reflection in the mirror, so the OP sees him more than he sees himself.
And WHY would you want to make yourself unattractive to your partner?

If you like the look of your partner in tracksuits/onesies, then fine. It's between the both of you.

it's the mindset about not making an effort for the ones who is supposed to find you sexually attractive I don't get. It's not like you must wear tracksuits to be that comfortable either.

It's funny, but I don't know anyone who actually wear tracksuits to exercise. At most they wear them to keep warm between exercise and shower.

My kids only wear comfy clothes too, the only tracksuit bottoms they have are the ones requested by the school.

And WHY are people insisting on buying so many uncomfortable clothes?

I'm buggered if I'm wearing bra, tights or anything with a do up waistband in my own home!

Fair enough- it's your home. It just wouldn't really occur to me that any of those things were uncomfortable. I admit, I have ditched underwired bras of late, but I actually find it uncomfortable not to wear a bra at all. Waistbands are only uncomfortable if they are too tight. Tights are warm and stretchy, and comfortable if they fit properly. I don't think anyone would suggest your dh should stay in heavy work clothes.

It’s up to him to decide what he wears.
It’s up to the OP Tto decide if she is finding it unattractive.

With all the consequences looking unattractive can have.

I'm buggered if I'm wearing bra, tights or anything with a do up waistband in my own home!

I don't think the OP asked her DH to wear any of those

and you do need to go shopping, bras are supposed to comfortable. I never wear tights personally, I think they look hideous but that's personal!

I hear you OP. Clearly my DH can wear what he likes, but I do miss him wearing proper clothes other than trackies. His bottom looks so nice in jeans and suit trousers, I miss that

FWIW my older teens live in tracksuit bottoms. It looks nice on them.
DH is overweight, tracksuit bottoms would look horrible on him.

Not everyone can pull off wearing tracksuit bottoms.

and you do need to go shopping, bras are supposed to comfortable. I never wear tights personally, I think they look hideous but that's personal! Oooh! Such assumptions!

I have comfortable bras, I am a very busty woman, of course I have comfortable bras! But I don't like wearing them. Same with tights (Snag tights ate very comfortable, much like leggings and tracky bottoms) but again, I am not wearing them at home. They are workwear!

How do you get from "I don't like to wear them at home" to "I am too stupid to buy comfortable clothing!"?

Oh yes! That MN thing - My way; OK your way, not so much!

Personally, I think joggers look grim on all men. I'm yet to see a picture of any man who wouldn't look more attractive in either boxers or proper trousers! Do people seriously find jogging bottoms attractive?? Notwithstanding the whole 'he's my husband so I fancy him in anything ' - a stranger walking down the street in joggers can make you think 'phoar'? Honestly? Maybe I'm really out of touch....

DH wears his 'work' joggers at work (builder)

and his 'good' joggers when he's had his shower.

He has a great bod and he looks bloody hot in all of them, good ones, work ones, whatever. Long legs, sexy arse and ... well ...

@PeggyPorschen

he can wear whatever he likes hes not their for her to gawp at his body his choice! why is wearing tracksuit bottoms looking like a slob?

He CAN, but why would he want to? Presumably he doesn't spend his day looking at his reflection in the mirror, so the OP sees him more than he sees himself.
And WHY would you want to make yourself unattractive to your partner?

If you like the look of your partner in tracksuits/onesies, then fine. It's between the both of you.

it's the mindset about not making an effort for the ones who is supposed to find you sexually attractive I don't get. It's not like you must wear tracksuits to be that comfortable either.

It's funny, but I don't know anyone who actually wear tracksuits to exercise. At most they wear them to keep warm between exercise and shower.

My kids only wear comfy clothes too, the only tracksuit bottoms they have are the ones requested by the school.

