To ask how did you catch your partner cheating?

[pieinthesky76]

I've been cheated on twice (that I know of) and the worst one.. he had logged into Facebook on my work laptop that we often used at home.

I was presenting and connected my laptop to a projector only for his Facebook to pop up with their entire sordid chat. This was before messenger was a separate app.

I also forgave the idiot for some reason.

Can anyone beat that?

the twat screenshotted messages he sent to the OW and the photos synced to our iPad. I was four months pregnant with our son, I threw him out instantly.

I suspected for a long time bu

I suspected for a long time due to odd behaviour like disappearing to the “supermarket” for 4 hours... but eventually I happened to look in his coat pocket to check he had his keys with him (as he rarely went out without his coat)... and there I found a hotel receipt for a date/time that he was “at the cinema”... He came clean but said it was a one off. I booted him out.

The ex Dh I had to take his work laptop and threaten to smash it to bits before he finally ended months of gaslighting me and told the truth. The ex dp seemed to get some twisted kick out of telling me each I time ( I stupidly kept forgiving him).

@wewillmeetagain

The ex Dh I had to take his work laptop and threaten to smash it to bits before he finally ended months of gaslighting me and told the truth. The ex dp seemed to get some twisted kick out of telling me each I time ( I stupidly kept forgiving him).

Using a work laptop to undertake extra curricular activities is so dumb.. how is that ever going to end well.. and if it's your own surely you're at risk of losing your job?

I got cheated on once, I was 18. My bf suddenly became friends on fb with someone who he hadn't ever mentioned. I knew her from school and she had a bad reputation. Anyway he suddenly got secretive with his phone, denied any wrong doing but suddenly wanted our nights out to be separate, if I was going to the city he'd stay in the town and vice versa. I just knew tbh, I had that gut feeling so hacked into his facebook, I'm not even ashamed I did.

It was all there for me to see, my gut was right. I called him and told him what I'd done and what id seen, he tried to deny it so I hung up. He called back and admitted it and said it was a mistake but that I was wrong for going through his messages. I told him to get fucked

@pieinthesky76 he didn't use the laptop, turns out he had a second phone hidden away. I just threatened him with the laptop because I knew he would lose his job if I'd have smashed it up and it was the only way I could get him to stop all the mind games and tell the truth.

First dh - various ways through the years (he was a bit of a serial cheat - I finally saw sense!) - including : earring on the bedroom floor at his place, messages flashing up on his phone, an engraved tankard delivered to our house! In the end in the year before we split up he ended up just going out all night and not answering his phone - I’d got to stage I didn’t even care enough to look into it /ask questions by then.

Current dh - looking back there were loads of signs at the time - her liking and commenting on all his pictures suddenly, him being places he wasn’t expected to be, smelling of her etc but I was sure we were happy so I believed all the explanations (to be fair to me I was 9 months pregnant / had a new baby). Found out properly years afterwards as his messages had auto saved to our MacBook.

I just looked in my exes phone because I had suspected it for a long time.
Saw messages to some woman who happened to be 20 years older than her. They had a kiss and a fumble. I called the old bag and told her she was welcome to him because he had mummy issues and she's old enough to be his mum.
Not my finest moment but damn I felt good at the time.

Sat next to him. On a break as I suspected something but no proof. He cane round to tell me I was the love of his life. I was browsing through Facebook as he went to get us a take away. His “girlfriend” changed her relationship status to in a relationship with him. I showed him it.

He was angry and said she was a stalker. Nope I messaged her and she told me everything. Bye

My XH after 17 years of marriage and 20 years together blocked me on Facebook and then changed his relationship status to is in a relationship with OW

He forgot to block my sister's partner and my oldest friend who both called me up to ask what was going on. He said nothing until I confronted him.

She came round to my house 3 days before Christmas and told me about it.

6th sense and I accidently found his dating website and the messages back and forth. Classy man had her in my bed whilst I was in hospital with our 3 week old who had sepsis.

She was welcome to him.

@LD22020

6th sense and I accidently found his dating website and the messages back and forth. Classy man had her in my bed whilst I was in hospital with our 3 week old who had sepsis.

She was welcome to him.

That is truly shocking.

@Lordamighty it was absolutely awful at the time. Looking back neither of us were happy, when I kicked him out it was like a weight had been lifted. It was humiliating that he did it but once people found out he absolutely got held to account. I hope he treats the next one better.

@Chairlove lol I love that... Bye.

His pregnant girlfriend came knocking on my door looking for him. Told him to leave that night. They had another child but it didn't last.

Some of these are shocking!

I believed “shag bites” on exDPs neck were “bruises from fighting”... twice 🤦🏻‍♀️

I found nudes on his phone once while he was passed out drunk so I smashed the phone up and binned it. Then the next day while he was frantically looking for it I told him he must’ve left it in the taxi coz he didn’t have it when he got in

When we broke up he claimed he had never cheated, but unfortunately my positive chlamydia test proved otherwise (not envy)

I was 22 and I just knew, my boyfriend had been gaslighting me for weeks but I couldn't prove it.

One morning on fb I saw he had been tagged in some photos. Fairly innocuous but sitting and drinking with girls I didn't know. I went in to stalk mode (not hacking, but I would have!) and stalked the girl and found the whole album. Amazingly, in the background of one of the pics, he was kissing a girl. I remember nothing but relief that I wasn't wrong/going mad!

He was a teacher and on summer holidays and having a lie in so hadn't woken up yet/had a chance to cover up so I called him and said - bear in mind I know the answer, I'm going to ask you one last time - have you cheated on me.

He denied it. He continued denying it and eventually said "well I haven't seen the picture and so don't know do I !!"

Total moron. Fun fact, he had actually got that girl pregnant on said night out and now has an estranged son.

Dear god, LD22020 - that is beyond reprehensible. Glad he was held to account at least, and hope you and your LO are happy and well now.

He forgot that his phone was linked to the "find my iPhone" app on our iPad. I wasn't even trying to catch him out, I was just looking for my phone.

He told me he was going away with friends in the UK for the weekend, but his phone turned up in the South of France.

I had wanted to get out of the marriage for a while.

I was massively suspicious that something was going on so checked his computer history. Found dinner reservations in a city not far from where we live. He still tried to deny it... Who knows if it was more than dinner. Never found out. Now don't care.

@brittanyfairies

My XH after 17 years of marriage and 20 years together blocked me on Facebook and then changed his relationship status to is in a relationship with OW

He forgot to block my sister's partner and my oldest friend who both called me up to ask what was going on. He said nothing until I confronted him.

Fucking hell!!!!

These stories are awful😭