conceited and judgemental DH

[Purplelemon7]

I would love to hear from anyone who is with a person who is quite judgemental and conceited.

My DH has lots of nice qualities but this is his biggest flaw. He rarely has anything nice to say about anyone and is always looking down on other people. It’s a family trait as his mother and his siblings all hold themselves in exceptionally high regard. It effects our relationship because I worry that he’s judging me and doesn’t think much of me. He rarely ever compliments me but does compliment himself a fair bit. He does have a lot going for him so it’s not unjustified but it is strange. I didn’t really pick up on it in the early days because when he was courting he was obviously saying a lot of very nice things to me. As time goes on though he’s stopped doing that and it’s starting to really getting to me.

Has anyone experienced anything similar?

It’s interesting that you say that your mum plays down compliments - I wonder if you’ve picked up that from her. I think you need some balance as I don’t think your mum’s is the right way either. Imagine you pay someone a compliment and each time they brush it off, you’d soon stop bothering. The best response to a compliment is “thank you”

I know this isn’t really answering your OP, but I think it’s relevant.

Anyway, you can’t change another person you can only change yourself - you need to change your reaction to his boasting and maybe he’ll tone it down.