Positive Covid test but we have no food in!

[ViralVera]

I got a text at 10pm tonight to say the DS is positive for CV. He hasn’t really had symptoms but THREE members at his SN college tested positive earlier this week so he was sent home to isolate and I wanted to make sure as DH is a keyworker. I really didn’t think it would be positive.

I’m bloody furious that staff have passed it onto vulnerable students. DS is classed as CEV so has been taught to be very good with hygiene but the staff haven’t been wearing masks, and didn’t seem to adhering to 2m social distancing at his induction session, but that’s another thread.

This means the whole household needs to isolate from now obviously but we are a family of 6 (adults) and get through a LOT of food so I shop every 2/3 days. The next big shop was due to be tomorrow!

The earliest online delivery I can get is for Wednesday and we literally only have milk, eggs, chips, meat and rice/pasta but not enough for 4 days. No squash/bread/cereal/yoghurts/fruit/veg etc.

There is literally no one local we can ask. DH’s brother lives an hour away but his family also has Covid (not from us as we haven’t seen them for months).

It’ll be a lot of shopping for a volunteer to get, if I can find one.

I’ve booked the other 5 of us for a drive in tests tomorrow so I was thinking about me and DH double masking and scooting round Tesco chucking stuff in trolleys as quickly as possible straight afterwards.

Should we? If we have it tomorrow, we had it today too!

@LadyInParis I can completely understand the fear; I still can't quite understand how it spreads, it seems to be the load you get and the propensity to be infected.

Please try to hold it within reason though.

Likelihood is that you won't catch it or if your grandad does it will be secondary. For example my father died of heart but through MRSA in hospital.

Sorry not very cheery but OP is really doing less damage than most people and just try to adhere to anything we can do to limitise it.

DH was coming with me to Tesco so he could go to one end of the shop and I could start at the other, so in and out in 15 minutes instead of 30. Makes sense No? These are plenty of unmasked couples/families still in my local Tesco. We’ll be using the scanner, wiping it before and after use, obviously not getting close to anybody. DD was in Tesco today, and DH was at work. Does 12 hours make that much of a difference?

So instead of one person potentially infected, which is bad enough, two potentially infected people are going to cover the whole supermarket, from one end to the other, and you think this is better?

The reason I’m raging... Is because you can't browse and saunter around Tesco for 10 days?

Just order some takeaways. Christ there's tons of them operating now and at very competitive prices. It's a fast growing market

You can get anything you want delivered to your door. We get leaflets constantly with all kind of inexpensive dinners. They even ask if you want cream or custard with your jam roly poly.

Frownette I know you’re right in terms of trying to keep the levels of anxiety calm and I mostly do, but having several mental health issues and severe anxiety it’s quite hard to do though I do try. My grandad is really sick atm with copd it scares me so much as he can barely speak on the phone sometimes with his breathing so it’s hard to keep calm but it doesn’t help to panic and I know you’re right. It’s just I see the affects just one selfish person could have and think of all the other people who are the same or worse, in regard to the safety and well being of others, it does scare me to think how badly their actions could affect so many parts of society and the lives of the people who are sick and can’t survive Covid on top of it. I do need to chill out though! I’m sorry about your dad

you are pathetic. The college staff hardly passed it on on purpose to DS. That is one feature if the virus that it is in some cases very contagious. and masks (esp the ones worn outside hospital are only so effective?.

and why do you think its ok to 'rage' at the college staff yet wanting to go to Tesco? and if you go for a test, surely you stock up in case it's positive.

bit odd that no one in a house hold of 6 adults knows anyone who would collect a click and collect.

worse case I would order a few take aways... you are not gonna starve.

From your posts it doesn’t sound like you’re on the breadline (but perhaps you are), I’m very surprised that by this stage people don’t have a bottle of milk and loaf of bread in the freezer and some tins of beans / pasta etc in the cupboard for this exact scenario.

