Positive Covid test but we have no food in!

[ViralVera]

I got a text at 10pm tonight to say the DS is positive for CV. He hasn’t really had symptoms but THREE members at his SN college tested positive earlier this week so he was sent home to isolate and I wanted to make sure as DH is a keyworker. I really didn’t think it would be positive.

I’m bloody furious that staff have passed it onto vulnerable students. DS is classed as CEV so has been taught to be very good with hygiene but the staff haven’t been wearing masks, and didn’t seem to adhering to 2m social distancing at his induction session, but that’s another thread.

This means the whole household needs to isolate from now obviously but we are a family of 6 (adults) and get through a LOT of food so I shop every 2/3 days. The next big shop was due to be tomorrow!

The earliest online delivery I can get is for Wednesday and we literally only have milk, eggs, chips, meat and rice/pasta but not enough for 4 days. No squash/bread/cereal/yoghurts/fruit/veg etc.

There is literally no one local we can ask. DH’s brother lives an hour away but his family also has Covid (not from us as we haven’t seen them for months).

It’ll be a lot of shopping for a volunteer to get, if I can find one.

I’ve booked the other 5 of us for a drive in tests tomorrow so I was thinking about me and DH double masking and scooting round Tesco chucking stuff in trolleys as quickly as possible straight afterwards.

Should we? If we have it tomorrow, we had it today too!

I'm going against the grain in voting YANBU. If you have to buy food, you have to buy food. You should of course seek all better options, and it seems like you've got enough for Sunday and Monday morning anyway. But if it comes that nobody can deliver, you cannot reasonably be expected to starve your family!

@safariboot

I'm going against the grain in voting YANBU. If you have to buy food, you have to buy food. You should of course seek all better options, and it seems like you've got enough for Sunday and Monday morning anyway. But if it comes that nobody can deliver, you cannot reasonably be expected to starve your family!

There are always other ways to get food. There is no excuse to go into a shop and risk other people.

I don’t think for one minute this is a genuine poster, but does she really expect us to beleive she has never ordered pizza or Chinese?

@sergeilavrov

Absolutely shocking that you insist it’ll be fine to go shopping because you’ll be quick. Have you been asleep all year? How many people will you potentially kill due to your insistence on ‘scooting round Tesco’? How many deaths are acceptable to you, that won’t keep you up at night?

So many people have given you a list of solutions. Refusing them suggests you’re a bit too okay with collateral for the sake of a supermarket trip. Imagine if it was your child who died as a result of someone else’s trip - would you be fine with that? If not, don’t do it yourself.

Not everyone who gets it gets it bad. OP is not personally responsible for all deaths through COVID and is not prancing around like something from Clockwork Orange tearing away at the fabric of society, just had a last minute notice that they need to isolate.

If I was in the area I'd shop for them and most people would too.

@CookieMumsters

You dont know that the college staff passed it to your family. It could be from anywhere.

You did however know that your son had been tested, you could have prepared for this possibility. You need to take some responsibility for this.

Agree with this. You say he didnt really have symptoms which suggests he had some. You also knew what he had been sent home for. It's pointless now saying you should've been prepared as that doesnt help.

What might is that morrisons is still doing food boxes online. Loads of different ones and its separate to food delivery slots. You could grab an essentials one and maybe one of the meals ones. They have lots so please look and do not go out. Its imperative you self isolate.

You also risk being quite seriously fined.

@Ideasplease322 god more likely to be genuine if ordering pizza and chinese!

Wow. You do realise unless you disinfect your selves, your car, and then your hands after touching any items, then you can easily pass the virus onto objects that others come into contact with? This will make the ‘15’ minutes much longer .. Stop being so disgustingly selfish and lazy. There are an incredible amount of options for home delivery or help from said charities that people have mentioned above. Even marks and Spencer deliver through deliveroo. Want to know how I know? I felt sick one day (not Covid related) but needed food. I went onto deliveroo and ordered my marks and Spencer food. It was delivered in an hour. I live in Paris. What’s your excuse? I looked online after and found they are doing it in England too. You have Aldi, Morrison’s, Iceland, Asda, Tesco, Waitrose, Lidl, on and on, who you could order from and get in an hour or so from deliveroo or next day delivery. Or do as others have said and; go to websites who help you stretch your food, ask Facebook, ask friends of friends or acquaintances, use the volunteers, try the taxi option, use the local fb page that is for this issue specifically, other charities, and churches, I mean how many options could you need? Seriously? These are just the ones I remember from previous posts.
But you seem intent on wanting to be able to go to Tesco to get exactly what you are used to having. What people call luxuries. Like yoghurts and squash. The brands you want. The simplicity of not having to put in work to scout for help. You are incredibly entitled to say the least. I’m English and my grandad lives in England he has copd. What if he caught it from your ‘scoot’? He would most certainly die as he is already extremely sick from his chest issues as is. You could kill my grandad (as an example, I’m not being literal it could kill anyone and leave their families devastated) and for what? Your excuses that you need yoghurt and won’t be coughing on people? You do realise you don’t need to cough on people for it to spread right? God I could go on. Not to mention as others have said it’s people like you keeping this fucking hell going. A hell that people have lost jobs and businesses from, lost loved ones, lost their health as it has caused long term complications for some after the infection has passed, people with mental health issues rapidly declining and even those without becoming depressed, suicide rates sky rocketing, people not being able to see family do I need to go on? Get a grip and do some research and make do like the rest of us. Pathetic

