Does anyone else have a mantra?

[Royalbloo]

As a single parent to one DD, working full time, mine is, "Be your own best friend." I.e. have a wine when you need one, or a lie in, leave a cup out the night before with a teabag ready, lay out DD's clothes.

DD's is, "Be kind, have fun." If you're not being kind then having fun isn't ok. You must be both.

Anyone else? I often thank "yesterday me" for the stuff she did for me today...is that odd?!?

YABU = I'm a weirdo
YANBU = that's ace!

"May I be happy, may I be peaceful, may I be free" and the slightly more practical "Do no harm but take no shit".

“You get out what you put in.”My dad taught me that.

For the really dark days, after some second trimester miscarriages, bereavements etc “there will be better days than this”. Which I suppose is a version of “this too shall pass”.

As a family, we operate under the “get up, dress up, show up” mantra. Even if you really can’t be arsed and you want to cry in bed, get up, put the right clothes on and get started. All you have to do is begin, the rest follows naturally.

“Not my circus, not my monkeys”. I say it in my head a lot at work, it helps me to stick to my job and say no to doing things that won’t benefit me and will just stress me out.

I also like to think of who I would like to be sat round my bedside when I die. It’s not my boss or my work colleagues or clients. It my family. Helps me to keep a work life balance, switch off the computer and go home!

Will you even remember this in 5 years?

Usually deployed when I've messed something up at work.

What a timely thread this is for me. Today I resolved to live by a rule. It's not quite a mantra but the rule isto do one thing purely to be kind and to do something that's kind to me each day. The kindness to myself is not necessarily an indulgent sort of thing, but might be something like making the effort to tidy up my bedroom as I know I'll enjoy it being nice.

“Mind over matter”. If I don’t mind it doesn’t matter! Saves me from doing lots of unnecessary stuff that I don’t give a shit about.

If no one will die it can wait till tomorrow

Stolen this one.
It will all be all right in the end.
If it's not alright, it's not the end

I also use not my circus, not my monkeys a lot!

Good enough is good enough.

It helps me get stuff done and cope with life in general!

@GeorgieTheGorgeousGoat

Feel the fear and do it anyway.

I’m recovering from anxiety and at one point was scared of my own shadow.

This is mine, too.

@DuesToTheDirt

Mine, after something goes wrong, is "Nobody's dead!" DD says I set the bar very low

I used to say this, but then people DID start dying, so then it didn’t really work anymore 😬

The current question I ask myself when the chips are down is ‘sink or swim?’ I always choose swim.

@rogueantimatter

What a timely thread this is for me. Today I resolved to live by a rule. It's not quite a mantra but the rule isto do one thing purely to be kind and to do something that's kind to me each day. The kindness to myself is not necessarily an indulgent sort of thing, but might be something like making the effort to tidy up my bedroom as I know I'll enjoy it being nice.

I want to do something deliberately kind everyday in 2021. It's a project.

JFDI here too, I'm prone to procrastination and laziness. I need to jump up and do the things I'm putting off.

'It's a phase'

I like 'be kind have fun'

‘That was then, this is now’ during anxious times that trigger bad memories.

“Today is the first day of the rest of your life” for good intentions

“today is not a good day to die / better late than ‘the late” when I am driving and impatient

“More haste less speed” (when late... yes, I am generally a late person )

I have two: "everything changes..." and "pain is weakness leaving the body" Funnily enough I've survived my entire life without mantras - then childbirth and parenthood gave me these

Also ‘there but for the grace of god go I” has stuck with me since school, even though I am not religious.

I always used to say to the kids 'Be bold, be brave, be beautiful' but that didn't really mean anything but to make us feel courageous or to make the most of having fun. But when my DS was asked at primary school (by Michael Rosen as it happens) he said our house mantra was 'Go the extra mile.'

In reality I don't think any of us live by that. Probably I'd say I have two:
'Know what makes you happy' which is about focusing on simple pleasures.

And when times are tough as they really have been recently:
'This too shall pass.'

This isn't a mantra as such but more like reframing thoughts. So instead of being like 'oh no I've got to go to work, I try to be more like ',I get to go to work' (in that I am lucky and privileged to he able to do that)

And also comparing yourself to others is a fast track to misery.

Never apologise for the space you occupy.

Very useful for my first day in a new job, in an occupied populated by very scary, well groomed professional looking people. As it turned out, I was actually in the wrong office but it did a lot for my confidence anyway.

I am totally hedonistic
Mine is
I’m here for a good time not a long time

I shall also own up to this one.
Life is a big pizza and I want a huge slice.

@DuesToTheDirt

Reminds me of one of mine. Everyone’s fed and nobodies dead. Some days it’s the best you can hope for

Mine is rather sad:

‘Trust no one, rely on no one’

It stems from many years ago when I was an accountant. i always thoroughly checked paperwork I’d been given by others rather than trusting they’d done it properly. If they got it wrong (and they frequently did) I was the one stuffed further along in the process.