Oh yes and when we got tested due to symptoms we were told to isolate the household until we got the results. So why any of you were out and about is anyone’s guess - just because your didn’t think he had it’. Nice job, superspreader!!!

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Frownette

@LadyInParis aw I know how hard it is. Viruses and bacteria are the predominant life forms on the planet, they'll be gone long after we are. But we have love, senses and memories which they don't. You have your grandad which they don't have. OP is0 just trying to make a mental readjustment to new isolation and lack of normal freedom.

We're not enclosing ourselves in a glass bubble, however! wink Just sensible precautions.

Just saw this on my notifications on the height thread guessing you meant to post here haha. Thank you. You’re a mix between me and op- as in normally balanced I’m certainly not and neither is op so it’s nice to see someone keeping a good perspective and it helps. Thank you for that! It’s helped. It’s the bigger picture isn’t it, as you said these things will be around long after we are gone. I just try to count myself lucky and I have found that through this pandemic, I have massively improved my appreciation for the smallest of things. It has given me a much better perspective than I had had previously so it isn’t all bad, I just went through the anniversary of my mum and my nans deaths (years apart but died two days apart if that makes sense - mum 11th and nan 13th) so the panic over grandad kinda triggered me here with these dates too. I shall calm it. Thanks for being kind

You do have options to get food without going out OP, loads of them have been suggested on here. Please pause to think of others who might be infected by you and/or DH going to the shops. Please. Its a few days of your life possibly without your favourite foods. You will be a risk to others in there, double masks or not.

@ViralVera

DH works an 30 miles away so no colleagues nearby. I WFH now but office is in central London so also no local colleagues. Family miles away. None of the DC’s mates have cars. They are teens. Our neighbours are elderly. We have no local friends, only acquaintances, we’ve lived here for 4 years! It is very sad .

The chances of us infecting anyone in Tesco in minuscule with masks on, no cough or sneezing, just by walking past them. Unlike getting up close while working with vulnerable students with no masks on.

I didn’t know about Amazon. We have Prime. I’ll check it out. Thanks for that.

I can’t tell whether you’re being serious or not. Do you really not grasp that infections can be spread while you are asymptomatic?

If you are usually this selfish, then I understand why you feel there is no one around to help you. Hopefully you can use this quarantine time to think.

Of course you can’t go shopping, especially not both of you how ridiculous! Ring your local council they should be able to drop a food parcel off until you can get a delivery slot.

I was thinking about me and DH double masking and scooting round Tesco chucking stuff in trolleys as quickly as possible straight afterwards.

How awfully selfish of you. You’re willing to put everyone else at risk. Absolute shame on you; you and people like you are the reason cases are so high and we’re in another lockdown.

How sad that people live such isolated lives that they don't know anyone they can ask for help in an emergency.

Surely you must know someone?

If not, there will be local volunteers, community support groups, church groups etc that can help.

@LadyInParis I think you're lovely actually :)

You mentioned your son is CEV, as is my husband. When he received the official shielding letters (both back in March and last week) it was followed by another letter from the local authority giving details of the volunteers organisations who can collect shopping and prescriptions for you. Did you not get this letter?

And on behalf of all those who are CEV please PLEASE PLEASE do not take even the smallest chance of passing it on to someone, even indirectly, in the supermarket, someone who may not survive. There are dozens of different options that others have given you, take one of those options to save other vulnerable people out there. For me the most frightening part of the last 8 months has been that no matter what precautions we have personally taken, my husband's life depends on others doing the right thing....please do the right thing.

I wish you well.

Yeah this pandemic has really brought out how many selfish people there are. If you go out to the supermarket, you are among them, I'm afraid. You have been given multiple options here, do NOT go to the supermarket. Masks may reduce transmission, not 100% prevent, and you'd be chancing risking others with even touching items/payment machines etc. Just because you think you won't infect anyone doesn't mean you won't. Unbelievable.

@ViralVera

No click and collects available either.

