Does anyone else have a mantra?

[Royalbloo]

As a single parent to one DD, working full time, mine is, "Be your own best friend." I.e. have a wine when you need one, or a lie in, leave a cup out the night before with a teabag ready, lay out DD's clothes.

DD's is, "Be kind, have fun." If you're not being kind then having fun isn't ok. You must be both.

Anyone else? I often thank "yesterday me" for the stuff she did for me today...is that odd?!?

YABU = I'm a weirdo
YANBU = that's ace!

This too will pass

I've a few which I use. I used to have panic attacks and mild anxiety and these always helped.

'You always have a choice'

'Will you remember this/is it important in 5 years time'

'This too will pass'

Mine is 'Is it helpful?'

From Acceptance and Commitment Therapy.

When I get caught up in self-critical talk and rumination I ask myself if it is helpful and is this helping me lead the life I want to lead. If it is helpful, I spend some time thinking about it and what I can do to improve a situation.. if it isn't helpful, I create distance from the thoughts and focus on something meaningful.

I don't always manage it, but I try. As someone who struggles with rumination/OCD and self-critical talk, this has helped me so, so much.

@Mxflamingnoravera,that would be fine. The request from the person who taught me was that I shouldn't tell anyone, not that someone else shouldn't tell me.

I have several!

Have courage and be kind. Taken from Cinderella but I think it’s so important.

You can’t win an arguement with stupid. - sometimes people are just dicks and you’re never going to win or understand them so it’s best just to forget them

And finally, so cheesy and simple. ‘You got this’ - I had over a year of therapy and I have to remind myself that I’m okay and I can do it!

I have a few positive ones that help me enormously
But
When I was was experiencing the darkest days ever - when my DD2 was sectioned and very ill and didn't want to recover, I found myself needing this one the most
"Fuck it"
It helped no end and wasn't as negative as it sounds. I think I meant it as "You can't fix this so give yourself a break ffs"
Try it!

@NoSquirrels I love "Don't make a drama out of a crisis"!

This is more advice than a motto, but it's always helped me: "Move towards anxiety". That thing you've been putting off and putting off, because it seems overwhelming/scary/impossible? Turn around and face it; however tough that may seem it will always in the end be better than hoping it will go away (it won't) or letting it fester. (I guess it's a paraphrase of "just swallow the fucking frog"!)

I have a mixture of “everything passes” and “I’ve got through far worse so I can do this”

Don't let past you be an arsehole to future you.

Which is sort of along the same lines as your be your own best friend mantra.

It's things like, for example, right now I have uniform for work that I need to iron. If I do it today, future me tomorrow morning won't have to, and will have time for an extra cup of coffee. If I leave it until the morning, past me has left yet another job for future me to deal with which will start future me's day on a sour note.

So I'll do it today while I have plenty of time and not be the arsehole piling jobs on me in the morning when there is very little time.

My other one is 'your attention is important, use it wisely', which in the age of social media is easier said than done.

Mine is " just get on with it, woman!"

I'm a terrible procastinator.

I kind of have two but I wouldn't say they're a mantra.

I tend to over-worry and can easily spiral over the smallest thing so a friend taught me to repeat problem. solution to bring myself back down. I verbalize the problem then think of the solution and if possible a plan b. If I cant make the solution happen immediately or if the solution is in someone else's hands then I have to stop worrying about it until something else was to happen. This really helps.

Secondly. In a previous emotionally abusive relationship my ex shouted at me "sort it out" in a very strong cockney accent about my mental health - yes, apparently I can turn off mental health when he tells me to. After 4 years this still bounces around in my head if something goes wrong. Obviously remembering abusive comments is not that helpful so this is one I'd like to forget!

Not a mantra but a life rule: If you wouldn't say it or show it to the CEO, don't put it on social media.

Kept me out of trouble and i don't have to fear future employers looking at my social media feeds.

@BistroCafe

Yes this resonates with me. At work I used to make a to do list in order of what I most felt like doing. And then start at the bottom.