Does anyone else have a mantra?

[Royalbloo]

As a single parent to one DD, working full time, mine is, "Be your own best friend." I.e. have a wine when you need one, or a lie in, leave a cup out the night before with a teabag ready, lay out DD's clothes.

DD's is, "Be kind, have fun." If you're not being kind then having fun isn't ok. You must be both.

Anyone else? I often thank "yesterday me" for the stuff she did for me today...is that odd?!?

YABU = I'm a weirdo
YANBU = that's ace!

Btw I'm not being smug - this is 100% a coping mechanism!!!!

Anyone?

Our family mantra is "never give up,never surrender!" We had it written on a slate wall hanging for the kids. Tbh I used to find it annoying when DH used to say it to the kids when they were little however during lockdown when moods are low there's always someone reminding you of it.

I have a new one.. having left a 12 year abusive relationship last year, i can get very anxious and devised one after a visit to my counsellor.. my mantra is to repeat 'i am brave, i am strong, i can do it' when i'm in a scary situation.. it seems to be getting me through so far!

If you can't say anything nice say nothing at all.

I keep this in mind. It's a handy mantra. Personally I can forgive just about anything except rudeness.

I have a mantra, one given to me thirty years ago when I started learning TM. I have no intention of ever sharing it with anyone.

It's served me well over the years, but it's mine. Everyone who learns TM has their own, individual mantra

I love the thanking yesterday me @Royalbloo I often say I'm doing a favour for future me.

Feel the fear and do it anyway.

I’m recovering from anxiety and at one point was scared of my own shadow.

Mine's 'just keep swimming", I didn't choose it, just seem to find myself humming it to myself in difficult situations. I work at my local hospital and am on mat leave at the moment, it works for both

Oh, one other:

Space is precious. Just because there is a space you don't have to fill it!

So, to do with home and clutter; a bit of empty space is sometimes just as pleasing and unexpected as yet another ornament or piece of art or furniture. Enjoy the space! :)

Mine is 'good enough'. I don't have to strive for or expect perfection. Good enough is fine by me !

My mantras are usually around self soothing... they are all “you did good” or “you did the right thing” (I’m usually wanting to weep buckets at this point) and I’m good at visualising patting myself on the head like you would a kid or a Labrador or something. It works when I’m feeling tearful and can’t/won’t speak to anyone about it.

Love all of these! I also have a positivity list on the inside of my bathroom cabinet. When abusive DH left I wrote one sad list and one happy list...then binned the sad one.

Mine is saying aloud to DP, or in my head to many other people, “ yes, yes, yes - that not withstanding”.

Haha mine at one point was "be safe have fun".

I'm prone to envy so I find "Don't look into your neighbours bowl except to check they have enough" useful.

I'll share (don't care if this is outing). Some of my friends and family have seen this but the opposite list was so awful and sad - imagine the opposite words... so I kept this one

I'm going to lower the tone but I have one that I got from here; dick is abundant!

I read it a long time ago and it helped me to put a breakup into perspective. It helped to remind me that I have managed to get through previous breakups i.e DC's dad and that actually it is possible to meet new people.

I also like if it's meant to be and that is also something I tell myself on a regular basis.

This is my happy list and what I choose to believe

Rise above it.
Originated when my DC's were young and prone to squabbling. Slightly irritated when they say it to me now!

Amen to DICK IS ABUNDANT lol

Mine is 'it is what it is'. Recognising there are things that I can't change and I need to accept them. My husband's was 'life is for living'. Which he did, until he died. That's one thing I've had to accept.

And another when I feel like someone has made a mistake or wronged me is "Everyone is trying their best". I know it's not always true but its soothing.

“This too shall pass” - I went through a really hard time with work 7 years ago and adopted this mantra to get through it, it helped and has helped me with some other tricky stuff since.

"I'm doing my best".

I'm a bit of a perfectionist me.

Oh I like the neighbour one hula008