to tell friend she's accidentally used my baby scan photo?

[LittleTruffle]

My baby was born last month and one of my friends is currently pregnant. During my pregnancy, I shared some pictures of my scan photos with her.

A few days ago, she posted a photo of a scan picture on social media. I recognised the scan picture immediately as one of mine. I even dug out the actual scan photo to double check - it is definitely mine that she's used.

She has clearly meant to post a picture of one of her own scan photos, but has accidentally posted one of mine and she hasn't realised what she's done.

I didn't see the social media post when she initially posted it a few days ago. I only saw it for the first time today. Already, tons of people have liked the picture and have made comments, which she has replied to.

I think, if I'd have seen her social media post when she initially posted it, I would have let her know.. but a few days have gone by now and I don't know what to do.

Should I let my friend know she's accidentally used an image of my scan photo? Or, should I keep quiet and just let her enjoy the moment as it's not doing anyone any harm?

YABU - Yes, it would be unreasonable to tell her.
YANBU - No, it would not be unreasonable to tell her.

It’s not as mistake- have a discreet word.

This sounds really, really weird.

It sounds like the baby is in such a distinctive “pose” that she’d KNOW she wasn’t given that picture at her appointment. She’d have to crop out her own name dob etc and she will know she hasn’t done this.

I’d be tempted to post your picture in the comments and say “omg?! What are the chances! This is DS’s old scan pic - they are twinning lol!”

But mainly because there is no way I could possibly see this as a genuine mistake. She must know that this isn’t her child’s scan photo.

This is such a weird situation. I’d just leave it.

If it's "not your average scan photo" I'm pretty sure she knows it's not her own scan photo then. This is just odd. I'd call her out (politely).

@Zolaanna

Scans all look the same anyway. Who actually cares, no one else will. Apart from the parents no one actually could give a crap, sorry to burst your bubble. If you're that upset you shouldn't have shared your scan pics to begin with.

I'm not upset by it. I'm not really that bothered. I'm just trying to be a good friend and work out what the right thing to do is ..for her!

@HopeAndDriftWood

She’s 30 weeks pregnant and has just posted her scan photo announcing her pregnancy?

I’d be checking in that she’s alright, just incase.

No 🤦🏻‍♀️

She is around 30 weeks.
This was NOT a pregnancy announcement post. She had already announced the pregnancy when she was 12 weeks.
The recent post from a few days ago was just her saying how much she is looking forward to meeting her baby.

All seems a bit weird, especially saying how excited she is to meet her baby but with your baby's unusual scan on the post

if the scan is that distinctive and different to normal scan photos, how on earth has your friend not realised?

If you cropped your name and personal details out of the scan you sent her, she'd have noticed there were no details on that particular photo, no? So unless she did it herself, it's pretty obvious it's not her photo.

Also, people are saying scan photos are so generic but I know all of my scans and wouldn't confuse them with anyone elses? You look at them 1000s of times!

OP if you don't actually care then I guess you don't need to say anything but it's pretty weird and I'd be embarrassed if I had done this and been caught out!

Weird AF..
I would have to say something, but say it in a jokey way - WOW! How similar to my scan and attach a copy of yours!

Tbh if she's sharing that far on, she probably has pulled it from her phone archive, and as name is cropped out she probably doesn't remember it's not hers, unless she looked at her real scan again. I'd just leave it, it's not a photo of your newborn, though it probably would annoy me all the same!

If you sent it via Whatapp they save to your photos so she’s probably just got confused as they are all similar. I don’t think it will matter if you tell her or not! Surely she will just laugh at her mistake?

Sounds very very much like she posted it in error. I can't see much point in saying anything, but it must be bothering you if you have felt the need to post about it here @LittleTruffle ...So yeah, just mention it if you want, for peace of mind.

If she GENUINELY posted yours in error, then she will laugh about it, say 'ooops sorry!' delete the pic, and repost hers.

I am also wondering if it IS hers, and as a previous poster said, they use stock photos, and may have given you and her the same ones.

Many baby scan pics look very alike.

I would've recognised mine as well, as I stared at them for so long!

I'm not sure whether I would say anything or not OP, how embarrassing!

@TableDesk

Weird AF.. I would have to say something, but say it in a jokey way - WOW! How similar to my scan and attach a copy of yours!

Good idea. Maybe do this @LittleTruffle

This sounds accidental now that we know her scan was done months ago. She probably searched her phone for 'scan', saw your picture, thought it was hers and posted it. Her post was focused more on looking forward to her baby than the actual scan photo. She probably did not examine your scan photo in detail so would not remember how distinctive it was. I would just leave it, there is no reason to bring it up really.

Just tell her, it's prob a mistake and she'll take it down.

If she's 30 weeks she prob scrolled way back and found a scan pik, not thinking posted it

Does it really matter? It's not as if anyone is going to recognise your baby walking around town from the scan photo.

Either it's an honest mistake on her part, in which case why embarrass her (no one is going to think 'oh that baby doesn't look like her scan photo' when it's born)? Or she is deliberately using your photos to pretend to be pregnant, in which case the reuse of your photo is very small fry (if she's a real friend) compared to the situation she's created. If you're sure she's pregnant, I would let it go.

It's hard to tell which image you are selecting on a phone thumbnail.
I think tell her. 'Hey friend are you sure that's baby x and not baby y??? That is a lot like the funny scan picture of y I sent you xx'

@Chamomileteaplease

I think I would see my friend rather differently after this episode. Quite strange behaviour - very attention seeking.

If they were an actual friend I would definitely not think this, like the OP I’d assume it was a mistake.

I don't agree with those saying that scans photos all look the same! My DC's are now 13, 11 and 9 but I can still picture their scan photos in my head and would recognise them.

I can't decide whether your friend has used your photo knowingly or not but either way I'd mention it privately, in a 'whoops, you clicked on my photo by accident' type way.

I'd tell her but keep it lighthearted as pp said, something about them being twins.

There's no way she's done it by accident. So yea- I'd be identifying it to her because it's strange. She would have had to scroll back through your Facebook, snapshot the photo, and post it. If she's juts taken a photo of her scan, she wouldn't be scrolling back months to post it. I think you find it strange, Regardless if the attempts to justify it, and I wouldn't believe she was pregnant. I would also report the photo to Facebook if it's not removed.

I would ignore. Looks like a genuine mistake.

I would just tell her, but private message. That you think she may have muddled up the scans and accidentally posted yours the other day as her own. Maybe send her your scan again with everything identifying blurred, except your first name? Likely accident. But i would want to know as I would want to be gushing over my own baby and have granny/auntie sal priniting off a copy of my actual scan to stick on fridge etc.