To ask what’s the most toe curling OTT boast/showing off you’ve heard from a parent about their child?

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Just seen a FB post from a mum friend boasting about her 9yo daughter doing online dance and gym sessions via zoom and practising for her 11 plus complete with picture of said child sat at her desk and smiling for the camera. Hope the child gets time to chill out now and then! Mum obviously needs us all to believe her daughter is a high achiever! It was so cringy though and I wondered if anyone else out there was biting their lip at stuff like this?!

@00100001 I'm not sure that you've understood @BluebellsGreenbells post about her 19 year old DD in relation to a other post earlier in the thread . It's supposed to be a humorous take on the actions of 19 year olds . Your response is weird to say the least .

CounsellorTroi
The most bizarre thing she ever said was another parent mentioned how tall DD was, and she quipped that her DD was in fact the tallest in the school. My DD was a full head taller that her. They were stood next to each other at the time. So strange. My DD wasn’t even the tallest in school either.

Gosh is there no end to the things parents are competitive about? Height ffs?

Believe it – my son is four months younger than SIL’s daughter. When he was about a year and a half old, SIL’s mother said to me, “I can’t believe how much Adam has grown. I think he’s taller than Susie.” SIL lost her shit at her mother: “No! No! Susie’s taller! Susie’s taller!” Her mother walked away muttering, “Okaaaaaaaay . . . “ It was a light bulb moment for me. It’s when I realized that SIL is one of those competitive parents I heard about, and we were in competition.

@OutOntheTilez

CounsellorTroi The most bizarre thing she ever said was another parent mentioned how tall DD was, and she quipped that her DD was in fact the tallest in the school. My DD was a full head taller that her. They were stood next to each other at the time. So strange. My DD wasn’t even the tallest in school either.

Gosh is there no end to the things parents are competitive about? Height ffs?

Believe it – my son is four months younger than SIL’s daughter. When he was about a year and a half old, SIL’s mother said to me, “I can’t believe how much Adam has grown. I think he’s taller than Susie.” SIL lost her shit at her mother: “No! No! Susie’s taller! Susie’s taller!” Her mother walked away muttering, “Okaaaaaaaay . . . “ It was a light bulb moment for me. It’s when I realized that SIL is one of those competitive parents I heard about, and we were in competition.

Adam obviously needs to try harder with growing 🤣🤣🤣

SILs are crazy.
Mine once claimed her miscarriage as the oldest grandchild in the family.

As long as my kids eat well, sleep well, don't cause too much mayhem in the house and school, I'm happy. I'd brag as much to other parents tbh

@ChooseYourLameName

I’m guilty of this. My DC is 3 and non verbal. Two days ago he said ‘I want coke, not clear stuff!’ He’s never said anything other than occasional babbles.

I bragged all over Facebook, Instagram and Twitter! And now mumsnet it seems

This is the kind of brag I don't mind at all Seriously though, that is really good.

I agree, that really is good, Changeyourlastname.

@lockedownloretta

This a poisonous thread

The only poison has been from posters throwing tantrums because they've completely and utterly misunderstood what the thread is about.

Sleeplessinliverpool said we (or maybe it was just me she aimed this at she hasn't been back to explain) deserved for our husbands to "beat the shit out of us". I personally think that's far worse than pointing out the hilarity of performance parenting, then again I'm not a misogynist who things domestic violence is deserving based on your opinions 🤷‍♀️

That comment is now deleted BTW which is a shame as it really showed the vile nature of @sleeplessinliverpool

[quote shinynewapple2020]**@00100001* I'm not sure that you've understood @BluebellsGreenbells* post about her 19 year old DD in relation to a other post earlier in the thread . It's supposed to be a humorous take on the actions of 19 year olds . Your response is weird to say the least . [/quote]
I do get it.

I was being sarcastic/silly

Nvm

Someone tried to biast their 6yo got further in one day of minecraft than i had in three years.

Basically no one likes to see anyone post anything remotely positive on social media. People prefer negatively all these comments prove it. That’s society for you very sad but true

There is a difference between being proud of DC's accomplishments and boasting. This thread is laughing at boasting.

If you can't tell the difference then you're probably prone to boasting.

What an interesting post!
Need some balance though as some people are getting too worked up!
I get the OP's sentiment in starting this post.
Yes be proud of ACTUAL achievements. But to praise children for normal behaviours and lead them to think they are the "best" despite being average is setting them up to fail.
When these children go out into the real world, without parents to hand-hold, how will they cope with being average or even worse in comparison to peers?!
In my job, I am constantly seeing the broken, acopic adults that have been brought up never to be average / wrong. The real world is tough. The role of a parent is not to constantly praise. It's to teach children to deal with the range of emotions they will experience in life - good and bad. I'd rather have a child who can deal healthily with failure and move on then fall at the first hurdle and end up depressed because their boss doesn't think the sun shines out of their backside like mummy and daddy did. It's bad parenting imo!

