AIBU to want my husband to wear something other than tracksuit bottoms

[Firenight]

We are both working from home and since the spring he has lived in tracksuit bottoms and sweatshirts every single day for work.

He looks a mess. He's rarely on video calls so it's doesn't matter professionally but it does matter to me as I do have to look at him.

AIBU?

Hopefully I’ve got a helpful tip. I WFH and I make sure that a few days a week I get dressed properly - for me that’s a nice outfit, makeup and hair done. Then other days I wear fresh pjs. Why don’t you suggest that both of you get dressed properly a couple of days a week for your mindset?

And yes...buy him nicer loungewear

Grey joggers are gross. And grey hoodies. Unless you like the "just been arrested" look.

Ugh. Fortunately dh only wears tracksuit bottoms for sport. Also I find 'Joggers' such an infantile word, for some reason. IABU, I know. As for the joggers bulge - bleurgh.

Tbh YABU if you tell him what to wear, OP, but YANBU if it gives you 'the ick'.

Does he look a mess because they are stained or isn't he bothering with grooming - shaving, showering etc? Would you prefer him to wfh in his underpants?

You know full well that's not what the OP meant. You just disagree with her, which is fine. She finds tracksuit bottoms slobby and unattractive.

Imagine if someone posted on here that their DH had requested they stop wearing comfy clothes in the house.

1. We don't know that the OP has said any such thing to her dh.
2. Tracksuit bottoms are not the only comfy clothes. If people find all other clothes apart from tracksuit bottoms are uncomfortable, maybe they're not very good at choosing clothes.

@Namechangeme87 love a good dick print hahahaha

I couldn't live with a man in trackies either so I feel your pain OP. I just think they look like overgrown toddlers and that really doesn't turn me on.

My husband looks hot in tracksuit bottoms, but then he is a sports coach

My DH has been scruffy and largely unshaven since March too. I hate it but I'd be mightily offended (and I suspect so would most on MN on my behalf) if he suggested I needed to smarten myself up for him and I haven't shaved my legs much since the sun disappeared

Why can't he be comfy in his own house?

I feel fortunate that both my husband and I are on the same page with this issue. Whilst we both enjoy the odd sloppy day, neither of us like dressing in "comfies" day after day, week after week.

My DP is either in his grubby work clothes, or into fitted tracksuit bottoms and i couldn't care less, it actually makes it more appreciated when we go out and he dresses up. I also can't judge him as I'm mostly in tracksuit or pj bottoms when I'm home, we just like to be comfortable. And tbh he looks great in tracksuit bottoms

YABU why should he get dressed up he is at home. If he was walking around just in his underpants fair play but he is dressed. Some people on my work video calls are in their dressing gowns, and noone cares

you re controlling he can wear what he likes he should not have to wear things in his own house that you want him to because he dosnt look smart

Mmm dh in joggers(or anything) 🍆😋

YABU you must know that? Christ you'd be lucky get me wearing joggers. I just stay in my pjs mostly

It should be illegal for men to wear jogging bottoms in public. They look at best childish and at worst indecent.

YABU. I’ve lived pretty much in pyjamas since March.

However... if you were going out somewhere with him, it would be reasonable for you to not want him to look like a scruff in public.

YANBU to want your husband to make an effort for you.

You can be comfortable without looking like a slob. I never understand people who insist on buying uncomfortable clothes (and shoes) in the first place.

I only ever wear comfy clothes, even at work

granted it's easier for a woman to wear comfy clothes and look good because we have a lot more choice, but your husband could find something comfy AND attractive.

I honestly find this current obsession with comfiness a bit weird. I dress smart casual for work and don't find any of my clothes uncomfortable, so I don't feel the need to whip them off and put loungewear on when I get home. I usually stay in the same clothes until bedtime. If I had to wear a suit to work I'd come home and change into jeans and a jumper or something.

I never ever wear pyjamas unless I'm going to bed or am really ill. I have days I don't work, and I dress pretty much the same as I do for work. Currently long A-line tweedy skirt, long-sleeved top, tights and DMs. I just don't wear uncomfortable things. I haven't worn a pair of heels in about 15 years. There's a big difference between casual and slobby imo.

@PeggyPorschen

YANBU to want your husband to make an effort for you.

You can be comfortable without looking like a slob. I never understand people who insist on buying uncomfortable clothes (and shoes) in the first place.

I only ever wear comfy clothes, even at work

granted it's easier for a woman to wear comfy clothes and look good because we have a lot more choice, but your husband could find something comfy AND attractive.

he can wear whatever he likes hes not their for her to gawp at his body his choice! why is wearing tracksuit bottoms looking like a slob?

@Firenight. He wore baggy grey track pants. I called him by his Dad's name (who always wore them). Suggested he'd be getting as much loving as his Dad if he kept wearing them. Never needed to mention it again 🤷🏻‍♀️

Lived him in underwear, jeans, shirts, thermal leggings, towel, ANYTHING other than Grey Baggy Tracksuit pants...

Didn't say he couldn't, just made him aware if how it made me view him.

I don't really understand why throwing on a pair of jeans is considered 'an effort'.

Current obsession?

With comfiness??

What madness is this?

Judge me a slob all you like - and you quite obviosuly do - but I am in my own home. Visitors, in the days when we could have them, would find to adults in heavyweight tracksuits, tshirts and slippers. Clean, tidy, all buttons, zips and ties in place.

I'm buggered if I'm wearing bra, tights or anything with a do up waistband in my own home! I wear them for work outside the house, as comfortably as possible, but that's as far as I am prepared to go!

And as DH's workclothes can include hi vis Tink Winky suits, heavy workboots, workbelts/braces and all sorts of other safety kit, you have bugger all chance of convincing him not to get slopped as soon as he gets home!

I think it very much depends on the tracksuit bottoms.

Thick ones, cuffed at the ankle, pretty gross. Slimmer fit, like the style footballers or other sports people would wear, much more acceptable.

Perhaps buy him some of your preferred style for Christmas.

My DH when at home wears t shirts and jumpers that are older than our adult children.