Bit of a coincidence that 3 staff members test positive then DS gets it isn’t it Cookie? None of the rest of us have had symptoms. They are in his ‘bubble’. One of them for definite was in college on Monday, then got a positive test on Tuesday. I am fucking raging.

Yet you are willing to knowingly go to Tesco and infect other people, who also might be cev? Hypocritical no?

It's the Supersoaker at the Birthday Party Mum, but now it's Covid at Tesco.

@ViralVera So you're annoyed at your DS's school and in the same breath considering going to a supermarket while you should be self isolating? The irony!!! Please DO NOT go out to the supermarket. Eat takeaway. It won't kill you. Going out might kill someone else though. Honestly the selfishness of some people is beyond belief. No wonder this country is in such a mess

It is the combination of OP’s stubbornness and complacency in violating the rules (two adults unnecessarily wizzing around Tesco) combined with raging at the college staff for apparently doing the same. It’s outrageous that the staff member went into college which waiting for their test result (apparently), but perfectly fine for her DH to go work at a busy distribution centre when the whole family should be isolating. Because she really really didn’t think her son had it.

The mind boggles at the double standards.

Frownette thank you, that’s really sweet. As are you! Hope you’re coping well with this lockdown and keep safe I have kept my fingers crossed for the business downstairs from my apartment. Lovely Italian lady so sweet and funny, it’s been difficult to see up close how such a pleasant woman could end up having to close until things get better and that might end her business. I keep her in my thoughts and buy from her as much as I can. We have to stick together

Don't do it

Ask a neighbour. I shopped for the boke across the road who had never said more than hello in 18 years. Despite me trying. He asked me when I walked by.

@ViralVera

DS does not go anywhere other than college. He has even been biking in, in the rain, as he was worried about catching CV on the bloody bus! He has autism so doesn’t communicate well. He only said he had a sore throat when I told him his test was positive. He has been isolating himself in his bedroom and wearing a mask when he comes out but still as DH works in a massive distribution centre employing thousands of people, we’re having tests as he will need to make his staff aware if his is positive, although he will not be going to work obviously.

DS’s test was not unnecessary either . Even if he doesn’t, hopefully become unwell, there are still long term effects from Covid so I wanted to check if he had picked it up and have it on record.

He had suffered mentally from isolation in lockdown as he only has college which is why I sent him back, with reassurance that there were strict measures in place.

Tests should be available to people who have had direct contact with positive cases. It’s not my fault the government are so shit that they’re not!

DH was coming with me to Tesco so he could go to one end of the shop and I could start at the other, so in and out in 15 minutes instead of 30. Makes sense No? These are plenty of unmasked couples/families still in my local Tesco. We’ll be using the scanner, wiping it before and after use, obviously not getting close to anybody. DD was in Tesco today, and DH was at work. Does 12 hours make that much of a difference?

The reason I’m raging at the college is why at least one of the staff members was in college the DAY BEFORE (Monday) we were notified there were positive tests (Tuesday)? That person is DS’s support worker. Tests take at least 24 hours to come back don’t they? DS’s took 29 hours which I thought was amazingly quick! If they had symptoms, to need to take a test, why were they there after the weekend? DS only goes in part time so he wouldn’t have had contact with that person for 4 days before Monday. Do colleges do random tests and they came back and none of the them had symptoms before, really?

We are seeing tests come back within 12 hours in our area at the moment. One student at our college tested at 5pm and had his results before college the next day!

STAY THE FUCK AT HOME!!! 🤦🏼‍♀️

Jesus wept.

A relative of mine recently died a horrific lonely death thanks to people like this.

Do not go into the supermarket where my remaining elderly relatives may be.

Ring the supermarket head office. Explain your situation and ask for a delivery.

If they say no, ring another supermarket.

I am sure someone somewhere near you has enough common sense and concern for others to deliver basic groceries to you.

Squash is not a necessity of life BTW.