Not the same thing at all, but my son has dyspraxia because he has Ehler’s Danlos Syndrome. (Just diagnosed at 14). He learned to write his name very, very messily when he was nearly seven. I proudly shared it on FB (friends only) and I was accused of being one of THOSE mothers (despite also sharing my worries about his struggles up to that point.). People are arseholes no matter what you do. (Even your “friends”.)

This thread started out so funny, then descended into snarky comments, deliberate misunderstandings and aggression. I don’t normally read up to the 21st page of a thread - is this what usually happens?!

@ChooseYourLameName That's an amazing achievement! Totally different to the boasting mentioned in this post.

@GlummyMcGlummerson Your posts are so funny! Thanks for making me LOL. Stay funny!

@justilou1

This is a bit off topic to the thread but there's a really good book for teens with dyspraxia (written by a teen with dyspraxia) I got a lot out of it as an adult

www.amazon.co.uk/Caged-Chaos-Dyspraxic-Breaking-Updated/dp/1849054746/?tag=mumsnetforu03-21

Thereareliterallynonamesleft as with any lighthearted AIBU thread, those who probably do the very thing being laughed at get defensive and deliberately misunderstand.

As a PP said, it's like when people laugh at performance parenting and some posters flounce around saying 'you are all horrible, so nobody should SPEAK to their children in future. Well I'm going to continue talking to my child however I want. It's better than having your heads in your phones'
😂
Meanwhile everyone else knows there's issue with talking to children and probably sit at home knowing thay poster is someone who thinks the whole of the cafe needs to hear about their child's mandarin lesson and how they must do their piano tonight on the piano they hand crafted aged 5.

A parent at our school was plastering far and wide over sm how her dd finished her year 6 SAT in 10 minutes, all 55 questions. She was regaling the playground mums with this a couple of days later when she realised the ta from that class was stood behind her with a face like wtf? Telling everyone her dd was on the gifted and talented programme and had achieved greater depth in all her SATS. In reality the dd just scraped a pass in every Subject and is a horrible bully. Allegations of bullying are just turned around to she is being bullied and just standing up for herself.
Now at secondary with my ds in year 8 and was fighting the other week, parents called into school, poor dd needed a weekend away to cheer her up from the bullying (this was pre lockdown when we were still allowed away from home).
The sad thing is the dd really and truly believes she's all these wonderful things her parents tell the world she is and has a vile attitude to anyone perceived as not being as fabulous as she is, so my ds who does his best, but is not "top of the class" is obviously a dunce and she is more than happy to yell this to him and tell parents how "dumb" olbndanszombie Jr is.

A friend whose eight year old had started piano lessons: " He loves it, and it's good for him - for the first time in his life, it's something he hasn't had instant success with!"

I've seen a few "my child is top of the class" on here and SM.

Now I'm a teacher and I have never pegged someone as "top of the class", much less actually expressed it to anyone. There is no top of the class, it's impossible to measure because there's so many aspects to every child. Someone children very much struggle academically but are the kindest most thoughtful children going. Whereas the ones with the best exam results can have terrible attitudes. Who is telling you your children are "top of the class" - and were they the exact words used?

A workmate of mine was obviously very jealous that an old schoolmate of hers won a gold medal.
So she decided to push her daughter in a niche sport. Every spare minute was spent practicing, and no amount of money was too much. Little brother was dragged along behind and never expected to amount to anything.
Mum gloated that she was going to be at the olympics.
She never was and she gave up the sport at 14 🤣🤣

Oh wow we have a friend in our circle terrible for being competitive in all areas, but, for me it was riling when, knowing dc was starting growth treatment due to issues with hright would point out Look a mini Joyced and minigobster... Look at how minigobster towers over minijocyed, they're really small but minigobster is so tall aren't they? " pretty much all the time. When they were on a see saw and her dc got on with my dc and the seesaw plummeted when her dc got on she remained mute about how her dc must be much heavier... 🤔

Think I might’ve posted this one on MM before, took DD2 to a music class (bit cringe in itself, think of the circle time in Cold Feet with James Nesbitt!) and they had to clap the rhythm of the word - sau-as-ges, fish-and-chips etc. Lady holds up a picture and asks little girl to say it, she fidgets and says nothing. Lady asks if she can clap fish-fin-gers and dad brays, “oh Jocasta wouldn’t know what one of those is we would never eat them”

Someone posted a photo of their child with their piggy bank showing they were about to donate to charity. Did find that rather embarrassing.