I still don’t understand why people aren’t prepared for this. I have had to isolate three times now in the last six months

I don’t stockpile, but I always have a weeks worth of Food int he house. It’s not gourmet, one meal was tinned spaghetti, but everyone should have the basics covered for a good few days, this can happen at any time.

As a side, why bother having tests which will use up resources when you have to isolate anyway. Unless, if you're negative, you're able to stay elsewhere away from your son. Why not just isolate for the period you have to

@Frownette By your own logic you acknowledge there are people who do get severe long term illness and death as a result of contracting COVID... as a society we have a duty to keep those people safe. Equally, asymptomatic carriers do spread - and this has no impact on how it affects those who catch it, so that’s no excuse.

Getting a volunteer to do the shopping is one of many viable alternatives that would be appropriate though!

Op will do as op likes as op is more important than all the rest of the world which has been affected. Disgusting so called human being. And having the gall to be angry at the school! They could have caught it from people who behave like you do!

Please think about the fact that you're angry 3 staff members passed it to your son by coming into work but you're happy to do the same to people in Tesco... what's the difference there? Even with masks and hand sanitiser you still risk passing it on. You need to ask for the local volunteers and ask them to get you easy things like pasta and tins of soup or think about things that might last you a bit longer. Get them to do a few runs over the next few days. Ask your kids friends parents. If I got a text to help from an acquaintance I wouldn't say no. I'd rather help.
Also my local shop is doing same day deliveries. It's an independent local store but they hold co op stuff and they're on an app called Jisp so perhaps even if you're in the arse end of nowhere like me, your store is on there too? We don't get deliveries of any take aways so it would really screw us over without that shop. Also local butchers and farm shops are really running with home deliveries now.

Well why haven't I got it then? I wash my hands, disinfect, keep distance.

My friend has COPD and despite him trying to hug me and not wearing a mask in shops he hasn't caught it. I haven't caught it as far as I know Elderly relatives haven't caught it despite me doing shopping for them. I'm really anti scaremongering however think it's a wise precaution to just keep your distance and wash frequently, same as black plague.

If you get it you probably won't get it badly, just keep your distance.

@BlackBucketOfCheese

OP honestly in my 16 years on and off this site, this is one of the most irresponsible, self entitled and altogether stupid posts I have ever seen on here.

Hear hear

It’s clear that ops priority is to have the exact food and luxuries and brands she’s used to. Ie Tesco brands, yoghurts and juice. Otherwise she would just use the many many suggestions here and make do. I hate it when I can’t have my marks and Spencer food as I’m not keen on some french supermarket foods, ie bread and i like my English comforts from home. But it wouldn’t occur to me to risk other people’s health and lives for it! I would order the french supermarkets bread if I had to and other stuff I could get hold of and get on with it. It wouldn’t bother me at all. Certainly wouldn’t occur to me to go out and risk everyone else because I want my scones and my fave brand of bread!!

@safariboot

I'm going against the grain in voting YANBU. If you have to buy food, you have to buy food. You should of course seek all better options, and it seems like you've got enough for Sunday and Monday morning anyway. But if it comes that nobody can deliver, you cannot reasonably be expected to starve your family!

Tbh it just shows how privileged our society is that you think the family could possibly starve when OP has some food in and only has 4 days to wait for a delivery anyway.

Your husband works in a distribution centre with thousands of people? How do you know he didn’t catch it and give it to your DS??

It is MASSIVELY irresponsible what you’re thinking of doing and exactly the reason the virus is still spreading. No, “double masking” and being in and out in 15 minutes is not going to stop you infecting people and I’m sure if you do and people knew they’d be “fucking raging” too.

