To ask what’s the most toe curling OTT boast/showing off you’ve heard from a parent about their child?

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Just seen a FB post from a mum friend boasting about her 9yo daughter doing online dance and gym sessions via zoom and practising for her 11 plus complete with picture of said child sat at her desk and smiling for the camera. Hope the child gets time to chill out now and then! Mum obviously needs us all to believe her daughter is a high achiever! It was so cringy though and I wondered if anyone else out there was biting their lip at stuff like this?!

Arrogant twongs will always be arrogant twongs - they key is not to let them affect you.
If you overhear a parent speaking to their child and you judge them - more fool you for wasting your time listening and judging - some of the posts above have shown that things are not always as they seem. Move on.
‘My child is better than yours’ direct crap is exactly that - generally comes from the parent’s own insecurities and is actually nothing to do with your child at all. Feel sorry for them.
A parent posting on SM about their child’s genuine achievements- meh...be happy for them and move on, they haven’t harmed anyone

@Stinkywizzleteets they can say whatever they like, that’s right whatever they like. But the whole concept of social media means that people will form opinions and respond!!! That’s right it goes two ways🤷‍♀️🤦‍♀️ So if you don’t like people’s opinions don’t p’brag.

My ex was terrible for boasting about his kids, especially his only DS. All three were quite musical as smalls but only DS has taken it to professional level.
They used to do all the local music festivals and invariably won so I started entering them for older age group classes so they sometimes came second or even third for a change. ExH would walk out in disgust if they didn't win. Patient explanations of, "he played really well, you can be proud of him, please remember he's 8 and the boy that won is 15" were to no avail.
Fast forward to today and nothing's changed. All grown up now DS plays in a couple of chamber groups as well as working as a solo recitalist. (All livestream ATM) ExH only really bothers with the solo stuff. He watches the chamber music online but doesn't put himself out to attend live performances. Solo recitals or livestreams he messages around all his friends and relations, organises transport, accomodation etc. So bad is this that when DS made his Wigmore Hall debut last year, he was kicked out of his bedroom at his DF's (he lives with him as he's in London) into an hotel so ex He's friends could be accomodated!

On GCSE results day, my friend text countless people with the subject and grade results as her son had done well. On A level results day we got the same ! She did the same with her next child but not her third as the results weren’t worth bragging about. Just had to endure another bragging session with his degree outcome - we just laugh 😂

I know one who constantly posts her own achievement as if the child did it. "Oh look at this lovely cake my 7 year old baked all by herself"....We all know full well mum did it while the child sat picking her nose and watching TV!

@Plunger

Granddad boasting that his 5 year old grandson could understand a electrical wiring diagram and how to break the circuit. Said child can't even read yet

You don't need to read to have a basic understanding of an electrical circuit, even at 5. All it takes is a lovely grandad and a simple electric set, one that lights up a bulb.

I don’t think I know anyone like that thankfully. Although maybe that means it’s me. 🤣

@lalalatte do we have the same MIL my MIL always said her daughter walked at 10 months.. our DS genuinely started walking at 9 months so MIL backtracked and said hers had walked at 8 months... Was so odd

@Twinkie01

Love threads like this. My boasting about my kids is summed up with me saying I've managed to raise pretty normal kids.

None of my kids ate anything exciting or not beige till they were about 12 and when I mentioned how excited I was that DC ate a satsuma one at age 3 I was told it was disgusting because it was dipped in ketchup and salad cream!!! Got 2 fruits and eggs in that concoction bitch so what if Ophelia eats kale pesto.

I love the pictures of the kids with star of the week certificates (it's done on rotation), the parents who say they've been to parents evening and they're so proud of their kids achieving this that and the other, we all get told that as it's basically what the point of parents evening is 🙄 and the ones that are special, kind, super duper etc etc, all of us think that of our kids and it says more about what's lacking in them as people rather than their children.

Considering my DD didnt get any certificates her first 2 years at school, really struggled with her school work and had trouble with her behaviour at school, I am super proud of her when she gets any certificate even star of the week. Why take these accomplishments away by saying they are in rotation or all teachers say that anyway. We have struggled for so long with my DD and she has had to work so hard to even remotely catch up (even though she is still behind) that star of the week and what the teachers say mean something, none feel like my DD isn't doing as well as I thought and the teachers were just being nice.