And WHY are people insisting on buying so many uncomfortable clothes?

you do not have to dress for the approval of your partner. you certainly dont have to dress in a way that your partner think is sexually attractive to them all the time. it should make no difference what you a wearing its the same body!

ill make it very clear to people your partner does not get decide what you wear in your house you can wear whatever you like for whatever reason you like. it does not matter if your partner thinks you look scruffy or a slob its not for them to decide what you wear. you do not have to dress for the approval of your partner.

www.buzzfeed.com/tracyclayton/dem-sweatpants-doe

:)

I have comfortable bras, I am a very busty woman, of course I have comfortable bras! But I don't like wearing them. Same with tights (Snag tights ate very comfortable, much like leggings and tracky bottoms) but again, I am not wearing them at home. They are workwear!

Ah - so it's maybe more of a psychological 'association with work' thing rather than a comfort thing then? Fair enough, I get that, even if I don't feel like that myself. I don't have work clothes and home clothes, I just have... clothes.

@CuriousaboutSamphire

and you do need to go shopping, bras are supposed to comfortable. I never wear tights personally, I think they look hideous but that's personal! Oooh! Such assumptions!

I have comfortable bras, I am a very busty woman, of course I have comfortable bras! But I don't like wearing them. Same with tights (Snag tights ate very comfortable, much like leggings and tracky bottoms) but again, I am not wearing them at home. They are workwear!

How do you get from "I don't like to wear them at home" to "I am too stupid to buy comfortable clothing!"?

Oh yes! That MN thing - My way; OK your way, not so much!

well, not really.

If you had such comfortable bras, you would wear them
I mean, I am not very busty, but I really cannot exercise without a bra, it REALLY is uncomfortable. Bras are designed for comfort, that's the point.

You are of course free to buy some purely for the look regardless of the comfort aspect

Obviously you don't have to wear anything, but I find it weird that the distinction between home clothes and work clothes is lack of comfort - (when you are not stuck with a uniform obviously.)

The same way I will never understand the point of buying a pair of shoes so uncomfortable you don't last 1 hour with them. The effect is completely ruined as soon as you take them off and carry them, so you might as well buy a pretty AND comfortable pair.

My husband's beloved "tracky dacks" from the army surplus shop got accidentally destroyed maliciously during lockdown.

Dh is only ever in tracksuit bottoms or shorts. I dont mind at all. Some days I wear joggers but I generally make more effort than him to dress up. His body is still in good shape. What exactly offends you??

Would you like your H complaining about what you're wearing?

@MrsMariaReynolds

Would you like your H complaining about what you're wearing?

I wouldn't give a damn.

you do not have to dress for the approval of your partner.

you don't have to do anything.

the question is, why wouldn't you want to?

Why would you chose something they specifically dislike. If you have always been known in trackie since you met, then fair enough. No one should have to change because of a relationship.

The issue HERE is someone who makes efforts for OTHERS, but dresses and behave differently for their own partners. It's weird.

It's reasonable to expect your partner to make as much effort with you today as they did when you met. Or it's time to move on if you matter so little.

YABU unless they're ridiculously scuzzy.

I'm currently snuggled up.on the sofa with DH, who's wearing his favourite pair of fleecy grey joggers. We have a running joke that they're his B&M pants (you had to be there).

@mongoosebaby

Personally, I think joggers look grim on all men. I'm yet to see a picture of any man who wouldn't look more attractive in either boxers or proper trousers! Do people seriously find jogging bottoms attractive?? Notwithstanding the whole 'he's my husband so I fancy him in anything ' - a stranger walking down the street in joggers can make you think 'phoar'? Honestly? Maybe I'm really out of touch....

Grey sweatpant season is a beautiful thing.

Haha, my boyfriend never wears them. If he's chilling at home he wears black combat style trousers usually. I don't like jogging bottoms much tbh.

YABU I mean there's not that many good things about lockdown but slobbing around in loungewear is amazing.

It wouldn't worry me (am single so isn't an issue) but I am one of those weird people who puts on work clothes to work from home, including tights. Having recently discovered Snag does help though. I just like to change when I'm done working for the day, it helps me reset now that I don't have a commute to do that for me.

I recall my mum telling me that my dad didn't like her to wear her pjs in the evenings / hanging at home. She's now post menopause and does it all the time, though she never did when I was young.