There are plenty of local shops doing short notice deliveries if you don’t want to rely on volunteers or as others have said use the council, Facebook, Amazon whatever.

Newmumatlast couldn’t agree more. 4 days, she has food, and as last resort could order takeaway for the last day and a half or whatever until the delivery arrived. Too privileged. I’m horrified. I haven’t seen something this outlandish in terms of this kind of behaviour. I have seen people flouting some rules and it annoyed me but this is a whole other level.

But that is crackers @LadyInParis. It's magnifying it. OP is well aware she might have to isolate for a few days.

If I had to isolate right now I'd make my way through 6 cans (minestrone soup etc) and ask a neighbour to get me milk and bread and resign myself to having a lacklustre diet for a week. Wouldn't do any lasting damage.

Makes me scared to go out myself if I’m honest. Now I know this stuff is happening. People who are legally required to isolate since they have a very high risk of having it, or being carriers of it, still going out. The amount of people this affects is shocking. My mental health is bad enough including fear of outside and anxiety, now increased massively as well as my anxiety over the health of my grandad with copd which is heightened hugely also, because I now know he is at a much greater risk because of people like you, so here is one person you have already affected op. Thank you for the added anxiety and extreme fear. Not to mention the other risks people have tried to drum into your head over and over and who you seem to not give a shit about. Like their lives affected by lockdown, their loved ones at risk. I’m really shocked

@ViralVera

DS does not go anywhere other than college. He has even been biking in, in the rain, as he was worried about catching CV on the bloody bus! He has autism so doesn’t communicate well. He only said he had a sore throat when I told him his test was positive. He has been isolating himself in his bedroom and wearing a mask when he comes out but still as DH works in a massive distribution centre employing thousands of people, we’re having tests as he will need to make his staff aware if his is positive, although he will not be going to work obviously.

DS’s test was not unnecessary either . Even if he doesn’t, hopefully become unwell, there are still long term effects from Covid so I wanted to check if he had picked it up and have it on record.

He had suffered mentally from isolation in lockdown as he only has college which is why I sent him back, with reassurance that there were strict measures in place.

Tests should be available to people who have had direct contact with positive cases. It’s not my fault the government are so shit that they’re not!

DH was coming with me to Tesco so he could go to one end of the shop and I could start at the other, so in and out in 15 minutes instead of 30. Makes sense No? These are plenty of unmasked couples/families still in my local Tesco. We’ll be using the scanner, wiping it before and after use, obviously not getting close to anybody. DD was in Tesco today, and DH was at work. Does 12 hours make that much of a difference?

The reason I’m raging at the college is why at least one of the staff members was in college the DAY BEFORE (Monday) we were notified there were positive tests (Tuesday)? That person is DS’s support worker. Tests take at least 24 hours to come back don’t they? DS’s took 29 hours which I thought was amazingly quick! If they had symptoms, to need to take a test, why were they there after the weekend? DS only goes in part time so he wouldn’t have had contact with that person for 4 days before Monday. Do colleges do random tests and they came back and none of the them had symptoms before, really?

My SIL was tested in the morning, had results back same evening so not always 24 hours.

Frownette I don’t understand your post. That’s what I said in mine so I don’t understand how me agreeing is crackers. Regards the shitty diet for a bit. And she does have to isolate right now

Our neighbours in the street shop for each other when self isolating. Are you in contact with any neighbours? Perhaps you should have had your strategy worked out given there was a chance of this happening.

I know it is shitting the stable door after the horse has bolted but I am absolutely astonished that after 7 months of living during a pandemic that a parent with this many adults would not have at least a weeks worth of food in. We have cereal, gnocchi, tins, part baked bread etc squirrelled round the house. And it wasn’t a last minute positive test - once you knew someone was having a test you look at the worst case scenario and book the delivery then, surely, rather than waiting for the positive result?
I genuinely think this is why we are in this scenario - someone with a positive test has some idiot in their house running round the supermarket because they utterly failed to do any basic preparation. I’m sorry if that’s harsh but it’s absolutely true.

If your DS was waiting for test results then why was DD in Tesco today and DH at work? If a member of your household is waiting for results then the others should be isolating surely? Your DS shouldn’t be getting a test if there are no symptoms-he should just isolate for 14 days. If a member of your household has symptoms and is awaiting test results, your DH should not have been at work and DD should not have been in Tesco. And you have the temerity to criticise the staff at the college, who may have been told to isolate due to contact with a positive case? Oh the irony.

Please don’t go to Tesco. I’ll second that Iceland are great for deliveries.