I’ve recently come off FB, couldn’t stand all the political rubbish and all this type of children doing normal stuff but blown out of proportion gushing, having lord knows how many photos for every certificate given even though schools now have participation certificates, certificates for turning up and Rotas of who is next.

I used to have some fun on SM taking the mick out of close friends when the themed put these photos up eg saying how sorry I was there kid was in “special mentions” sounds like detention of my day, but my audience was little appreciative.

Oh shut your pie hole. Should parents not be proud of their children? Are you jealous tht your little one isn't as high achieving? You sound like the real life of the party karen

@MustardMitt

The last time I heard one of these was a random woman at a baby group who did a tinkly little laugh and tilted head because HER baby already had a tooth at 4 months and MINE DIDN’T!

She was so proud. Utterly, utterly baffling.

Your child obviously just wasn't trying hard enough ;-)

@Stinkywizzleteets

What are parents allowed to say on their social media accounts about their kids? Just curious...

Anything, in reality. It's just the dreary predictability of some helicopter mums who think that their child is superior to all others in every way and will brook no further opinion - and posts of their achievements on an almost daily basis.

Once every couple of weeks is fine ;-)

@sleeplessinliverpool

Oh shut your pie hole. Should parents not be proud of their children? Are you jealous tht your little one isn't as high achieving? You sound like the real life of the party karen

Lol, you clearly post about the mundane shit your kid does, and expect everyone to be as excited as you. 😂

Toilet training their 6 month old...I'm not even sure that's a thing that can happen?

@GintyMarlow2

24MsTSwift

"If you know you are making others feel jealous and uncomfortable why on earth would you keep banging on then? Your explanation doesn’t show you in a particularly nice light!"

So, am I meant to keep quiet about my grandchildren's achievements then? My grandson recently won a scholarship to a very highly academic school. According to you, I shouldn't tell my wider family in case it makes them feel uncomfortable? Catch yourself on!

Erm, yes. As an adult and not an over-indulged child, you ought to know that it's poor manners to deliberately do things that make other people uncomfortable. Likewise, it's also poor manners to be an insufferable bore. Bragging actually provokes the opposite reaction of what a braggart hopes to achieve. Nobody is impressed by bragging. It is unattractive and tacky and is always done to embellish the truth or hide an insecurity of some sort.

@sleeplessinliverpool

Oh shut your pie hole. Should parents not be proud of their children? Are you jealous tht your little one isn't as high achieving? You sound like the real life of the party karen

Hilarious all the people outing themselves as desperate braggarts about their children.

Mum of child in DD’s class posted daily updates of amazing home schooling, essays with perfect writing, grammar and spelling etc etc by her 7 year old - you wouldn’t think that it’s the same child who’s the class bully with anger issues, and judging by the poorly spelled threatening note she left in my dd’s bag, it really isn’t. Maybe a link between pressure from parent and anger issues?

I’m guilty of this. My DC is 3 and non verbal. Two days ago he said ‘I want coke, not clear stuff!’ He’s never said anything other than occasional babbles.

I bragged all over Facebook, Instagram and Twitter! And now mumsnet it seems

@MarchingOnTogether

I know one who constantly posts her own achievement as if the child did it. "Oh look at this lovely cake my 7 year old baked all by herself"....We all know full well mum did it while the child sat picking her nose and watching TV!

I have a friend who swore blind her DD could make cakes from age 2 - as in do everything herself, with my friend just taking cake in and out the oven.

She tells people that when her DD was 3 she made their wedding cake yeah right! I want to tell her she sounds ridiculous

I guess it depends what people see as high achieving and important. Dd1 is very academic and focused, she got 100% in her year 6 Sats and still didn’t get a bloody certificate which is why I think they’re utterly worthless. At secondary there are clear targets that get you a certificate so if you work hard you are rewarded and it’s awesome.

Ofcourse, I do, but not for eveyone to be excited, just to tell the world I am excited. Couldn't care less if others are not excited. It is my choice. Sorry about your less than average kids that don't do shit that get you excited.

@GlummyMcGlummerson my 8 year old twins made biscuits and apple crumble themselves during lockdown. Dh and I were working full time so I set out the ingredients and gave them the recipes then called out encouragement while I was on mute in Teams meetings.

Haha @sleeplessinliverpool you can be excited about a dc achievement without being a knob about it.